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What would you like to be woken up by?
Being woken up out of a sound sleep is probably one of the least pleasant things that can happen. However, after several days without power earlier this week, Sae and his family were woken up in the middle of the night by all of their lights coming back on. This got us thinking. What wouldn’t we mind (other than the obvious) being woken up for? We put the question out to our Facebook and Twitter (@TGPBuzz) followers and we share some of their very interesting responses.

The Meat: Our Mane Topic
Well it’s No Shave November again and it got us thinking about both the current trend in big beards and the fascination with body waxing. Is it all or nothing?

Ask the Guys:
Jane asks, “We’re finished, right?”
Rachel wonders, “What does he mean when he says he wants a future with me?”
Ali asks, “Is this a booty call or serious relationship?”

And…
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Also, check out our latest podcast Episode 33: Dating questions, dentist fees, pet peeves.  The Guy’s Perspective Podcast.

Here are the six relationship questions we answered on on our latest podcast:

Sarah is beginning to have a change of heart. Now that her man wants to introduce her to his family, she’s unsure how she feels about it.

Dan wonders whether or not he’s being played by the single mom he has recently started dating.

Miss Lady’s boyfriend turned down a trip to Vegas with her, but after his guy friends ask him he’s all in. Now what?

Jenny’s man cheated on her with seven to ten different women, but she still loves him. Why would he do that?

Emily has an admirer, at least that’s what her loving friends tell her. Are they right she wonders?

Riya is confused about a guy from work. They date; he decides it’s not going to work; but then he keeps texting even after she’s moved on. She is curious why he still is trying to be “friends.”

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TGP Episode 33: Dating questions, dentist fees, pet peeves

This Week’s questions:

Break up confusion; will he come back

Here are last week’s questions:

Is he stubborn or just not that into me?

The Gym Guy: Is he interested?

Sex after child

Is he playing me?

Dating and Deployment: Should I start a relationship?

Dear Guys,

First of all I am 23, divorced with two kids. I left my ex because he was a liar and a cheater. When I was 17 before I met the father of my children I liked this guy from the moment I saw him. I made it clear to some mutual friends I liked him. Finally he asked me to hang out and I went to his house. I was surprised that he put the moves on me right away. We had sex all night and into the morning. We hung out one more time and it seemed to me that we had this amazing connection- both mental and physical. Then he just blew me off and I was devastated.

Then last July I was out with a girl friend and ran into him. He grabbed me hugged me and said he had been thinking about me and dreaming about me and was surprised to see me. He pulled me outside and we talked about life for a long time. I could tell he was very genuine and he apologized for hurting me before. He called the next week and we hung out at a concert. Then he invited me to his house. I went, and of course we started messing around but he did not try to have sex with me. Instead I pushed him to it.

After that we went camping together and he was very sweet and romantic. We spent a couple of nights or one night a week with him and hung out at concerts for 4 months but we never discussed what we were. So I gave him space and he gave me mine. Then we both had some jealousy issues and he stopped hanging out with me.

I told him I thought he was amazing and that if he didn’t want me getting attached he should have never held my hand at night and kissed my forehead or played love songs on his guitar. He said he wanted to take it slow. Now five months later he is talking to me and we started sleeping together again. Once again we have not discussed us. I am afraid to ask because I feel like he is scared of his feelings for me. When we spend time together I can say I have never been happier with any other man. I feel like we are meant for each other and when we lay together in bed the feelings are so overwhelming I almost cry.  What should I do? I feel like he is just young and needs time to come around! He is fine with my kids and very loving to them. I told him that I fell for him before I had kids. And I said to him that if he didn’t feel the same he should treat me like he is treating me.

He must know what he is doing to me? How can I tell this boy how I feel without scaring him away? He is the free spirited type likes to stay busy camping, hiking, and snow boarding.

Thanks,

Anias

Dear Anias,

Thanks for writing to us.

So let’s get this straight. You’ve met a guy you really like but he’s giving you mixed signals and you’re not completely sure where he stands? Also, you’re not sure if you have a relationship with him, or if he’s just having fun?

You don’t say how old he is but we’ll assume he’s around your age, which puts him at 23. That’s pretty young for a guy to be ready to jump head first into a somewhat complicated situation, which yours is. He may be great with your kids, but that doesn’t mean he’s ready to be a parental figure. So regardless of how he may or may not feel about you, you bring more variables into a relationship than the typical 23 year old woman. That doesn’t mean that there are no guys ready to take on a single mom with two kids, it just means that most guys at 23 won’t be ready.

It sounds like you have a very strong connection with this guy and that’s a wonderful thing. But make sure these feelings are based on more than sex, because you have two beautiful children that are your first priority. Whomever you bring into the fold needs to be a great role model for your kids, as well as a wonderful partner for you. This boy(your words)sounds like a lot of fun. But hanging out with him from time to time doesn’t paint the entire picture. You need to consider seriously what kind of partner he might be for the long haul, especially since you want someone who’s going to be a solid and consistent presence for your kids.

If you truly feel like you love this boy what do you have to lose by telling him how you feel? Giving him space isn’t giving you any answers. You’re catering to him and making it easy for him. Right now he is doing whatever he wants, and then when the mood hits him, he gets to have you too.  This scenario doesn’t seem to benefit you very much.

If you tell him how you feel and he freaks out then you’ll have your answer. However he responds you’ll know more than you do now. Don’t be afraid of information Anias. It’s better than ignoring the situation because you’re scared of what might happen. If he’s not ready then it’s time to move on, even if it’s very sad. In the end it will be better for you.

We’re sorry this is so confusing and hard. And we wish you the best.

Good luck,

THE GUYS

Please share. Pick one or several.

1. What you find creepy

2. Favorite Halloween Story

3. A creepy story

4. A scary story

We’re recording the next podcast soon, and want to share your stories. If you shared on the past post about Creepy, we’ve already got you in the queue.

Leave us a comment here, or a note through our contact page.

Thanks,
THE GUYS

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So now for our next installment of “THE CURSE.”

Written by THE GUYS

We knew this post was possibly a loaded gun, but we felt it was necessary to march forward. Don’t let semantics close your mind. This is a curse that is not visible to the naked eye.

When guys hit puberty their life mission changes. They move from bikes, candy and playdates, to, um…bigger bikes, candy and playdates. They now are constantly on the lookout for females of  every shape and size. This means that every decision they make, whether it’s taking a job, or playing on a team, or going to a particular car wash, has something to do with meeting, or interacting with women. Yes, even helping Aunt Gertrude with her garden. (Hey the neighbor is pretty cute!)

So imagine a balloon being filled with air for five, ten or maybe twenty years. Now all of a sudden the air is shut off and the balloon is let go, to zig and zag endlessly in the sky,  like a jet plane taking its time to crash. Picture that and then understand what men go through when they finally find THE ONE. Even as they project calm and coolness to everyone observing them, their insides are that balloon careening out of control.

That’s the best we can explain what it’s like for a married guy. The curse is that balloon inside of him. The balloon tells him he should still be searching even though he’s happy. The balloon makes him do stupid stuff. The balloon makes him go golfing with his buddies, only later to realize he’s been neglectful. The balloon then convinces him to buy flowers. (Bad timing) And then the balloon causes his mouth to say all the wrong words. Damn that balloon!!

But eventually the balloon runs out of air, and the married guy settles down, buys a home, and thinks about the next step. And that’s when his belly of complacency grows. Literally!! He’s happy. He’s content. Harmony has been achieved, but so has apathy. Weekend movies, and summer ice cream jaunts, and several beers before bed make him happy. And this happiness is measured very concretely by his waistline. The married guy is no longer on the prowl. Sure he still looks around, and talks smack, and makes jokes, but he knows he’s not going anywhere. And as this apathy takes root, so does his belly, because he no longer needs to look svelte and smooth. The curse continues.

Soon this complacency backfires. As his stomach grows larger and larger, his nether region shrinks and shrinks and his wife then wonders what happened to her man’s, um…..man. But he’s almost happy about his diminishing form. He says to himself, “That thing has only been trouble anyway. It’s better out of sight. And then maybe it will be out of mind too!” But then the impossible happens. Just as he’s settling down into a comfortable routine he gets the news that will forever change his life.

Now the real terror begins. And the balloon starts filling with air again.

Next installment: Curse of the Father.

Any thoughts on married men? Have you seen this curse in action?

Dear Guys,

What is the deal with guys? Why can’t they buy gifts? Do Guys think they are exempt from buying once they are married or with a long term partner?”

Cindy (name changed in case hubby reads)

Dear Cindy,

The partial truth is, YES!

But the whole truth is, we are only accomplices. We might be completely overwhelmed by it all or we might just be good at  playing dumb, but the bottom line is, women are enablers in this predicament and for good reason. Many women feel it’s easier to do it themselves, or so we’ve been told!

So yes, guys don’t get gifts much. We will absolutely try to get out of whatever we can when it comes to thinking up ideas, following through with the ideas(shopping), and then wrapping them up. But mostly because we’re given a free pass.

Free passes are usually given for three reasons.

1. Pity: This situation involves a Guy who is either inept or pretending to be inept at anything to do with gift giving. His wife or partner just feels badly for him. Of course if this goes on for too long it leads to our next reason…..

2. Disgust: The Guy has shown that he’s not only bad at gift giving he’s actually semi-offensive or at least not romantic. His idea of a good present for the women in his life is a blender, a vacuum or an exercise tape…..that his partner DIDN’T ask for!

3. Whatever: This is actually the worst of the free passes…..for the guy. It comes to this when a woman realizes it’s just easier to do it herself. But of course this is laced with annoyance and sometimes resentment.

So yes Cindy, we are certainly pretty lame when it comes to gift giving, but women need to stop enabling us . Make your guy, MAN UP!

Something to keep in mind. If your Guy was able to graduate high school and college, get a job, convince you to be with him, he certainly is clever or smart enough to think of gifts, buy them and wrap them. Or at least pay someone to do it for him.

We see two solutions to this problem. One would be let your man fail. Certainly not with the kids, but maybe with his own family or even you. Yes, you. If that happens you can constantly remind him why a new fishing pole was not on your list. He might get the hint and learn by next holiday season.

The second solution, which may be a more positive one, is to involve him. If he won’t take the initiative you might have to. Sit him down and have a discussion. If he’s not actually lazy, but just kind of clueless, then give him a list of jobs to do. He probably will comply even if he grumbles a bit. The more he’s involved the more he may change his behavior. Of course this is a five year plan, so take it a step at a time.

One word of warning. Relationships work with good communication and understanding. We don’t suggest making this a power struggle. Anytime you withhold “other” things it will only make matters worse. Guys don’t respond well to perceived threats. It just makes us more stubborn and boorish.

So start your plans soon. The holidays always come faster than you think.

THE GUYS

I love going to the bank in my town. The obvious reason is, it makes me happy to deposit money. But the behind the scenes reason is, the young women working there are very friendly and quite cute. After I leave, my day is just a little better.

I don’t keep secrets from my wife. Even if I tried, I’m terrible at deception. She thinks my bank forays are funny. She rolls her eyes when I say I’m going to do errands. She knows this includes a visit to my favorite brick and mortar institution. But she also knows I’m invisible to the young cuties. I know this too. No matter how cool I try to be, I still drive up to the drive thru in my silver mini van. Yes, I’m invisible.

Just yesterday I was there and one of the “girls” was eating something. I asked her how her lunch was. She laughed.

She said, “We’re short staffed today so we don’t get lunch. I have to eat while I work.”

I said, “Well that’s a drag.” (This is me trying to be cool)

She said, “Yeah, but at least it was free. The manager of the Chinese place across the street is a customer and he brought over lunch for all of us.”

I said, “Sweet.” (Me still trying to work the coolness)

She said, “Have a nice day.”

As I drove off, I started thinking about how unfair that was. I mean she shouldn’t lose her lunch just because they’re short staffed. That seemed pretty lame. Then it dawned on me. This is perfect. I love this. This is going to be my new catch phrase. Short staffed.

When my kids come from school demanding a snack or dinner I’m going to say, “Sorry, we’re a bit short staffed today. You’ll have to fend for yourselves.”

Or when my wife asks me to go grocery shopping I’m going to say, “Yeah, that’s going to be tough. You know, short staffed and all.”

I mean is this perfect or what?!!! I love this. This works in any situation:

For the neighbor who bugs you about your leaves blowing on their lawn.
For the friend who wants you to help him with his computer.
For your mother that wonders why you don’t call her every day.
For THE GUYS who bug ME about responding to questions.

It’s the perfect saying for all occasions. And I give all of you permission to use it whenever it suits you. Just give me and THE GUYS credit when appropriate.

However, GUYS, please don’t be unclear on the concept.

If your girlfriend or wife or partner is feeling a bit randy and wants to get busy, but you’re not feeling it at the moment, that is not the time to say:

“I’m a bit short staffed.”

“ONE of THE GUYS”

I’m learning more and more that people really do have very different views on what’s funny. That’s weird to me, since I’m pretty sure I know what is and isn’t funny. But maybe I don’t.

Take “30 Rock”  that show with Alec Baldwin and Tina Fey. Now I know this is going to ruffle some feathers, but I just don’t get it. I was at a holiday party last night and this guy kept going on about Alec Baldwin this and Alec Baldwin that. Well you know what? Alec Baldwin is mildly amusing, but he’s not funny. He just isn’t.

I have tried to watch that show on several occasions mainly because I’m a Tina Fey fan. She was wicked funny on SNL, but not really on “30 Rock.” The writing is just ordinary, and these days with so many choices, ordinary just doesn’t cut it. Good stories draw you in. They help you forget your troubles and make you believe in their world. But with that show, I found myself writing my “To Do List” on the coffee table.

The other thing that got me thinking about what is and isn’t funny was a botched collaboration attempt with a friend, for our comic strip, “The Malaprops.”

I asked my friend to be a guest illustrator and I sent him a few scripts. Instead of just a simple no or yes, I got a dissertation on the “correct” way to write a comic along with revisions. You can imagine my response. No it wasn’t that bad. We’re buddies. But it made me realize that two people truly can have completely different view points on humor. I know this is no amazing revelation, but I just assumed humor was obvious. Apparently it’s not!

So what or whom do I think is funny?

Chelsea Handler on “Chelsea Lately.” Her monologues are just OK, but her biting wit on the round table is priceless. And of course there’s Chuey.

Seinfeld. The writing is masterful. And the cast. Perfect frankly.

C.S. Lewis. The Screwtape Letters. Wicked!

Dilbert. I’m amazed that the strip is funny day in and day out.

The Hangover. I laughed out loud……..Four times. That’s rare.

The Colbert Report. What’s so funny, is that I never quite know if he’s serious. He keeps me guessing.

Richard Pryor, before he lit himself on fire.

Kids. Not necessarily my kids, although I think they’re funny, but kids in general. Their enthusiasm just cracks me up!

Monty Python. At least I used to think it was hysterical. I watched the “Holy Grail” with my oldest a few months ago and I still thought it was good, but not as good as I remember. Maybe it had something to do with the fact that it was my 30th time watching it. Oh damn, that number keeps coming up.

So maybe funny can’t really by pinned down. It wouldn’t do well in the UFC Octagon because it can’t be forced into submission. It’s subtle and nuanced just as we are. And clearly our sense of it changes over time as we “evolve” and grow.

But damn, “30 Rock” just isn’t funny!

Please share what’s funny to you.

And will SOMEBODY PLEASE enlighten me on this “30 Rock” thing. I truly would like to follow the masses. I’m all about being a worker bee.

“ONE of THE GUYS”

I was over at Momversation earlier today and one of the Blog posts was about what to get your Guy for the holidays. I then saw a list of very cool gadgets and man toys that seemed like a lot of fun. But ladies seriously, that’s not what we want. So I felt it my duty to tell you what we really hope to get  for the holidays.

But let’s first discuss why toys and gadgets aren’t a guy’s first choice. Two simple words will give you the answer to this question: Time and Money.

Money:
It’s difficult to buy us a great gift without us feeling like we’re paying for it ourselves. We feel this way even if we share all the monetary responsibilities with our partner. We still see the item on the next credit card bill, which causes us much stress. Knowing that our present comes from the same kitty that pays the mortgage, the household bills and the kids’ college fund takes most of the fun out of it for us. Money is tight these days, so we can do without that cool watch or new video game or engraved knife or slick pair of shoes.

Time:
Even if we love the gift, often we don’t have time to use it or play with it. We’re usually working. And if we’re not working we want to spend time with the kids and see you. So in theory a new toy is great, but in reality it will likely get a brief work out, only to sit idle for the next fifty one weeks of the year.

But THE GUYS and I do have a solution for all of this.

And this should be obvious, but sometimes it just isn’t.

We want YOU for the holidays!!!

Yes, that’s right. A special night or nights with you. Or even a special day. One we don’t have to BEG for.

No kids. No interruptions.

This doesn’t mean you have to fulfill our every fantasy. But if you’re giving that away too, we’ll take it.

So what can you actually wrap up?

I’ll leave that up to your festive imagination. THE GUYS and I know you are infinitely more creative than we are, so dream something up. Surprise us. We’re pretty easy!

So when you ask your man what he wants for the holidays he might tell you this item or that, but he’s really just thinking, YOU!

We discussed Magic in our previous post. Well this is certainly one way of keeping the Magic alive!

Guys and Gals: Do you have any great ideas to share? Please enlighten us and our readers.

PS. You can always check out our new Merchandise on our website. There might be an item your guy would enjoy seeing you in.

The stuff is great quality, so we’ve been told by people who’ve actually purchased them. Just an FYI!!

Driving to my in-laws house over Thanksgiving is no fun. Once I’m there, it’s great, but the traffic going down is hell. Not nail biting hell, just annoying as hell.

Imagine this. Three lane highway. All three lanes full of traffic. For miles.

So I’m driving on one major highway and I need to get in the right lane to merge on to another highway. I assess the situation and I know I’m confronted with three choices. (Remember these choices. They will come into play later!)

Choice 1: Merge as soon as I can, which would put me in the right lane about a mile back from the exit.

Choice 2: Move over somewhere around the half mile mark, hopefully in front of a truck that’s left some space in front of it.

Choice 3: Speed in the middle lane and cut in as close to the exit as possible.

I won’t lie to you, the first choice just isn’t me.  I’m not patient enough when I drive. I should be. It would be better for my health that’s for sure! But although I’m generally a kind enough soul, I have an aggressive streak that occasionally comes out on the road.  Where I live, it’s eat or be eaten. I try to eat.

So as I’m driving down for Thanksgiving, to my surprise and my wife’s, I pull over about the 3/4 mile mark. She just looks at me. She likes driving…grew up with cars…her dad, brother. They all know about cars. I know nothing, but at least I drive like them.

I say to her, “What?!!”

She says, “Do you need to get your testosterone levels checked?”

I say, “I just didn’t feel like being an ass……..”

She says, “Oh really.”

I say, “Yeah. I just can’t stomach it anymore.”

She nods. I nod. We drive.

After arriving at our destination and decompressing for a bit, I was talking to her brother and telling the story I just relayed to all of you. We were laughing about it saying it was the perfect “Guy Barometer.” Each choice gives a woman a pretty good indication of whom she’s dealing with. And no choice is better than the other, just different.

(Keep in mind that these are generalizations. Individuals may vary!)

Choice 1/The Early Merger: Likely to be kind, patient. An all around good guy. Might be boring. Methodical. Possibly a handyman. Book smart. Slow moving…..apply that how you want. Responsible.

Choice 3/The Last Minute Cutter: Aggressive and proud of it. Not patient. Goes for it. Probably has money. Could be a good guy, but also could be a total, you know what! Not handy, but handsy. Street smart. Fast moving…..apply how you want. Risk Taker.

Choice 2: Any combination of above. But he might be worried about what other’s think too much, including you.  However, he could also be a mystery worth unraveling.

So here’s what we’re suggesting. Give your man the driving test!!

It’s often hard to tell after a few dates what your new man is really like. So go for a drive during rush hour or some other crazy time to be on the road and watch what happens. Watch him while he’s sitting, moving and most importantly merging to get off an exit.

You will learn more from from that drive than you will from any advice book you’ll ever read.

So give it a try and please report back. THE GUYS and I want to know.

“ONE of THE GUYS”

ps. Please share any of your traffic or road experiences with us, as they may or may not relate to your relationship. We’d love to hear from you.

It was about two years ago when I realized I had become obsolete.

One day, while my kids were talking and laughing with their friends,  I listened and smiled in the background. I enjoyed their laughter and banter. But my smile soon faded when I realized I had no idea what they were talking about. I had no idea whom they were referencing and what they were alluding to. All the cool things I used to do and know were clearly no longer cool, replaced by all these new things. In that moment,  I realized I had become a dinosaur and it frightened me. I didn’t like knowing I was headed down the path of the Dodo Bird or the great Woolly Mammoth.

I winced and weighed my options.  I could either GET CURRENT or become extinct. I chose the former and got to work.

First I took stock of everything I had kept up on. Let’s see, I knew who was president. I knew about American Idol and all the reality TV shows. I managed to know what an MP3 file was somehow, and….um……that was basically it. So now I made a list of all the areas I needed to get up to speed in: music, technology, sports, art, the internet and current lingo. That was a good start. WOW, that was a ton of stuff to consume!

But the hard part was still in front of me. Where was I going to get the “right” info? The rest of THE GUYS were as clueless as me. I realized I had to find the source.  And then it suddenly became clear to me. The source came in the form of young people! They were up on all the current trends. They were the demographic SETTING all the trends. So my education began.

Being a teacher helped me a ton in my quest to become current. I had access to all the young minds I could ever want. I just needed to keep my trap shut so I could learn from all of them. And that’s what I did. Sure I gave my lessons, but at the end of each session, I’d ask a few open ended questions to find out about them, and what they were up to. My questions ranged from the general, “What’s going on in your life?” to the specific, “What can you tell me about…so and so?”

I was amazed at how well my inquiries were received. The simple act of asking a question immediately opened up channels that seemed so impossibly closed. What I was doing unintentionally, was acknowledging their expertise  and thus leveling the playing field. What was once a monologue became a dialogue, which was so much more interesting and educational for both of us!

The long and short of all this is, over the course of a year, I slowly caught up to the present and became “current” and had a ton of fun doing it.

So I fast forward to the present.

These days, I work hard to keep current and stay curious. I attempt to listen as much as I can and learn from the young people who surround me, including my own family. And I keep the lines of communication open. That’s my best ally to avoiding the path of extinction, and my best ally to having a solid relationship with the people I care for the most.

And you know what?  My kids are now including me in their fun conversations.  And even better, I  understand what they’re saying!

“ONE of THE GUYS”

Have you kept current? Please share your discoveries!

A special bonus. Here are some cool things that some of my younger friends are up to. Be sure to check out their talent.

War Tapes (The best Doom Pop group on the planet)

Louise Rose Designs (Cool custom jewelry and accessories)

Astonishing Tales (Intelligent, introspective and catchy)

Project Erik (Slick animation on You Tube)

Kira Jeannee (Piano music that will move you)

Titanic Piano 14 (Funky, jazzy piano that rocks)

Rock of Main St. (The coolest venue for young bands)

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Guys,

My new live in boyfriend is always  bringing some reading material into the bathroom with him. He loves to linger and hang out. Is this normal? It’s a little strange and kind of gross.

S    (Rest of name withheld. Understandably so!)

Dear S,

Too funny! The answer is yes, this is totally normal for GUYS. So no worries. Of course, we can’t answer the real question for you. Is it turning you off?

We love reading on the can. It’s our way of multi-tasking, but also relaxing. Newspapers, magazines, books, anything. It’s one of the few times of the day, where we can just sit, uninterrupted. We take our time and we enjoy it. So rest assured, your boyfriend is “ONE of THE GUYS!”

But there is a bonus for you too. You can use this as ammunition the next time your guy says he can’t put away the dishes because he’s watching the game. You say, “If you can read and use the toilet at the same time, you can watch the TV in the kitchen and put the dishes away.” And he will mutter to himself. “Damn…busted.”

However, one note. It isn’t sound practice to read for too long on the toilet. It’s definitely not good for the bowels in general. Have your boyfriend check out these sites for more info on health and etiquette.

BBC

Esquire: Answer Fellah

Also some funny toilet pictures.

Funny Toilet Pictures

Funny Toilet Gallery

We hope some of our women readers will chime in and give you some more input. And finally we’re wondering, do any of our women readers partake?

THE GUYS