Comments for The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com We're fresh, in a good way.™ Thu, 23 Feb 2012 01:48:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice: Getting Played- Listen to your friends by TT http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-and-dating-advice-getting-played-part-2-listen-to-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-77779 TT Thu, 23 Feb 2012 01:48:49 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2966#comment-77779 Thanks for the reply advise guys, guess ill feel better after telling him, no matter what his reaction .. :) Thanks for the reply advise guys, guess ill feel better after telling him, no matter what his reaction .. :)

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice: Getting Played- Listen to your friends by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-and-dating-advice-getting-played-part-2-listen-to-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-77533 One of the Guys Wed, 22 Feb 2012 20:09:11 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2966#comment-77533 @TT....We're sorry you're feeling so down. But one of the reasons you're feeling down is that you have regret over not telling this guy how you feel. And regret eats away at you. Typically we say "Listen to your Friends"—we even made a video on the topic–because they often can see something you can't, or aren't able to. We don't know this guy and whether or not he's worthy of you. But we can say that if you really wish you had told him how you feel, then it's not too late to do so. It's never too late to tell someone how you feel about them. And while we can't guarantee that you'll get the response from him that you desire we can tell you that you'll feel a whole lot less regret. And if it works out great. If it doesn't, we think you'll be better able to move on knowing you did everything in your power to make it work. Hope this helps. Good luck. We're pulling for you! @TT….We’re sorry you’re feeling so down. But one of the reasons you’re feeling down is that you have regret over not telling this guy how you feel. And regret eats away at you. Typically we say “Listen to your Friends”—we even made a video on the topic–because they often can see something you can’t, or aren’t able to. We don’t know this guy and whether or not he’s worthy of you. But we can say that if you really wish you had told him how you feel, then it’s not too late to do so. It’s never too late to tell someone how you feel about them. And while we can’t guarantee that you’ll get the response from him that you desire we can tell you that you’ll feel a whole lot less regret. And if it works out great. If it doesn’t, we think you’ll be better able to move on knowing you did everything in your power to make it work. Hope this helps. Good luck. We’re pulling for you!

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice: Getting Played- Listen to your friends by TT http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-and-dating-advice-getting-played-part-2-listen-to-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-77525 TT Wed, 22 Feb 2012 19:28:28 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2966#comment-77525 Hi guys Well this is a long story and I don't know where to begin.. The first year of uni I met this amazing guy who I fell in love with at first sight... I never expected anything to happen.. but he asked me out of the blue. so we started going out , and I could not work this guy out.. then i heard some friends telling me his using me for sex.. which was a possibility because he always was busy during the day... and didn't make an effort to spend time. Anyway he didn't like all the drama of me talking about the relationship with my girl mates, so we drifted apart and didn't talk about how things ended ... and now? all I can think about is him .. I keep regretting that I never told him how I feel I wanted to but all my friends advised me not to. Now all I wish for is that I did ... should I tell him now after a year? or is it too late? ... I feel like I've got nothing left to lose since I have already lost the will to live... P.S he said to one of my friends recently that he should have married me... and my friend told him that he does not deserve me so he went bright red and left the room for a smoke ... I can never work this guy out. Desperate sole :( Hi guys

Well this is a long story and I don’t know where to begin..

The first year of uni I met this amazing guy who I fell in love with at first sight… I never expected anything to happen.. but he asked me out of the blue. so we started going out , and I could not work this guy out.. then i heard some friends telling me his using me for sex.. which was a possibility because he always was busy during the day… and didn’t make an effort to spend time. Anyway he didn’t like all the drama of me talking about the relationship with my girl mates, so we drifted apart and didn’t talk about how things ended …
and now? all I can think about is him .. I keep regretting that I never told him how I feel I wanted to but all my friends advised me not to. Now all I wish for is that I did … should I tell him now after a year? or is it too late? … I feel like I’ve got nothing left to lose since I have already lost the will to live…
P.S he said to one of my friends recently that he should have married me… and my friend told him that he does not deserve me so he went bright red and left the room for a smoke … I can never work this guy out.

Desperate sole :(

]]> Comment on My boyfriend is on dating sites; Is he cheating? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/my-boyfriend-is-on-dating-sites-is-he-cheating/comment-page-1/#comment-77516 One of the Guys Wed, 22 Feb 2012 18:51:24 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4915#comment-77516 @Anne.......We don't think it's a big deal for him to put up a dating profile AFTER the two of you broke up. As long as it was actually AFTER. (If it was during the time you were dating then you need to absolutely move on.) Doing something like Match dot com is easy. It does the work for you, especially if you don't have a lot of time to go out to the bars, or to parties to try and meet people. So in that sense he's telling the truth. A dating profile is like window shopping without having to actually spend your money. It's a good way to see what's out there and to see how well you'll be received. Sure a lot of people have success online dating but it can just be a casual and fun thing as well. But that's a separate issue than you getting back together with him. The question is, do you really trust him? What do you believe? And do you think he's really changed, or is he just lonely? We can't answer that for you, but your gut will tell you what to do. (Check out our videos on Trusting your Gut, and Listening to your Friends. They might help) Good luck Anne. @Anne…….We don’t think it’s a big deal for him to put up a dating profile AFTER the two of you broke up. As long as it was actually AFTER. (If it was during the time you were dating then you need to absolutely move on.) Doing something like Match dot com is easy. It does the work for you, especially if you don’t have a lot of time to go out to the bars, or to parties to try and meet people. So in that sense he’s telling the truth. A dating profile is like window shopping without having to actually spend your money. It’s a good way to see what’s out there and to see how well you’ll be received. Sure a lot of people have success online dating but it can just be a casual and fun thing as well. But that’s a separate issue than you getting back together with him. The question is, do you really trust him? What do you believe? And do you think he’s really changed, or is he just lonely? We can’t answer that for you, but your gut will tell you what to do. (Check out our videos on Trusting your Gut, and Listening to your Friends. They might help) Good luck Anne.

]]> Comment on My boyfriend is on dating sites; Is he cheating? by anne http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/my-boyfriend-is-on-dating-sites-is-he-cheating/comment-page-1/#comment-77485 anne Wed, 22 Feb 2012 16:47:28 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4915#comment-77485 I have a similar issue. I broke up with my boyfriend after dating him for a year and half over a misunderstanding. We had been in college together but he graduated and moved away to for his job. We got back together but he was constantly stressed out about his job and I was stressed out at school. Things weren't great and we took a break but he broke up with me. Right after, he started a dating profile on a site. I was confused because he said he couldn't handle a relationship and could no longer do the long distance. I took the break up pretty hard. 2 weeks ago, he decided to show up at my front door to try and win me back. Said he had a sudden realization that he shouldn't have broken up with me because things were stressful. He said he is willing to work through the long distance this time. I still love him, but I want to know why did someone who said they have no time, start a dating profile? I asked him this, but he said he just wanted to feel attractive again or get over me as soon as possible. My friends are against me taking him back, because this would be the third time. I don't know if he is being sincere or going back to a comfort zone. What is going on in his head? I have a similar issue. I broke up with my boyfriend after dating him for a year and half over a misunderstanding. We had been in college together but he graduated and moved away to for his job. We got back together but he was constantly stressed out about his job and I was stressed out at school. Things weren’t great and we took a break but he broke up with me. Right after, he started a dating profile on a site. I was confused because he said he couldn’t handle a relationship and could no longer do the long distance. I took the break up pretty hard. 2 weeks ago, he decided to show up at my front door to try and win me back. Said he had a sudden realization that he shouldn’t have broken up with me because things were stressful. He said he is willing to work through the long distance this time. I still love him, but I want to know why did someone who said they have no time, start a dating profile? I asked him this, but he said he just wanted to feel attractive again or get over me as soon as possible. My friends are against me taking him back, because this would be the third time. I don’t know if he is being sincere or going back to a comfort zone. What is going on in his head?

]]> Comment on He dumped me, we remained friends, is he into me? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/he-dumped-me-we-remained-friends-is-he-into-me/comment-page-1/#comment-77484 One of the Guys Wed, 22 Feb 2012 16:44:11 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2779#comment-77484 @Lilo......We're so sorry that you're feeling so sad about this. Losing someone you love is very hard. But the reason he didn't tell you sooner was because he wanted to be sure of his feelings. What we're reading here is that he cares for you very deeply but he just didn't feel that "feeling" that he wanted to feel. And as soon as he realized this, and was 100% sure, he told you. The best you can do is let yourself feel sad, but then pick yourself up, surround yourself by people who care for you, and try to move on when you're ready. Take care Lilo. And please let us know if we can help in the future. @Lilo……We’re so sorry that you’re feeling so sad about this. Losing someone you love is very hard. But the reason he didn’t tell you sooner was because he wanted to be sure of his feelings. What we’re reading here is that he cares for you very deeply but he just didn’t feel that “feeling” that he wanted to feel. And as soon as he realized this, and was 100% sure, he told you. The best you can do is let yourself feel sad, but then pick yourself up, surround yourself by people who care for you, and try to move on when you’re ready. Take care Lilo. And please let us know if we can help in the future.

]]> Comment on The second time around by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/essays/the-parent-gigepisode-3-the-second-time-around/comment-page-1/#comment-77480 One of the Guys Wed, 22 Feb 2012 16:26:41 +0000 http://www.theparentgig.com/?p=36#comment-77480 @Nancy.....Thank you. @Nancy…..Thank you.

]]> Comment on He dumped me, we remained friends, is he into me? by Lilo http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/he-dumped-me-we-remained-friends-is-he-into-me/comment-page-1/#comment-77470 Lilo Wed, 22 Feb 2012 15:28:12 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2779#comment-77470 Dear Guys, I was recently dating a great guy and we were in a relationship for nearly two months. Everything was great and we were really into one another, enjoying walks, going to restaurants and bars, and staying over at his place. The last weekend I was there, I was just kissing him gently, and he suddenly went very quiet with me. I thought I did something wrong to upset him and I started to cry. I went to rinse my face in the bathroom then came back. He asked if I was OK, and I asked him if I did anything to upset him. He said that I hadn't. But then he hot me with the bombshell that he thought things weren't working out between us. I just completely broke down. He said I was lovely and that he liked me, but he didn't see us as a couple. I had fallen head over heels for this guy, but I'm struggling to understand why he decided to call time on us and why he couldn't have approached me sooner if he didn't want to be in a relationship. I'm so confused, and I agonise because I miss him so much. It's been nearly a month and I'm still thinking about him. Please help me. Lilo Dear Guys,

I was recently dating a great guy and we were in a relationship for nearly two months. Everything was great and we were really into one another, enjoying walks, going to restaurants and bars, and staying over at his place.

The last weekend I was there, I was just kissing him gently, and he suddenly went very quiet with me. I thought I did something wrong to upset him and I started to cry. I went to rinse my face in the bathroom then came back. He asked if I was OK, and I asked him if I did anything to upset him. He said that I hadn’t. But then he hot me with the bombshell that he thought things weren’t working out between us. I just completely broke down. He said I was lovely and that he liked me, but he didn’t see us as a couple.

I had fallen head over heels for this guy, but I’m struggling to understand why he decided to call time on us and why he couldn’t have approached me sooner if he didn’t want to be in a relationship. I’m so confused, and I agonise because I miss him so much. It’s been nearly a month and I’m still thinking about him. Please help me.

Lilo

]]> Comment on The second time around by nancy http://theguysperspective.com/essays/the-parent-gigepisode-3-the-second-time-around/comment-page-1/#comment-77445 nancy Wed, 22 Feb 2012 13:27:47 +0000 http://www.theparentgig.com/?p=36#comment-77445 what a great piece - nicely done! what a great piece – nicely done!

]]> Comment on Confused: I don’t understand this guy’s behavior by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/i-dont-understand-this-guys-behavior/comment-page-1/#comment-77247 One of the Guys Tue, 21 Feb 2012 18:34:50 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2694#comment-77247 @Emily.....Yes, this is confusing. And we've seen this come up a bunch with texting. It sounds like he may have misinterpreted your cancelation as a rejection, when it really wasn't that. So now he's blowing you off. The best thing to do is to try and talk with him face-to-face at some point. Explain what happened and apologize if you think that's appropriate. Hopefully he'll do the same. Because he does owe you an apology for ignoring your texts and not following through with you, and the tentative plans you made. If he continues to ignore you, or blow you off, it's best to move on. He's not worth it. Good luck. @Emily…..Yes, this is confusing. And we’ve seen this come up a bunch with texting. It sounds like he may have misinterpreted your cancelation as a rejection, when it really wasn’t that. So now he’s blowing you off. The best thing to do is to try and talk with him face-to-face at some point. Explain what happened and apologize if you think that’s appropriate. Hopefully he’ll do the same. Because he does owe you an apology for ignoring your texts and not following through with you, and the tentative plans you made. If he continues to ignore you, or blow you off, it’s best to move on. He’s not worth it. Good luck.

]]> Comment on Confused: I don’t understand this guy’s behavior by Emily http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/i-dont-understand-this-guys-behavior/comment-page-1/#comment-77226 Emily Tue, 21 Feb 2012 15:49:43 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2694#comment-77226 An old friend and I recently reconnected through facebook and had been chatting quite a bit and we decided we should meet up somewhere and catch up, just casually hang out, he suggested bowling on a wed. night at 6. Wed. rolls around and I ended up having a family thing come up so I told him a few hours before and he said thats cool how about we reschedule for thurs. or fri. at 6pm, i will call and let you know which day and I will just meet you there. Thay s the last I heard from him....it is now Monday. I texted him fri. just to say hey what time you wanna head to the bowling alley and he never texted back. So yesterday I just sent him a quick message saying hey are you okay, cause this kid is like always on his phone and still no answer...I guess I am just really confused what happened? An old friend and I recently reconnected through facebook and had been chatting quite a bit and we decided we should meet up somewhere and catch up, just casually hang out, he suggested bowling on a wed. night at 6. Wed. rolls around and I ended up having a family thing come up so I told him a few hours before and he said thats cool how about we reschedule for thurs. or fri. at 6pm, i will call and let you know which day and I will just meet you there. Thay s the last I heard from him….it is now Monday. I texted him fri. just to say hey what time you wanna head to the bowling alley and he never texted back. So yesterday I just sent him a quick message saying hey are you okay, cause this kid is like always on his phone and still no answer…I guess I am just really confused what happened?

]]> Comment on My boyfriend is on dating sites; Is he cheating? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/my-boyfriend-is-on-dating-sites-is-he-cheating/comment-page-1/#comment-77194 One of the Guys Tue, 21 Feb 2012 11:53:52 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4915#comment-77194 @Yan.....are you asking a question? We weren't sure what it was. @Yan…..are you asking a question? We weren’t sure what it was.

]]> Comment on I’m with someone who still has feelings for his ex by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/im-with-someone-who-still-has-feelings-for-his-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-77193 One of the Guys Tue, 21 Feb 2012 11:53:19 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2458#comment-77193 @Realist.....Thanks for offering your opinion to the discussion. @Realist…..Thanks for offering your opinion to the discussion.

]]> Comment on Why did he cry when he’s the one breaking up? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/why-did-he-cry-when-hes-the-one-breaking-up/comment-page-1/#comment-77191 One of the Guys Tue, 21 Feb 2012 11:51:30 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5460#comment-77191 @Evol.....Thanks for your note. We're glad we could help. We do know a few guys who never want to get married citing their friends' divorces and unhappy marriages. And while we understand that almost 50% of marriages seem to fail—at least in the US—we can't help think something else is going on for these guys besides their friends' experiences. Some people just don't want to get married and frankly it has little to do with their observations of their friends. It's just them. You're right that marriage is a piece of paper, but going through the process of getting married does feel different than just committing to someone. And while there are no guarantees in life, it's also hard to know if something is right or wrong without trying it. Many people have differing opinions on many different topics. That's what makes the world go round we guess. Take care and best to you. Keep in touch. @Evol…..Thanks for your note. We’re glad we could help. We do know a few guys who never want to get married citing their friends’ divorces and unhappy marriages. And while we understand that almost 50% of marriages seem to fail—at least in the US—we can’t help think something else is going on for these guys besides their friends’ experiences. Some people just don’t want to get married and frankly it has little to do with their observations of their friends. It’s just them. You’re right that marriage is a piece of paper, but going through the process of getting married does feel different than just committing to someone. And while there are no guarantees in life, it’s also hard to know if something is right or wrong without trying it. Many people have differing opinions on many different topics. That’s what makes the world go round we guess. Take care and best to you. Keep in touch.

]]> Comment on I’m with someone who still has feelings for his ex by Realist http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/im-with-someone-who-still-has-feelings-for-his-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-77134 Realist Tue, 21 Feb 2012 06:29:41 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2458#comment-77134 To all you ladies in this situation, just dump him. Why would you stay in a relationship with someone who's still in love with someone else. He didn't make time to get over her and move on. He jumped into a relationship with you, without considering your feelings. Leila, you said that you can still pursue career choices and be who you are. If you want to stay with someone like him and try to ignore his feelings for his ex, then you're not as independent as you claim to be. You depend on his "love" for you, and you fell in love with him and moved in with him within two months? Doesn't that kinda seem off. Maybe you just want a relationship so bad, that you would try to pass this off and continue with him. Like career choices, you can pursue any other guy. He's not the last man on earth, and how could he be the one if you've been only dating for two months. Be more independent by increasing your self-respect and self-confidence. By doing that, you can fully determine whether you want to continue this relationship or not. To all you ladies in this situation, just dump him. Why would you stay in a relationship with someone who’s still in love with someone else. He didn’t make time to get over her and move on. He jumped into a relationship with you, without considering your feelings. Leila, you said that you can still pursue career choices and be who you are. If you want to stay with someone like him and try to ignore his feelings for his ex, then you’re not as independent as you claim to be. You depend on his “love” for you, and you fell in love with him and moved in with him within two months? Doesn’t that kinda seem off. Maybe you just want a relationship so bad, that you would try to pass this off and continue with him. Like career choices, you can pursue any other guy. He’s not the last man on earth, and how could he be the one if you’ve been only dating for two months. Be more independent by increasing your self-respect and self-confidence. By doing that, you can fully determine whether you want to continue this relationship or not.

]]> Comment on My boyfriend is on dating sites; Is he cheating? by yan http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/my-boyfriend-is-on-dating-sites-is-he-cheating/comment-page-1/#comment-77120 yan Tue, 21 Feb 2012 05:08:13 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4915#comment-77120 I can't believe this. I pretend some one else to talk to him, he first line was "wish you can cum over"..I love him so much, but I couldn't get over the fact that when I ask him what is he looking for, he said" whatever comes to me i guess“. I cheated on him once, but he forgave me and we are doing just better than before.Well, I am not gonna expose him, but what should I do? I can’t believe this. I pretend some one else to talk to him, he first line was “wish you can cum over”..I love him so much, but I couldn’t get over the fact that when I ask him what is he looking for, he said” whatever comes to me i guess“. I cheated on him once, but he forgave me and we are doing just better than before.Well, I am not gonna expose him, but what should I do?

]]> Comment on Why did he cry when he’s the one breaking up? by Evol http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/why-did-he-cry-when-hes-the-one-breaking-up/comment-page-1/#comment-77099 Evol Tue, 21 Feb 2012 03:52:19 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5460#comment-77099 Dear guys, Thanks for your help and I feel much better than before. I understand the situation and you guys are right that I should also question myself if he's the guy who I need in long term relationship. I don't know if there's some other reason behind for this break up, but I know he's the guy who doesn't want to get married and doesn't believe in marriage because of his friends are either divorced or in an unhappy marriage.. Do you guys think can this be the reason that he wants to quit before the relationship getting serious? Personally I don't really care about marriage, I mean I would rather go with the flow instead of focus on a piece of paper. I don't resist nor insist, that's why I accepted him. I have nothing to complain the time we were together, he was nice and sweet to me, he did what he should do as a boyfriend, we had a great time and memory. I am glad we were once together and the memory will always be kept in my heart, and I am sure will be in his too.... Thank you guys, you guys are great and I will sure share your site with my friends. I may need your help again in the future :) Stay cool guys. Cheers, Evol Dear guys,

Thanks for your help and I feel much better than before. I understand the situation and you guys are right that I should also question myself if he’s the guy who I need in long term relationship. I don’t know if there’s some other reason behind for this break up, but I know he’s the guy who doesn’t want to get married and doesn’t believe in marriage because of his friends are either divorced or in an unhappy marriage.. Do you guys think can this be the reason that he wants to quit before the relationship getting serious?

Personally I don’t really care about marriage, I mean I would rather go with the flow instead of focus on a piece of paper. I don’t resist nor insist, that’s why I accepted him.

I have nothing to complain the time we were together, he was nice and sweet to me, he did what he should do as a boyfriend, we had a great time and memory. I am glad we were once together and the memory will always be kept in my heart, and I am sure will be in his too….

Thank you guys, you guys are great and I will sure share your site with my friends. I may need your help again in the future :) Stay cool guys.

Cheers,

Evol

]]> Comment on High School Dating: How do I get this guy in biology to notice me? by sporty http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/high-school-dating-how-do-i-get-this-guy-in-biology-to-notice-me/comment-page-1/#comment-77041 sporty Mon, 20 Feb 2012 22:15:30 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5458#comment-77041 thanks so much. he plays baseball, so i could go watch. i do love baseball actually and have wanted to go b4 i knew he played. i could c if some friends want 2 go w/ me, but how exactly could i b obvious, yet not be obvious at the same time? i my self am rather out going, and don;t seem shy, but i really am super shy. he once walked w/ me to a class, and i nearlly blushe w/ delight wat do i do? thanks so much. he plays baseball, so i could go watch. i do love baseball actually and have wanted to go b4 i knew he played. i could c if some friends want 2 go w/ me, but how exactly could i b obvious, yet not be obvious at the same time? i my self am rather out going, and don;t seem shy, but i really am super shy. he once walked w/ me to a class, and i nearlly blushe w/ delight wat do i do?

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice from The Guy’s Perspective: Dating a younger guy by Distrust in a long distance military marriage | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-and-dating-advice-from-the-guys-perspective-dating-a-younger-guy/comment-page-1/#comment-77040 Distrust in a long distance military marriage | The Guy's Perspective Mon, 20 Feb 2012 22:01:29 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3328#comment-77040 [...] Dating a Younger Guy [...] [...] Dating a Younger Guy [...]

]]> Comment on Military Gal in a Long Distance Relationship: Is it time to move on? by Distrust in a long distance military marriage | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/guys/military-long-distance-relationship-is-it-time-to-move-on/comment-page-1/#comment-77039 Distrust in a long distance military marriage | The Guy's Perspective Mon, 20 Feb 2012 22:01:12 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4645#comment-77039 [...] Military long distance relationship [...] [...] Military long distance relationship [...]

]]> Comment on High School Dating: How do I get this guy in biology to notice me? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/high-school-dating-how-do-i-get-this-guy-in-biology-to-notice-me/comment-page-1/#comment-77030 One of the Guys Mon, 20 Feb 2012 21:45:34 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5458#comment-77030 @Sporty.....Hopefully he is single or not interested in anyone else. Either way, it does seem like he is attracted to you, or interested in you beyond just a girl in his Spanish class. And keep in mind, that just because you may found out he likes someone else doesn't mean he won't change his mind and try to date you. So what should you do? Well you need to make it obvious to him that you're interested without being "obvious" about it. If that makes any sense. High School guys tend to miss cues or misinterpret them so you kind of have to knock him over the head with it. (Also, just because he seems confident doesn't mean he is. It's likely he's just as nervous and unsure as you are if he does indeed like you.) We'd suggest working the whole "I speak Spanish fluently" angle. Next time he asks you a question tease him by teaching him a different phrase. Maybe a flirty one? Or something funny. But then tell him you were kidding and tell him the correct one. You need to break the ice and joke around with him. And that seems like an easy way to do it. You could also put together a study group and include him. Although this wouldn't necessarily make it clear that you like him. The thing is, if he's interested but just not sure you are, once you make it clear to him that you are he'll then be emboldened to do something. Finally, what else does he do besides go to Spanish class? Is he a jock? In theater? What are his interests? Maybe you could ask him? Or find out and then pretend to be interested? Or go watch him play with some of your friends? Moving this "situation" beyond Spanish class is your first objective. And finally you could always get a friend to somehow let one of his friends know that you might be interested if he is. Hope this helps a little. @Sporty…..Hopefully he is single or not interested in anyone else. Either way, it does seem like he is attracted to you, or interested in you beyond just a girl in his Spanish class. And keep in mind, that just because you may found out he likes someone else doesn’t mean he won’t change his mind and try to date you. So what should you do? Well you need to make it obvious to him that you’re interested without being “obvious” about it. If that makes any sense. High School guys tend to miss cues or misinterpret them so you kind of have to knock him over the head with it. (Also, just because he seems confident doesn’t mean he is. It’s likely he’s just as nervous and unsure as you are if he does indeed like you.) We’d suggest working the whole “I speak Spanish fluently” angle. Next time he asks you a question tease him by teaching him a different phrase. Maybe a flirty one? Or something funny. But then tell him you were kidding and tell him the correct one. You need to break the ice and joke around with him. And that seems like an easy way to do it. You could also put together a study group and include him. Although this wouldn’t necessarily make it clear that you like him. The thing is, if he’s interested but just not sure you are, once you make it clear to him that you are he’ll then be emboldened to do something. Finally, what else does he do besides go to Spanish class? Is he a jock? In theater? What are his interests? Maybe you could ask him? Or find out and then pretend to be interested? Or go watch him play with some of your friends? Moving this “situation” beyond Spanish class is your first objective. And finally you could always get a friend to somehow let one of his friends know that you might be interested if he is. Hope this helps a little.

]]> Comment on High School Dating: How do I get this guy in biology to notice me? by sporty http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/high-school-dating-how-do-i-get-this-guy-in-biology-to-notice-me/comment-page-1/#comment-77012 sporty Mon, 20 Feb 2012 20:13:45 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5458#comment-77012 hi guys, im a girl in high school that could use your help. im not very experienced in the whole boys, dating thing considering i wasn't aloud to date until as of late. i really like this guy in my spanish class. he is a junior, and i am a sophomore. i have had small crushes before, but nothing like this. a friend told me that he might like onother girl, but its possible that he doesnt. (i really hope he doesn't) im fluent in spanish, so he and many others in our class tend to ask me questions. we talk some during class, but not much outside of the class room. when im not looking directly at him, sometimes i can see him out of the corner of my eye looking at me, and whn i look at him, he blushes and looks away, and when he catches me starring, i do the same. its a little weird. i don't really know how to flirt, so help on how to do that is much appreciated. my friends tell me that i should get moving, especially since prom is around the corner, so please repond soon! i thank you all in advance for helping me out and taking the time to read this. ~sporty hi guys, im a girl in high school that could use your help. im not very experienced in the whole boys, dating thing considering i wasn’t aloud to date until as of late. i really like this guy in my spanish class. he is a junior, and i am a sophomore. i have had small crushes before, but nothing like this. a friend told me that he might like onother girl, but its possible that he doesnt. (i really hope he doesn’t) im fluent in spanish, so he and many others in our class tend to ask me questions. we talk some during class, but not much outside of the class room. when im not looking directly at him, sometimes i can see him out of the corner of my eye looking at me, and whn i look at him, he blushes and looks away, and when he catches me starring, i do the same. its a little weird. i don’t really know how to flirt, so help on how to do that is much appreciated. my friends tell me that i should get moving, especially since prom is around the corner, so please repond soon! i thank you all in advance for helping me out and taking the time to read this.

~sporty

]]> Comment on I didn’t want the divorce; How do I get him back? by Why did he cry when he’s the one breaking up? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/i-didnt-want-the-divorce-how-do-i-get-him-back/comment-page-1/#comment-76690 Why did he cry when he’s the one breaking up? | The Guy's Perspective Sun, 19 Feb 2012 09:18:18 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5334#comment-76690 [...] I didn’t want the divorce; how do I get him back? [...] [...] I didn’t want the divorce; how do I get him back? [...]

]]> Comment on Getting back together: Is it possible? by Why did he cry when he’s the one breaking up? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/getting-back-together-is-it-possible/comment-page-1/#comment-76689 Why did he cry when he’s the one breaking up? | The Guy's Perspective Sun, 19 Feb 2012 09:16:11 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3142#comment-76689 [...] Getting back together; is it possible? [...] [...] Getting back together; is it possible? [...]

]]> Comment on He speaks in facts, she in emotions: Studying abroad; should I break up or do long distance? by Why did he cry when he’s the one breaking up? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/he-speaks-in-facts-she-in-emotions-studying-abroad-should-i-break-up-or-do-long-distance/comment-page-1/#comment-76688 Why did he cry when he’s the one breaking up? | The Guy's Perspective Sun, 19 Feb 2012 09:15:56 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5109#comment-76688 [...] He speaks in facts, she in emotions; should I break up or do the long distance dance?  [...] [...] He speaks in facts, she in emotions; should I break up or do the long distance dance?  [...]

]]> Comment on Contemplating a long distance relationship; Could we be something more? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/contemplating-a-long-distance-relationship-could-we-be-something-more/comment-page-1/#comment-76584 One of the Guys Sat, 18 Feb 2012 20:54:15 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4313#comment-76584 @Jackie....Thanks for your question. On the one hand you say you'd really like to try to begin a relationship with this guy, but on the other hand both of you aren't able to, or aren't willing to make any compromises to make this happen. The reason we say that is because 7 years is a long time and who knows how both of you will feel then, or who knows if they two of you will both be single then. You have to put the pieces in place now unless you want to cruise along the way you've been going and see what happens. That certainly is a viable option. We totally respect that you want to pursue your career by going to graduate school, but we're just wondering how you're going to have time to jumpstart this relationship. Hmm......here's what we suggest. Figure out and map out when the two of you can see each other. (You probably won't have a lot of extra money so it will probably only be a few times a year. Maybe Winter Break, Thanksgiving, or sometime in the spring.) Maybe you'll have more flexibility to see each other over the summers. And maybe this could be more extended. The thing is Jackie you need Face-to-Face time to complement all the texting/phone/email communication. Actually being with the other person takes it from the virtual world to the real world. The bottom line is, if both of you are committed to making it work you'll be able to figure it out. It will take lots of communication and many discussions on how it will look. And that could change year to year. Finally, meeting someone you really connect with doesn't happen every day, so don't take this lightly. It is possible to have a successful career AND a wonderful relationship. Good luck! Feel free to ask another follow up question. And let your friends know about us. Thanks! @Jackie….Thanks for your question. On the one hand you say you’d really like to try to begin a relationship with this guy, but on the other hand both of you aren’t able to, or aren’t willing to make any compromises to make this happen. The reason we say that is because 7 years is a long time and who knows how both of you will feel then, or who knows if they two of you will both be single then. You have to put the pieces in place now unless you want to cruise along the way you’ve been going and see what happens. That certainly is a viable option.
We totally respect that you want to pursue your career by going to graduate school, but we’re just wondering how you’re going to have time to jumpstart this relationship. Hmm……here’s what we suggest. Figure out and map out when the two of you can see each other. (You probably won’t have a lot of extra money so it will probably only be a few times a year. Maybe Winter Break, Thanksgiving, or sometime in the spring.) Maybe you’ll have more flexibility to see each other over the summers. And maybe this could be more extended. The thing is Jackie you need Face-to-Face time to complement all the texting/phone/email communication. Actually being with the other person takes it from the virtual world to the real world. The bottom line is, if both of you are committed to making it work you’ll be able to figure it out. It will take lots of communication and many discussions on how it will look. And that could change year to year. Finally, meeting someone you really connect with doesn’t happen every day, so don’t take this lightly. It is possible to have a successful career AND a wonderful relationship. Good luck! Feel free to ask another follow up question. And let your friends know about us. Thanks!

]]> Comment on Contemplating a long distance relationship; Could we be something more? by Jackie http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/contemplating-a-long-distance-relationship-could-we-be-something-more/comment-page-1/#comment-76383 Jackie Sat, 18 Feb 2012 00:40:34 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4313#comment-76383 Hey Guys, I have a long distance situation that I need help with. I've been best friends with this guy for four years, but he graduated college last year and moved away. We've kept in touch though, we usually call/text/e-mail each other 2 or 3 times a week. And he's been back to visit and I've gone to visit him. However, our relationship has always been platonic, but I've always wanted it to be something more, and so last week I straight up asked him if he had any interest in my as more than a friend, and he said yes, but we both agreed that we aren't really in a position to start anything. I'll be graduating in a couple months, but my graduate school plans don't take me anywhere near where he'll be, and his plans are pretty much set for the next 4 years. Thus, the soonest that we'd have an opportunity to be living in the same city would be 4 years from now (though its more probably that it would be at least 7 years, when I finish grad school). We are both very career minded people and so neither of us would sacrifice that to be closer to the other (especially, because neither of us know whether things will work out as more than friends). Is there a way to make things work long distance and successfully enter the dating realm with this guy, even though we live 1500 miles apart and both work 80 to 100 hours a week? Hey Guys, I have a long distance situation that I need help with. I’ve been best friends with this guy for four years, but he graduated college last year and moved away. We’ve kept in touch though, we usually call/text/e-mail each other 2 or 3 times a week. And he’s been back to visit and I’ve gone to visit him. However, our relationship has always been platonic, but I’ve always wanted it to be something more, and so last week I straight up asked him if he had any interest in my as more than a friend, and he said yes, but we both agreed that we aren’t really in a position to start anything. I’ll be graduating in a couple months, but my graduate school plans don’t take me anywhere near where he’ll be, and his plans are pretty much set for the next 4 years. Thus, the soonest that we’d have an opportunity to be living in the same city would be 4 years from now (though its more probably that it would be at least 7 years, when I finish grad school). We are both very career minded people and so neither of us would sacrifice that to be closer to the other (especially, because neither of us know whether things will work out as more than friends). Is there a way to make things work long distance and successfully enter the dating realm with this guy, even though we live 1500 miles apart and both work 80 to 100 hours a week?

]]> Comment on Military Gal in a Long Distance Relationship: Is it time to move on? by Long distance “friends” or something more? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/guys/military-long-distance-relationship-is-it-time-to-move-on/comment-page-1/#comment-76266 Long distance “friends” or something more? | The Guy's Perspective Fri, 17 Feb 2012 14:19:52 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4645#comment-76266 [...] Military Gal in a long distance relationship; is it time to move on? [...] [...] Military Gal in a long distance relationship; is it time to move on? [...]

]]> Comment on How to start a long distance relationship? by Long distance “friends” or something more? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/how-to-start-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-76265 Long distance “friends” or something more? | The Guy's Perspective Fri, 17 Feb 2012 14:19:37 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2273#comment-76265 [...] How to start a long distance relationship? [...] [...] How to start a long distance relationship? [...]

]]> Comment on The expectations of Valentine’s Day from a Guy’s Perspective by Gogo http://theguysperspective.com/sex/the-expectations-of-valentines-day-from-a-guys-perspective/comment-page-1/#comment-76090 Gogo Thu, 16 Feb 2012 20:53:14 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5632#comment-76090 Very well said. Thanks for putting into words, my thoughts exactly. Very well said. Thanks for putting into words, my thoughts exactly.

]]> Comment on Bullying in a competitive world by Saelen Ghose http://theguysperspective.com/kids/bullying-in-a-competitive-world/comment-page-1/#comment-76088 Saelen Ghose Thu, 16 Feb 2012 20:38:35 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5626#comment-76088 @Dallas....thanks for your input. Well said. However, did you misread what I said? Here's a quote from what I wrote. "And I’ll be frank. I’m as competitive as the rest. I don’t believe we should pretend that everyone is equally competent at all things when they’re not. Not every kid is good at sports. Some kids have trouble with reading. Others have trouble with math. Some kids move slowly. And some can’t slow their bodies down enough to follow directions." We should guide kids to find something they're good at, but we shouldn't pretend they are good at something they're not. @Dallas….thanks for your input. Well said. However, did you misread what I said? Here’s a quote from what I wrote.
“And I’ll be frank. I’m as competitive as the rest. I don’t believe we should pretend that everyone is equally competent at all things when they’re not. Not every kid is good at sports. Some kids have trouble with reading. Others have trouble with math. Some kids move slowly. And some can’t slow their bodies down enough to follow directions.”
We should guide kids to find something they’re good at, but we shouldn’t pretend they are good at something they’re not.

]]> Comment on Bullying in a competitive world by Dallas http://theguysperspective.com/kids/bullying-in-a-competitive-world/comment-page-1/#comment-76083 Dallas Thu, 16 Feb 2012 20:28:30 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5626#comment-76083 I have to say that growing up I was not bullied or if I was who ever did the bullying did a poor job. I think as an adult society we are getting better, but our children still have to deal with this. I don't know if it will ever get better for them as the children who do the bullying are dealing with their own identity and most likely some other underlying issues. With that being said I do not agree with the notion that all children should get a trophy. There are winners and losers in this world of ours. Loss is an emotion that we all must learn to deal with and it can only be learned by feeling the emotional ourselves. I do not placate my daughter when her team loses a soccer game. I tell her the truth. If she played great I tell her that, if she could have done better I also tell her that and help her to achieve her goals. I guide her the best I can with her own feelings of the loss so that she can have the proper perspective. I also feel sorry for the bullies, especially when they are children. I feel sorry for a child who has that much angry inside of them or the child who is so confused about their own feelings that they take it out on another child...it is very sad. So I guess all we can do as parents is love our children and help guide them to make the best decisions no matter what they face. I have to say that growing up I was not bullied or if I was who ever did the bullying did a poor job. I think as an adult society we are getting better, but our children still have to deal with this. I don’t know if it will ever get better for them as the children who do the bullying are dealing with their own identity and most likely some other underlying issues. With that being said I do not agree with the notion that all children should get a trophy. There are winners and losers in this world of ours. Loss is an emotion that we all must learn to deal with and it can only be learned by feeling the emotional ourselves. I do not placate my daughter when her team loses a soccer game. I tell her the truth. If she played great I tell her that, if she could have done better I also tell her that and help her to achieve her goals. I guide her the best I can with her own feelings of the loss so that she can have the proper perspective. I also feel sorry for the bullies, especially when they are children. I feel sorry for a child who has that much angry inside of them or the child who is so confused about their own feelings that they take it out on another child…it is very sad. So I guess all we can do as parents is love our children and help guide them to make the best decisions no matter what they face.

]]> Comment on My husband asked for a divorce during my chemo by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/my-husband-asked-for-a-divorce-during-my-chemo/comment-page-1/#comment-76080 One of the Guys Thu, 16 Feb 2012 19:56:50 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5441#comment-76080 @Keri........He's definitely confused by all the feelings swirling around inside of him. A part of him realizes how much he cares for you and a part of him wants to be free. What he should realize is that marriage is not easy, and that many people in relatively happy marriages, at one point or another, feel like leaving. It's only natural to want to flee a situation that's stressful, difficult, and sometimes no fun. But marriage also comes with love. It comes with someone to grow old with. It comes with someone who supports you even when times are tough. Read what we said in our last paragraph to you. He may already be regretting all of his actions. Please keep us updated on all fronts. Take care Keri. @Keri……..He’s definitely confused by all the feelings swirling around inside of him. A part of him realizes how much he cares for you and a part of him wants to be free. What he should realize is that marriage is not easy, and that many people in relatively happy marriages, at one point or another, feel like leaving. It’s only natural to want to flee a situation that’s stressful, difficult, and sometimes no fun. But marriage also comes with love. It comes with someone to grow old with. It comes with someone who supports you even when times are tough. Read what we said in our last paragraph to you. He may already be regretting all of his actions. Please keep us updated on all fronts. Take care Keri.

]]> Comment on My husband asked for a divorce during my chemo by Keri http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/my-husband-asked-for-a-divorce-during-my-chemo/comment-page-1/#comment-76067 Keri Thu, 16 Feb 2012 19:13:20 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5441#comment-76067 what confuses me even further was that a week before he dropped this bomb on me, I sensed something was off and I asked him if he wanted me to leave and stay with my mom, and that it was pretty clear he didnt want me around. he then cried in my lap and said dont go, and that he loved me. He thanked me for saying that. After he broke the news to me, I asked him why he didn't just let me leave and why he said he loved me, he said guilt. I'm totally baffled by this. ? what confuses me even further was that a week before he dropped this bomb on me, I sensed something was off and I asked him if he wanted me to leave and stay with my mom, and that it was pretty clear he didnt want me around. he then cried in my lap and said dont go, and that he loved me. He thanked me for saying that. After he broke the news to me, I asked him why he didn’t just let me leave and why he said he loved me, he said guilt. I’m totally baffled by this. ?

]]> Comment on Does my coach love me, or am I being delusional? by High School Dating: How do I get this guy in biology to notice me? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/does-my-coach-love-me-or-am-i-being-delusional/comment-page-1/#comment-75762 High School Dating: How do I get this guy in biology to notice me? | The Guy's Perspective Wed, 15 Feb 2012 13:35:57 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4743#comment-75762 [...] Does my coach love me, or am I being delusional?  [...] [...] Does my coach love me, or am I being delusional?  [...]

]]> Comment on High School Dating: Am I hot or not?? by High School Dating: How do I get this guy in biology to notice me? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/high-school-dating-am-i-hot-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-75761 High School Dating: How do I get this guy in biology to notice me? | The Guy's Perspective Wed, 15 Feb 2012 13:35:41 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2066#comment-75761 [...] Am I hot or not?  [...] [...] Am I hot or not?  [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship Advice from The Guy’s Perspective: Getting Played-Trust your Gut by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-advice-from-the-guys-perspective-getting-played-trust-your-gut/comment-page-1/#comment-75741 One of the Guys Wed, 15 Feb 2012 10:56:05 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2883#comment-75741 @Sarah......The fact that you want to put some categorization on this relationship should tell you that maybe you're not completely comfortable being in a "casual sex" relationship. Some might say "booty call" but that type of arrangement revolves around the bedroom only. Your situation is more than a "booty call" because the two of you do go out and you've met his friends etc. But clearly he doesn't want to get serious, or even have a conversation about the topic. So what do you want Sarah? You say you don't want to date, so what is it? That's the real question here. We realize that you're both moving, but sometimes life gets in the way of our plans. If you really think you have something special, or even nice here, it might be worth giving this some more thought. And if you come to the conclusion that maybe you do want something more then you need to talk with him. If he continues to resist, then maybe you have your answer after all. Good luck. @Sarah……The fact that you want to put some categorization on this relationship should tell you that maybe you’re not completely comfortable being in a “casual sex” relationship. Some might say “booty call” but that type of arrangement revolves around the bedroom only. Your situation is more than a “booty call” because the two of you do go out and you’ve met his friends etc. But clearly he doesn’t want to get serious, or even have a conversation about the topic. So what do you want Sarah? You say you don’t want to date, so what is it? That’s the real question here. We realize that you’re both moving, but sometimes life gets in the way of our plans. If you really think you have something special, or even nice here, it might be worth giving this some more thought. And if you come to the conclusion that maybe you do want something more then you need to talk with him. If he continues to resist, then maybe you have your answer after all. Good luck.

]]> Comment on Is he too into me? by Is he playing me? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/is-he-too-into-me/comment-page-1/#comment-75738 Is he playing me? | The Guy's Perspective Wed, 15 Feb 2012 10:28:56 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5058#comment-75738 [...] Is he too into me? [...] [...] Is he too into me? [...]

]]> Comment on Different Cultures: More than a friend; less than a lover by Is he playing me? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/different-cultures-more-than-a-friend-less-than-a-lover/comment-page-1/#comment-75737 Is he playing me? | The Guy's Perspective Wed, 15 Feb 2012 10:28:40 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3376#comment-75737 [...] Different Cultures; is he more than a friend, less than a lover? [...] [...] Different Cultures; is he more than a friend, less than a lover? [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship Advice from The Guy’s Perspective: Getting Played-Trust your Gut by Sarah http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-advice-from-the-guys-perspective-getting-played-trust-your-gut/comment-page-1/#comment-75730 Sarah Wed, 15 Feb 2012 09:26:15 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2883#comment-75730 Dear Guys, In early December, I went to a club with my friend. She had been talking up this guy - who she later hooked up with that night. I met her boy's best friend (Ben) when we were leaving the club. I added Ben on FB and we enjoyed "talking [smack]" to each other. His work schedule fluctuates from night and day shifts, so we didn't see each other until New Year's Eve. On NYE, we ended up staying with each other down town until 5AM. I hung out with him after he got off of work and we had fun: cuddling, kissing, watching TV, and doing other things. Some drama came along from other girls and he talked to them and said that he wasn't trying to "[just have sex with me]". We have done the "do" a couple of times and we talk almost everyday. We're both moving so we don't want a relationship, but I also don't want to feel like an option. With that being said, I've met some of his friends. He's taken me to dinner with them, paid for me, and all that good stuff. As of now, he told me that he probably won't see me in June because his best friends are coming to visit him. One of these friends consists of his, who I believe is, ex-fiance. I'm starting to feel like a rebound. I realize that we will not date - nor do I want to. I just have no idea how to categorize what we are and the last time I tried to talk about it with him, it wasn't a very good time... so we left it that. I'd appreciate your feedback. -Sarah Dear Guys,

In early December, I went to a club with my friend. She had been talking up this guy – who she later hooked up with that night. I met her boy’s best friend (Ben) when we were leaving the club. I added Ben on FB and we enjoyed “talking [smack]” to each other. His work schedule fluctuates from night and day shifts, so we didn’t see each other until New Year’s Eve.

On NYE, we ended up staying with each other down town until 5AM. I hung out with him after he got off of work and we had fun: cuddling, kissing, watching TV, and doing other things. Some drama came along from other girls and he talked to them and said that he wasn’t trying to “[just have sex with me]“.

We have done the “do” a couple of times and we talk almost everyday. We’re both moving so we don’t want a relationship, but I also don’t want to feel like an option. With that being said, I’ve met some of his friends. He’s taken me to dinner with them, paid for me, and all that good stuff.

As of now, he told me that he probably won’t see me in June because his best friends are coming to visit him. One of these friends consists of his, who I believe is, ex-fiance. I’m starting to feel like a rebound.

I realize that we will not date – nor do I want to. I just have no idea how to categorize what we are and the last time I tried to talk about it with him, it wasn’t a very good time… so we left it that.

I’d appreciate your feedback.

-Sarah

]]> Comment on How to start a long distance relationship? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/how-to-start-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-75466 One of the Guys Tue, 14 Feb 2012 11:50:45 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2273#comment-75466 @Janbird.....Your night sounds fabulous. Question: When you say you spent the night together do you mean you had sex too? The first thing that comes to mind is that he might have a girlfriend, or someone there he's not mentioning. Is that possible? It could also be that since he's known you for so long or at least has been connected to you for so long, he might not feel comfortable just going for it. Middle school and high school connections can be funny, and word spreads fast. Some people just get over that whole high school gossip thing. (Like you) Maybe he hasn't, which might be another reason he's hesitating. If you really think there's something there you need to spend a little more time together to see. Why don't you invite him to visit you? (As long as you're comfortable with it, or you think it's safe, etc.) Because you're going to have to take the initiative here. Maybe after you spend some more time together he won't feel so reticent about it. And if it doesn't work out, well at least you'll have no regrets. @Janbird…..Your night sounds fabulous. Question: When you say you spent the night together do you mean you had sex too? The first thing that comes to mind is that he might have a girlfriend, or someone there he’s not mentioning. Is that possible? It could also be that since he’s known you for so long or at least has been connected to you for so long, he might not feel comfortable just going for it. Middle school and high school connections can be funny, and word spreads fast. Some people just get over that whole high school gossip thing. (Like you) Maybe he hasn’t, which might be another reason he’s hesitating. If you really think there’s something there you need to spend a little more time together to see. Why don’t you invite him to visit you? (As long as you’re comfortable with it, or you think it’s safe, etc.) Because you’re going to have to take the initiative here. Maybe after you spend some more time together he won’t feel so reticent about it. And if it doesn’t work out, well at least you’ll have no regrets.

]]> Comment on How to start a long distance relationship? by Janbird http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/how-to-start-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-75442 Janbird Tue, 14 Feb 2012 08:39:01 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2273#comment-75442 I was in town on business and met up with a guy from middle school. We are now in our 30's. We have kept in touch throughout the years. I have always had feelings for him and I believed he did as well. We went out for drinks and started having conversations about marriage, kids, careers... basically life. We also spent the night together. Days later I couldnt stop thinking about everything and how I've been holding onto these feelings for years. So, I called him and let him know that I had feelings for him and that I'm not sure what it may lead to or even means but I needed to let him know. His response was not quite what I expected. He stated that he has mutual feelings for me and always has as well BUT he's done the long distance thing before and it hasn't worked for him. (We live a 2 hr plane ride away) He can't promise or commit anything to me but he would like for us to keep in contact. The most important thing is that we remain friends... Is that his way of letting me down easy? It doesn't sound like the mutual interest to fully explore this opportunity is quite there... Or maybe I'm reading too much into it... Any advice from a guys perspective? I was in town on business and met up with a guy from middle school. We are now in our 30′s. We have kept in touch throughout the years. I have always had feelings for him and I believed he did as well. We went out for drinks and started having conversations about marriage, kids, careers… basically life. We also spent the night together. Days later I couldnt stop thinking about everything and how I’ve been holding onto these feelings for years. So, I called him and let him know that I had feelings for him and that I’m not sure what it may lead to or even means but I needed to let him know. His response was not quite what I expected. He stated that he has mutual feelings for me and always has as well BUT he’s done the long distance thing before and it hasn’t worked for him. (We live a 2 hr plane ride away) He can’t promise or commit anything to me but he would like for us to keep in contact. The most important thing is that we remain friends… Is that his way of letting me down easy? It doesn’t sound like the mutual interest to fully explore this opportunity is quite there… Or maybe I’m reading too much into it… Any advice from a guys perspective?

]]> Comment on My boyfriend is on dating sites; Is he cheating? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/my-boyfriend-is-on-dating-sites-is-he-cheating/comment-page-1/#comment-75318 One of the Guys Mon, 13 Feb 2012 18:17:29 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4915#comment-75318 @Nikki....Thanks for sharing your experience AND your support. Hang in there to you as well. @Nikki….Thanks for sharing your experience AND your support. Hang in there to you as well.

]]> Comment on My boyfriend is on dating sites; Is he cheating? by nikki http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/my-boyfriend-is-on-dating-sites-is-he-cheating/comment-page-1/#comment-75303 nikki Mon, 13 Feb 2012 16:21:43 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4915#comment-75303 I just found out my fiance of 7 years is playing at the same game, I don't even know how to react or if it's time to call it quits. I had caught him out years ago, gave him a second chance and now he's doing it again. Hang in there Kacey your not alone. I just found out my fiance of 7 years is playing at the same game, I don’t even know how to react or if it’s time to call it quits. I had caught him out years ago, gave him a second chance and now he’s doing it again.
Hang in there Kacey your not alone.

]]> Comment on Pride in the Uniform by Bullying in a competitive world | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/essays/the-parent-gig-episode-6-pride-in-the-uniform/comment-page-1/#comment-75292 Bullying in a competitive world | The Guy's Perspective Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:44:39 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3255#comment-75292 [...] Pride in the uniform [...] [...] Pride in the uniform [...]

]]> Comment on Divorced woman with kids dating a bachelor by My husband asked for a divorce during my chemo | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/guys/divorced-woman-with-kids-dating-a-bachelor/comment-page-1/#comment-75281 My husband asked for a divorce during my chemo | The Guy's Perspective Mon, 13 Feb 2012 13:31:24 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5400#comment-75281 [...] Divorced with kids dating a bachelor  [...] [...] Divorced with kids dating a bachelor  [...]

]]> Comment on I didn’t want the divorce; How do I get him back? by My husband asked for a divorce during my chemo | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/i-didnt-want-the-divorce-how-do-i-get-him-back/comment-page-1/#comment-75280 My husband asked for a divorce during my chemo | The Guy's Perspective Mon, 13 Feb 2012 13:31:08 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5334#comment-75280 [...] I didn’t want the divorce; how do I get him back?  [...] [...] I didn’t want the divorce; how do I get him back?  [...]

]]> Comment on Will he come back? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/will-he-come-back-2/comment-page-1/#comment-75142 One of the Guys Sun, 12 Feb 2012 12:48:27 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3622#comment-75142 @Molly.....We're sorry this is so confusing and difficult and sad. It's good that you're trying to move on. Clearly he was not ready for a real commitment, and not ready to be honest and open. Yes, we think he will try to get you back. He's already laying the groundwork for this move by contacting you. We can't say what his motivations are though. It could be that he really does still love you. Or that he regrets what he did. It could also be because he realizes you truly are moving on and he doesn't like that. (Some guys, even if they don't want the woman they are with, still don't want the woman to be with anyone else. At least until they're settled and happy themselves. And even then, not always.) But frankly from all that you say, it's probably better to move on and try to start a new life without him. There are plenty of trustworthy and good guys out there who understand what it takes to be in a committed and loving relationship. Take care and best to you. @Molly…..We’re sorry this is so confusing and difficult and sad. It’s good that you’re trying to move on. Clearly he was not ready for a real commitment, and not ready to be honest and open.
Yes, we think he will try to get you back. He’s already laying the groundwork for this move by contacting you. We can’t say what his motivations are though. It could be that he really does still love you. Or that he regrets what he did. It could also be because he realizes you truly are moving on and he doesn’t like that. (Some guys, even if they don’t want the woman they are with, still don’t want the woman to be with anyone else. At least until they’re settled and happy themselves. And even then, not always.) But frankly from all that you say, it’s probably better to move on and try to start a new life without him. There are plenty of trustworthy and good guys out there who understand what it takes to be in a committed and loving relationship. Take care and best to you.

]]> Comment on Will he come back? by Molly http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/will-he-come-back-2/comment-page-1/#comment-75110 Molly Sun, 12 Feb 2012 05:24:44 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3622#comment-75110 Hi Guys My ex of almost 4 years and I were very close, we were best friends, we had been through so many hardships together and it made us even closer. I never cheated, he was really possessive of me though (to the point of telling people I was his wife without my knowledge).. Towards what I guess was the end, we were on the rocks a little because he had moved and he didn't exactly break up with me. He told me he wanted to start a life with me and that he was very deeply in love with me and that he needed to get his life together and go back to school so he could be something and then we would get married. And then he disappeared for 6 months, no call, nothing. I had no way to contact him. I thought he was working 2 jobs and going to school and cleaning his life up because that's what he told me he was doing. Later I found out he had started a new life and was living with his new girlfriend. I found that out by accident. He found out I knew and called me from a blocked number saying he still was in love with me, that he didn't love her and that he liked her because he didn't have to care about where she went. He told me he still had all our relationship stuff and things I had given him and that they had arguments over him still being in love with me. He told me he regretted letting me go..That she treated him like arm candy and he hated it... I didn't know what to say, but clearly his actions spoke very loudly and he was not going to change this anytime soon...So, I wished them the best (sincerely), and i got off the phone....In my head though, I don't know why he chose to call and tell me those things. It made me so confused and very deeply heartbroken, more so than before he called. If he really wanted out of the relationship, he got it, he didn't have to call when I found out, he didn't have to rub it in. I am doing my best to move on and I am dating again. Do you think he will try and get me back? In a few months I am leaving my job and I could transfer anywhere, he knows this and I am thinking he might try to contact me then and convince me to move closer to him. I am thinking I should prepare myself for this or block my number. I don't know what he is thinking with his actions. please help. Hi Guys
My ex of almost 4 years and I were very close, we were best friends, we had been through so many hardships together and it made us even closer. I never cheated, he was really possessive of me though (to the point of telling people I was his wife without my knowledge).. Towards what I guess was the end, we were on the rocks a little because he had moved and he didn’t exactly break up with me. He told me he wanted to start a life with me and that he was very deeply in love with me and that he needed to get his life together and go back to school so he could be something and then we would get married. And then he disappeared for 6 months, no call, nothing. I had no way to contact him. I thought he was working 2 jobs and going to school and cleaning his life up because that’s what he told me he was doing. Later I found out he had started a new life and was living with his new girlfriend. I found that out by accident. He found out I knew and called me from a blocked number saying he still was in love with me, that he didn’t love her and that he liked her because he didn’t have to care about where she went. He told me he still had all our relationship stuff and things I had given him and that they had arguments over him still being in love with me. He told me he regretted letting me go..That she treated him like arm candy and he hated it… I didn’t know what to say, but clearly his actions spoke very loudly and he was not going to change this anytime soon…So, I wished them the best (sincerely), and i got off the phone….In my head though, I don’t know why he chose to call and tell me those things. It made me so confused and very deeply heartbroken, more so than before he called. If he really wanted out of the relationship, he got it, he didn’t have to call when I found out, he didn’t have to rub it in. I am doing my best to move on and I am dating again. Do you think he will try and get me back? In a few months I am leaving my job and I could transfer anywhere, he knows this and I am thinking he might try to contact me then and convince me to move closer to him. I am thinking I should prepare myself for this or block my number. I don’t know what he is thinking with his actions. please help.

]]> Comment on My boyfriend is on dating sites; Is he cheating? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/my-boyfriend-is-on-dating-sites-is-he-cheating/comment-page-1/#comment-75029 One of the Guys Sat, 11 Feb 2012 17:52:17 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4915#comment-75029 @Maisie....Thank you for joining the conversation. We're sorry your boyfriend chose to behave the way he did. Not very honorable. Hang in there. @Maisie….Thank you for joining the conversation. We’re sorry your boyfriend chose to behave the way he did. Not very honorable. Hang in there.

]]> Comment on My boyfriend is on dating sites; Is he cheating? by Maisie http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/my-boyfriend-is-on-dating-sites-is-he-cheating/comment-page-1/#comment-74993 Maisie Sat, 11 Feb 2012 12:51:26 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4915#comment-74993 My BF just ended the relationship without warning. My home computer internet browsing history showed me that he had been receiving mails from a dating site PLUS an old girlfriend in the last few weeks while a guest in my home. he had already asked me to remove my names from the site where we met!!!!! So..be warned. Be careful who you trust with your heart and home. My BF just ended the relationship without warning. My home computer internet browsing history showed me that he had been receiving mails from a dating site PLUS an old girlfriend in the last few weeks while a guest in my home. he had already asked me to remove my names from the site where we met!!!!!
So..be warned. Be careful who you trust with your heart and home.

]]> Comment on How to start a long distance relationship? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/how-to-start-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-74977 One of the Guys Sat, 11 Feb 2012 11:16:23 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2273#comment-74977 @Lara....We don't see the harm in exploring this, although to answer your question, no, two hours away by plane for some guys is no big deal. Meaning, guys will drive, fly, and do almost anything for sex, especially if they don't have anything going on in their current location. We're not saying that's what he's all about, but don't rule it out just because he lives far from you. Our advice: Just take it slow. If he wants to see you and you want to see him, have him come visit you, not the other way around. And if you're not completely comfortable with him staying with you, have him stay at a hotel or at a guy friend's house. If he truly plans on moving to this country, and you really feel like you have a strong connection, just see where it goes. But be careful out there. And keep us posted. @Lara….We don’t see the harm in exploring this, although to answer your question, no, two hours away by plane for some guys is no big deal. Meaning, guys will drive, fly, and do almost anything for sex, especially if they don’t have anything going on in their current location. We’re not saying that’s what he’s all about, but don’t rule it out just because he lives far from you. Our advice: Just take it slow. If he wants to see you and you want to see him, have him come visit you, not the other way around. And if you’re not completely comfortable with him staying with you, have him stay at a hotel or at a guy friend’s house. If he truly plans on moving to this country, and you really feel like you have a strong connection, just see where it goes. But be careful out there. And keep us posted.

]]> Comment on How to start a long distance relationship? by Lara http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/how-to-start-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-74877 Lara Fri, 10 Feb 2012 23:19:00 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2273#comment-74877 Hey guys, Here's another curious situation. I met a guy over a long weekend, and spent a lot of time with him. Though I learned the first day that he lived in another country and was just visiting family and friends I figured there was no harm in getting to know him as I liked him. When he left, I simply assumed we had had a nice time, though it was a shame I wouldn't actually get to know him better. That said, he texted me from abroad the next day and has been texting me every day, calling at least once a week, and I'm wondering whether this could turn into a relationship? Should I even consider it, or cut off this communication early on? He's said that his plans have changed and he wants to move back to this country, and though he may only looking for a booty call, wouldn't that be a lot of work to put in for someone who lives hours away by plane? Curious to have your perspectives on this one. Thanks in advance! Hey guys,

Here’s another curious situation. I met a guy over a long weekend, and spent a lot of time with him. Though I learned the first day that he lived in another country and was just visiting family and friends I figured there was no harm in getting to know him as I liked him. When he left, I simply assumed we had had a nice time, though it was a shame I wouldn’t actually get to know him better. That said, he texted me from abroad the next day and has been texting me every day, calling at least once a week, and I’m wondering whether this could turn into a relationship? Should I even consider it, or cut off this communication early on? He’s said that his plans have changed and he wants to move back to this country, and though he may only looking for a booty call, wouldn’t that be a lot of work to put in for someone who lives hours away by plane?
Curious to have your perspectives on this one. Thanks in advance!

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice from The Guy’s Perspective: Dating a younger guy by Long Distance: How do my boyfriend and I survive going to different colleges? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-and-dating-advice-from-the-guys-perspective-dating-a-younger-guy/comment-page-1/#comment-74806 Long Distance: How do my boyfriend and I survive going to different colleges? | The Guy's Perspective Fri, 10 Feb 2012 14:05:39 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3328#comment-74806 [...] Dating a Younger Guy [...] [...] Dating a Younger Guy [...]

]]> Comment on Military Gal in a Long Distance Relationship: Is it time to move on? by Long Distance: How do my boyfriend and I survive going to different colleges? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/guys/military-long-distance-relationship-is-it-time-to-move-on/comment-page-1/#comment-74805 Long Distance: How do my boyfriend and I survive going to different colleges? | The Guy's Perspective Fri, 10 Feb 2012 14:05:23 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4645#comment-74805 [...] Military Gal in a long distance relationship; is it time to move on? [...] [...] Military Gal in a long distance relationship; is it time to move on? [...]

]]> Comment on How to start a long distance relationship? by Long Distance: How do my boyfriend and I survive going to different colleges? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/how-to-start-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-74804 Long Distance: How do my boyfriend and I survive going to different colleges? | The Guy's Perspective Fri, 10 Feb 2012 14:05:08 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2273#comment-74804 [...] How to start a long distance relationship? [...] [...] How to start a long distance relationship? [...]

]]> Comment on Will he come back? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/will-he-come-back-2/comment-page-1/#comment-74797 One of the Guys Fri, 10 Feb 2012 13:15:25 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3622#comment-74797 @Daphne.....Your ex may still love you but that doesn't mean he's coming back. (He could, but we don't know him and what he's thinking.) What we can say is, the only way he might come back is by you giving him space to figure things out. We realize he's with a new girl, but you can't get involved. He has to be the one to come back to you. We think you should move on and try to find a person to have a healthy relationship with. If you do that, even if your ex comes back to you, you might no longer be open to him. But at least you'll be in a good frame of mind to make the best decision for yourself. @Daphne…..Your ex may still love you but that doesn’t mean he’s coming back. (He could, but we don’t know him and what he’s thinking.) What we can say is, the only way he might come back is by you giving him space to figure things out. We realize he’s with a new girl, but you can’t get involved. He has to be the one to come back to you. We think you should move on and try to find a person to have a healthy relationship with. If you do that, even if your ex comes back to you, you might no longer be open to him. But at least you’ll be in a good frame of mind to make the best decision for yourself.

]]> Comment on Contemplating a long distance relationship; Could we be something more? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/contemplating-a-long-distance-relationship-could-we-be-something-more/comment-page-1/#comment-74796 One of the Guys Fri, 10 Feb 2012 13:11:37 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4313#comment-74796 @Anonymous.......It certainly seems that both of you are attracted to one another. Just take it one step at a time. Enjoy spending time with him, but be aware that if something happens between the two of you during his trip this doesn't necessarily mean he wants something more. (It could, but we don't know his intentions beyond that he's attracted to you.) If you're interested in him, keep the lines of communication open when he goes back to Ecuador. Email. Facebook, etc. Even if you don't have an actual long distance relationship, by keeping the communication going you never know what might happen down the road. Feel free to keep us posted and ask us a specific question sometime. @Anonymous…….It certainly seems that both of you are attracted to one another. Just take it one step at a time. Enjoy spending time with him, but be aware that if something happens between the two of you during his trip this doesn’t necessarily mean he wants something more. (It could, but we don’t know his intentions beyond that he’s attracted to you.)
If you’re interested in him, keep the lines of communication open when he goes back to Ecuador. Email. Facebook, etc. Even if you don’t have an actual long distance relationship, by keeping the communication going you never know what might happen down the road. Feel free to keep us posted and ask us a specific question sometime.

]]> Comment on Will he come back? by Daphne http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/will-he-come-back-2/comment-page-1/#comment-74777 Daphne Fri, 10 Feb 2012 10:57:01 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3622#comment-74777 Hey Guys, So my now ex of a year and a half broke up with me. We have had an unhealthy relationship, but at the end of the day we always loved and cared about each other. The reason he broke up with me is cause I had asked a girl he had been talking to if they were into each other(doing stuff) and he called me freaking out and broke up with me then and there. I have talked to him before a few times and I met the new girlfriend(the girl i asked if she was into him) once. I asked him if he still loved me even though all this happened, but he has avioded this question. I am moving on, though I have that one question floating in my head if my ex may love me still even though he has a new gf and is trying to get over me with another person to distract him. Is it possible he may be hurting himself and this girl by handling the issue in a childish way? I still love him and would like to try again slowly. Hey Guys,
So my now ex of a year and a half broke up with me. We have had an unhealthy relationship, but at the end of the day we always loved and cared about each other. The reason he broke up with me is cause I had asked a girl he had been talking to if they were into each other(doing stuff) and he called me freaking out and broke up with me then and there. I have talked to him before a few times and I met the new girlfriend(the girl i asked if she was into him) once. I asked him if he still loved me even though all this happened, but he has avioded this question. I am moving on, though I have that one question floating in my head if my ex may love me still even though he has a new gf and is trying to get over me with another person to distract him. Is it possible he may be hurting himself and this girl by handling the issue in a childish way? I still love him and would like to try again slowly.

]]> Comment on Contemplating a long distance relationship; Could we be something more? by Anonymous http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/contemplating-a-long-distance-relationship-could-we-be-something-more/comment-page-1/#comment-74748 Anonymous Fri, 10 Feb 2012 04:57:12 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4313#comment-74748 There's this guy I like, he super sweet, nice, funny, and he's good looking as well. He came to Florida at the end of last week to stay over my best friends house since they're family and everything. That's when I met him. Those who say chivalry is dead are totally wrong. This guy is a gentleman and he seems like the type of person you can talk to for hours (proven since we chat on facebook everyday about everything till late at night). He's left to Orlando for a week until Tuesday when he comes back and I might have an opportunity to see him. My best friend told me he was talking about me almost the whole night since I left that Thursday and how he thought I was beautiful. My feelings are the same, even though we've know each other for so little, I feel like I've known him for years. The bad part about this crush is that he lives all the way in Ecuador (bummer). It's a relationship I'd be willing to go through, but I'm not sure if it's completely worth it. There’s this guy I like, he super sweet, nice, funny, and he’s good looking as well. He came to Florida at the end of last week to stay over my best friends house since they’re family and everything. That’s when I met him. Those who say chivalry is dead are totally wrong. This guy is a gentleman and he seems like the type of person you can talk to for hours (proven since we chat on facebook everyday about everything till late at night). He’s left to Orlando for a week until Tuesday when he comes back and I might have an opportunity to see him. My best friend told me he was talking about me almost the whole night since I left that Thursday and how he thought I was beautiful. My feelings are the same, even though we’ve know each other for so little, I feel like I’ve known him for years. The bad part about this crush is that he lives all the way in Ecuador (bummer). It’s a relationship I’d be willing to go through, but I’m not sure if it’s completely worth it.

]]> Comment on Long distance, work situation: Is he interested in me or just being nice? by Long distance false start: Can I get it going again? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/long-distance-work-situation-is-he-interested-in-me-or-just-being-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-74707 Long distance false start: Can I get it going again? | The Guy's Perspective Thu, 09 Feb 2012 20:58:48 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4214#comment-74707 [...] Long distance work situation; Is he interested or just being nice? [...] [...] Long distance work situation; Is he interested or just being nice? [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice: Getting Played- Listen to your friends by Long distance false start: Can I get it going again? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-and-dating-advice-getting-played-part-2-listen-to-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-74706 Long distance false start: Can I get it going again? | The Guy's Perspective Thu, 09 Feb 2012 20:58:33 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2966#comment-74706 [...] Listen to your friends [...] [...] Listen to your friends [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice from The Guy’s Perspective: Dating a younger guy by Online Dating: Friends with Benefits or something more? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-and-dating-advice-from-the-guys-perspective-dating-a-younger-guy/comment-page-1/#comment-74419 Online Dating: Friends with Benefits or something more? | The Guy's Perspective Wed, 08 Feb 2012 14:50:10 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3328#comment-74419 [...] Dating a Younger Guy [...] [...] Dating a Younger Guy [...]

]]> Comment on Friends with Benefits: Why Me? by Online Dating: Friends with Benefits or something more? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/friends-with-benefits-why-me/comment-page-1/#comment-74418 Online Dating: Friends with Benefits or something more? | The Guy's Perspective Wed, 08 Feb 2012 14:49:55 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3684#comment-74418 [...] Friends with benefits; why me? [...] [...] Friends with benefits; why me? [...]

]]> Comment on Are we “Friends with Benefits” (FWB) or does he want something more? by Online Dating: Friends with Benefits or something more? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/are-we-friends-with-benefits-fwb-or-does-he-want-something-more/comment-page-1/#comment-74417 Online Dating: Friends with Benefits or something more? | The Guy's Perspective Wed, 08 Feb 2012 14:49:38 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5244#comment-74417 [...] Are we “Friends with Benefits” or does he want something more? [...] [...] Are we “Friends with Benefits” or does he want something more? [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice: Getting Played- Listen to your friends by Divorced woman with kids dating a bachelor | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-and-dating-advice-getting-played-part-2-listen-to-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-73913 Divorced woman with kids dating a bachelor | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 07 Feb 2012 00:33:59 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2966#comment-73913 [...] Listen to your friends [...] [...] Listen to your friends [...]

]]> Comment on Dating in my 20s as a single mother? by Divorced woman with kids dating a bachelor | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/kids/dating-in-my-20s-as-a-single-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-73911 Divorced woman with kids dating a bachelor | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 07 Feb 2012 00:33:41 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5039#comment-73911 [...] Dating as a single mom [...] [...] Dating as a single mom [...]

]]> Comment on Wooing at a distance by Long distance false start: Can I get it going again? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/guys/wooing-at-a-distance/comment-page-1/#comment-73534 Long distance false start: Can I get it going again? | The Guy's Perspective Sun, 05 Feb 2012 14:05:53 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5034#comment-73534 [...] Wooing at a distance [...] [...] Wooing at a distance [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice from The Guy’s Perspective: Dating Older Men by Long distance false start: Can I get it going again? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/dating-older-men/comment-page-1/#comment-73533 Long distance false start: Can I get it going again? | The Guy's Perspective Sun, 05 Feb 2012 14:05:36 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3045#comment-73533 [...] Dating Older Men [...] [...] Dating Older Men [...]

]]> Comment on Will he come back? by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/will-he-come-back-2/comment-page-1/#comment-73512 One of the Guys Sun, 05 Feb 2012 12:07:19 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3622#comment-73512 @Vanessa.......Sure, there's always a chance things could work out. But it just seems like this guy's track record is a bit shaky. He seems like he's not really sure WHAT he wants. If you move back, it's possible you could be with him, but the question is, would the same thing happen again. Is he going to change his mind like he did the last time? We can't answer that for you, but it's something to consider. Good luck. @Vanessa…….Sure, there’s always a chance things could work out. But it just seems like this guy’s track record is a bit shaky. He seems like he’s not really sure WHAT he wants. If you move back, it’s possible you could be with him, but the question is, would the same thing happen again. Is he going to change his mind like he did the last time? We can’t answer that for you, but it’s something to consider. Good luck.

]]> Comment on Will he come back? by Vanessa http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/will-he-come-back-2/comment-page-1/#comment-73439 Vanessa Sun, 05 Feb 2012 01:41:05 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3622#comment-73439 When i went for summer vacation, i connected with an old acquaintance of mine, and we spent like a whole month flirting and we met occasionally. One day he asked me out and confessed that he reall liked me and wanted to give us a shot. I accepted. We met every day for a whole week(a record for me since i tire of men very quickly, but him i could listen and talk to forever) but we connected in such a way, you'd think we'd been together for ages. He knew 'd have to go back to my home country in a month but we'd said we'd make it work somehow, since i would be moving there next year(he even made me take his best friend's number so he would keep an eye on the guy) but one day he'd said that things wouldn't work out between ua because he simply didnt have enough time and it was easier to break it off now because we'd just end up hurting each other with the distance and the mistrust. A few months after that he tezted me becauae he was feeling guilty for how things turned out and for the hell he had put me through. I last spoke to him on new years eve(i'd called to wish him)when he asked me when was i coming back. His best friend(now a close friend of mine) told me the guy wouldnt talk to me because he was afraid that he'd hurt me. I want to know if there's any chance on him and me getting back together because this is driving me crazy and i cant wait to move already! Please help me out? When i went for summer vacation, i connected with an old acquaintance of mine, and we spent like a whole month flirting and we met occasionally. One day he asked me out and confessed that he reall liked me and wanted to give us a shot. I accepted. We met every day for a whole week(a record for me since i tire of men very quickly, but him i could listen and talk to forever) but we connected in such a way, you’d think we’d been together for ages. He knew ‘d have to go back to my home country in a month but we’d said we’d make it work somehow, since i would be moving there next year(he even made me take his best friend’s number so he would keep an eye on the guy) but one day he’d said that things wouldn’t work out between ua because he simply didnt have enough time and it was easier to break it off now because we’d just end up hurting each other with the distance and the mistrust. A few months after that he tezted me becauae he was feeling guilty for how things turned out and for the hell he had put me through. I last spoke to him on new years eve(i’d called to wish him)when he asked me when was i coming back. His best friend(now a close friend of mine) told me the guy wouldnt talk to me because he was afraid that he’d hurt me. I want to know if there’s any chance on him and me getting back together because this is driving me crazy and i cant wait to move already! Please help me out?

]]> Comment on Is he playing me? by Shannon http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/is-he-playing-me/comment-page-1/#comment-73406 Shannon Sat, 04 Feb 2012 20:58:14 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2084#comment-73406 There'es this guy and recently we've become close friends. He said he liked me and at first i couldn't believe it- he's one of the really popular kids, and is very attractive. And so we had been texting every nights, and then all of a sudden he asked me for pictures. And at that moment it hit me. Maybe he was just saying all this sweet stuff because of what he wanted. I have already been used before like that, and it hurt me so much. Just about a year later, and i'm finally over him, but I really don't want to go back down that path. When i said no to the pictures, it kynda seemed like he didn't really wanna be friends with me. He didn't text me good morning, and the conversations we had every night stopped. Maybe i'm reading to much into this, but i've been in this position as i said before and i can't tell if he's being genuine or not. I really don't wanna go through it again. What do youu think? Thanks Shannon, xo There’es this guy and recently we’ve become close friends. He said he liked me and at first i couldn’t believe it- he’s one of the really popular kids, and is very attractive. And so we had been texting every nights, and then all of a sudden he asked me for pictures. And at that moment it hit me. Maybe he was just saying all this sweet stuff because of what he wanted. I have already been used before like that, and it hurt me so much. Just about a year later, and i’m finally over him, but I really don’t want to go back down that path. When i said no to the pictures, it kynda seemed like he didn’t really wanna be friends with me. He didn’t text me good morning, and the conversations we had every night stopped. Maybe i’m reading to much into this, but i’ve been in this position as i said before and i can’t tell if he’s being genuine or not. I really don’t wanna go through it again. What do youu think?
Thanks Shannon, xo

]]> Comment on Friends with Benefits: Why Me? by I want a real relationship, not just a sexual one | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/friends-with-benefits-why-me/comment-page-1/#comment-73088 I want a real relationship, not just a sexual one | The Guy's Perspective Fri, 03 Feb 2012 15:36:10 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3684#comment-73088 [...] Friends with benefits; why me? [...] [...] Friends with benefits; why me? [...]

]]> Comment on The Ex Files; friends with benefits? by I want a real relationship, not just a sexual one | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/the-ex-files-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-73087 I want a real relationship, not just a sexual one | The Guy's Perspective Fri, 03 Feb 2012 15:35:54 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5332#comment-73087 [...] The Ex Files: Friends with benefits?  [...] [...] The Ex Files: Friends with benefits?  [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice: Getting Played- Listen to your friends by I cheated on my “Friends with Benefits” guy and now he hates me | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-and-dating-advice-getting-played-part-2-listen-to-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-72820 I cheated on my “Friends with Benefits” guy and now he hates me | The Guy's Perspective Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:12:05 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2966#comment-72820 [...] Listen to your friends [...] [...] Listen to your friends [...]

]]> Comment on Are we “Friends with Benefits” (FWB) or does he want something more? by I cheated on my “Friends with Benefits” guy and now he hates me | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/are-we-friends-with-benefits-fwb-or-does-he-want-something-more/comment-page-1/#comment-72819 I cheated on my “Friends with Benefits” guy and now he hates me | The Guy's Perspective Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:11:48 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5244#comment-72819 [...] Are we friends with benefits or does he want something more?  [...] [...] Are we friends with benefits or does he want something more?  [...]

]]> Comment on Friends with benefits? by I cheated on my “Friends with Benefits” guy and now he hates me | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/friends-with-benefits-3/comment-page-1/#comment-72818 I cheated on my “Friends with Benefits” guy and now he hates me | The Guy's Perspective Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:10:55 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3176#comment-72818 [...] Friends with benefits?  [...] [...] Friends with benefits?  [...]

]]> Comment on The Ex Files; friends with benefits? by I cheated on my “Friends with Benefits” guy and now he hates me | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/the-ex-files-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-72817 I cheated on my “Friends with Benefits” guy and now he hates me | The Guy's Perspective Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:10:38 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5332#comment-72817 [...] The Ex Files: Friends with benefits?  [...] [...] The Ex Files: Friends with benefits?  [...]

]]> Comment on Is my ex-boyfriend still into me? by This girl is confusing me; what do I do? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/is-my-ex-boyfriend-still-into-me/comment-page-1/#comment-72550 This girl is confusing me; what do I do? | The Guy's Perspective Wed, 01 Feb 2012 12:00:49 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3917#comment-72550 [...] Is my ex-boyfriend still into me? [...] [...] Is my ex-boyfriend still into me? [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship Advice from The Guy’s Perspective: Getting Played-Trust your Gut by This girl is confusing me; what do I do? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-advice-from-the-guys-perspective-getting-played-trust-your-gut/comment-page-1/#comment-72549 This girl is confusing me; what do I do? | The Guy's Perspective Wed, 01 Feb 2012 11:59:56 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2883#comment-72549 [...] Getting Played – Trust your Gut [...] [...] Getting Played – Trust your Gut [...]

]]> Comment on Not over his ex; should I leave now or give it a chance? by This girl is confusing me; what do I do? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/not-over-his-ex-should-i-leave-now-or-give-it-a-chance/comment-page-1/#comment-72548 This girl is confusing me; what do I do? | The Guy's Perspective Wed, 01 Feb 2012 11:59:40 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5037#comment-72548 [...] Not over his ex; should I leave now or give it a chance?  [...] [...] Not over his ex; should I leave now or give it a chance?  [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice from The Guy’s Perspective: Dating a younger guy by Friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-and-dating-advice-from-the-guys-perspective-dating-a-younger-guy/comment-page-1/#comment-72314 Friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:41:16 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3328#comment-72314 [...] Dating a Younger Guy [...] [...] Dating a Younger Guy [...]

]]> Comment on I suggested Friends with Benefits (FWB): Did I just dig myself into a hole? by Friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/i-suggested-friends-with-benefits-fwb-did-i-just-dig-myself-into-a-hole/comment-page-1/#comment-72313 Friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:41:01 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4412#comment-72313 [...] I suggested friends with benefits; did I just dig myself into a hole? [...] [...] I suggested friends with benefits; did I just dig myself into a hole? [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice: Getting Played- Listen to your friends by Friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-and-dating-advice-getting-played-part-2-listen-to-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-72311 Friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:40:45 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2966#comment-72311 [...] Listen to your friends [...] [...] Listen to your friends [...]

]]> Comment on Are we “Friends with Benefits” (FWB) or does he want something more? by Friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/are-we-friends-with-benefits-fwb-or-does-he-want-something-more/comment-page-1/#comment-72310 Friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:40:30 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5244#comment-72310 [...] Are we friends with benefits or does he want something more?  [...] [...] Are we friends with benefits or does he want something more?  [...]

]]> Comment on Friends with Benefits: Why Me? by Friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/friends-with-benefits-why-me/comment-page-1/#comment-72309 Friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:40:15 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3684#comment-72309 [...] Friends with benefits; why me? [...] [...] Friends with benefits; why me? [...]

]]> Comment on The Ex Files; friends with benefits? by Friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/the-ex-files-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-72308 Friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:39:59 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5332#comment-72308 [...] The Ex Files: Friends with benefits?  [...] [...] The Ex Files: Friends with benefits?  [...]

]]> Comment on Friends with Benefits: Why Me? by Dating my ex’s friend: Friends with benefits | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/friends-with-benefits-why-me/comment-page-1/#comment-72306 Dating my ex’s friend: Friends with benefits | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:36:12 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3684#comment-72306 [...] Friends with benefits; why me? [...] [...] Friends with benefits; why me? [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice: Getting Played- Listen to your friends by Dating my ex’s friend: Friends with benefits | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-and-dating-advice-getting-played-part-2-listen-to-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-72305 Dating my ex’s friend: Friends with benefits | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:35:57 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2966#comment-72305 [...] Listen to your friends [...] [...] Listen to your friends [...]

]]> Comment on Booty call or relationship trouble? by Dating my ex’s friend: Friends with benefits | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/booty-call-or-relationship-trouble/comment-page-1/#comment-72304 Dating my ex’s friend: Friends with benefits | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:35:41 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5238#comment-72304 [...] Booty call or relationship trouble  [...] [...] Booty call or relationship trouble  [...]

]]> Comment on Friends with benefits? by Dating my ex’s friend: Friends with benefits | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/friends-with-benefits-3/comment-page-1/#comment-72303 Dating my ex’s friend: Friends with benefits | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:34:53 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3176#comment-72303 [...] Friends with benefits?  [...] [...] Friends with benefits?  [...]

]]> Comment on Are we “Friends with Benefits” (FWB) or does he want something more? by Dating my ex’s friend: Friends with benefits | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/are-we-friends-with-benefits-fwb-or-does-he-want-something-more/comment-page-1/#comment-72302 Dating my ex’s friend: Friends with benefits | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:34:38 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5244#comment-72302 [...] Are we “friends with benefits” or does he want something more? [...] [...] Are we “friends with benefits” or does he want something more? [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice from The Guy’s Perspective: Dating Older Men by I didn’t want the divorce; How do I get him back? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/dating-older-men/comment-page-1/#comment-72271 I didn’t want the divorce; How do I get him back? | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 14:56:57 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3045#comment-72271 [...] Dating Older Men [...] [...] Dating Older Men [...]

]]> Comment on Divorced and now online Dating: Am I booty call or more? by I didn’t want the divorce; How do I get him back? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/divorced-and-now-online-dating-am-i-booty-call-or-more/comment-page-1/#comment-72270 I didn’t want the divorce; How do I get him back? | The Guy's Perspective Tue, 31 Jan 2012 14:56:42 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=4469#comment-72270 [...] Divorced and online dating [...] [...] Divorced and online dating [...]

]]> Comment on I’m with someone who still has feelings for his ex by One of the Guys http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/im-with-someone-who-still-has-feelings-for-his-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-72082 One of the Guys Mon, 30 Jan 2012 18:59:58 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2458#comment-72082 @Jennifer......Thanks for offering your viewpoint to the discussion. Some people think they're broken up only to realize that they haven't let go. These feelings often don't surface until someone new is in the picture. Hopefully your guy will realize how good he has it now with you and move past his previous relationship. Keep us posted. And good luck. @Jennifer……Thanks for offering your viewpoint to the discussion. Some people think they’re broken up only to realize that they haven’t let go. These feelings often don’t surface until someone new is in the picture. Hopefully your guy will realize how good he has it now with you and move past his previous relationship. Keep us posted. And good luck.

]]> Comment on I’m with someone who still has feelings for his ex by Jennifer http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/im-with-someone-who-still-has-feelings-for-his-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-72076 Jennifer Mon, 30 Jan 2012 18:36:45 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2458#comment-72076 I too am in the same situation, Leila. It's weird because it's the exact same problem, only my guy is 18 and we don't live together. So we're practically young and reckless. Last night we were talking and laughing on the phone and all of a sudden his voice got a little raspy and he started to hesitate to tell me that he had gotten a text from his ex, and he has been, he's just now deciding to tell me. Which hurt me, cause it made me feel like he feels as if he can't talk to me about anything. Now he's all sad and depressed because of her... I told him I'd be there for him no matter what happens, even if he goes back to her. Yeah, I'll be hurt, but it's for the best. I still don't know what to do.. So I guess I'll just fade out until then... I too am in the same situation, Leila. It’s weird because it’s the exact same problem, only my guy is 18 and we don’t live together. So we’re practically young and reckless.
Last night we were talking and laughing on the phone and all of a sudden his voice got a little raspy and he started to hesitate to tell me that he had gotten a text from his ex, and he has been, he’s just now deciding to tell me. Which hurt me, cause it made me feel like he feels as if he can’t talk to me about anything. Now he’s all sad and depressed because of her… I told him I’d be there for him no matter what happens, even if he goes back to her. Yeah, I’ll be hurt, but it’s for the best. I still don’t know what to do.. So I guess I’ll just fade out until then…

]]> Comment on Relationship Advice from The Guy’s Perspective: Getting Played-Trust your Gut by The Ex Files; friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/relationship-advice-from-the-guys-perspective-getting-played-trust-your-gut/comment-page-1/#comment-71713 The Ex Files; friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective Sun, 29 Jan 2012 13:03:55 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=2883#comment-71713 [...] Getting Played – Trust your Gut [...] [...] Getting Played – Trust your Gut [...]

]]> Comment on Booty call or relationship trouble? by The Ex Files; friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/booty-call-or-relationship-trouble/comment-page-1/#comment-71712 The Ex Files; friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective Sun, 29 Jan 2012 13:03:38 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5238#comment-71712 [...] Booty call or relationship trouble  [...] [...] Booty call or relationship trouble  [...]

]]> Comment on Relationship and Dating Advice from The Guy’s Perspective: Dating Older Men by The Ex Files; friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/videos-2/dating-older-men/comment-page-1/#comment-71709 The Ex Files; friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective Sun, 29 Jan 2012 12:58:13 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=3045#comment-71709 [...] Dating Older Men [...] [...] Dating Older Men [...]

]]> Comment on Are we “Friends with Benefits” (FWB) or does he want something more? by The Ex Files; friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective http://theguysperspective.com/relationship-advice-questionanswer/are-we-friends-with-benefits-fwb-or-does-he-want-something-more/comment-page-1/#comment-71708 The Ex Files; friends with benefits? | The Guy's Perspective Sun, 29 Jan 2012 12:57:56 +0000 http://theguysperspective.com/?p=5244#comment-71708 [...] Are we “friends with benefits” or does he want something more? [...] [...] Are we “friends with benefits” or does he want something more? [...]

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