THE GUYS have worked hard to be fair, honest and thoughtful when writing all of our posts. That’s been our trademark since we launched this site. And that’s what has attracted our readers to us.
But we also don’t believe difficult topics should be ignored, as you read in our three posts about “Cheating.” We offered three different perspectives coming from three different sets of experiences. A tough topic indeed, but one that invited positive dialogue and resulted in many questions submitted to us.
This is what we’re about. Creating a forum for discussion that lends itself to growth and understanding. But it doesn’t always work out that way based on the comments section in our most recent post. (We pulled it. A business decision, not an editorial one.)
Differing opinions, even when direct, harsh, strong or unadulterated are part of all of us. We don’t have to look further than Washington to witness this in its full blown glory. If you turn on the TV or radio, or pick up a paper or magazine, you’ll see it. It’s everywhere. It’s part of us. We have opinions, strong opinions and we all want to voice them.
We stand behind our guest writers. They brought a topic to our attention that we thought might be interesting to explore, so we gave our opinion and offered space for our two guests to give their opinions. Their opinions were different than ours, but we felt it was a good thing for our readers to get a taste of varying perspectives. Isn’t it better to be in the know, than not?
The last thing we’ll say is, guys in general have been called every name in the book. Meathead, bozo, dickhead, asshole, etc. We’ve been stereotyped in every sitcom as lazy, not very good at listening and not in touch with our feelings. We laugh right along with these jokes because even though we’re guys, that’s NOT US! Somehow we always have the sense it’s the other guy they’re making fun of.
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The Boyfriend
From this woman's perspective, The Boyfriend is, quite simply, the
husband in training. Having The Boyfriend allows The Girlfriend to show
the world that she is desirable as future wife material. Dates are
merely the testing and training grounds for eventual marriage. One date
only with a Boy means that he has none of the qualities one desires in
a husband. Two to four dates means that he has potential, but
apparently can not, or will not be taught, and, regrettably must be
dumped. More than four dates strikes gold. The Boyfriend must be
strong, must love children and animals, be willing to sit through chick
flicks, and be supportive, but never clingy. He should dress well, but
never, ever outshine The Girlfriend. He must have a good sense of
humor, but refrain from lewd comments and off-color jokes. He is
someone The Girlfriend is proud to introduce to her friends and must
never, never, NEVER embarrass her in their presence. He needn't be the
most handsome guy on the planet, nor the best built, but he should
present himself in his best possible light. Every once in a great
while, he may look a slob, but this is only so that The Girlfriend may
scold him, wherein he must be properly apologetic and allow her to "fix
him up."
The Boyfriend should have a good job, or at least, the potential for a
good job, and ambition is a definite plus. If that ambition involves
guitars and strobe lights and fog machines on a stage, The Girlfriend
should realize that The Boyfriend may never grow up, and The
Relationship must be properly scrutinized. If he has met every other
criteria, he may still be acceptable, but The Girlfriend will find ways
to push him into a more lucrative ambition.
The Boyfriend is a credit to The Girlfriend and will be properly
rewarded when she sees fit. And the rewards will be great, and well
worth the time and effort The Boyfriend puts into their relationship.