Comments on: Just hold the damn door!

By: Shabnam Sultan

Shabnam Sultan — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:59:10 +0000

You are amazing the way you write . I definetly like men showing chivalry to women. I like the way you have played with words. Keep it up.

By: BK

BK — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 11:28:25 +0000

It certainly shouldn’t be a hard thing to hold the door for another guy. This is a common courtesy of how we must be treating others, regardless of whether the other person is a woman or just another guy.

By: Tina T

Tina T — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:37:52 +0000

I generally think that it’s common courtesy to hold the door for the person behind you no matter who it is. I think that guys like to size each other up (I could probably word that better) and then once they decide that the other guy is OK they relax. I think that’s part of the pack mentality. Men need to decide if the other guy is happy to roll with the back or is looking to fight to become the alpha.

By: admin

admin — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 22:08:49 +0000

We like “the equal opportunity holder.” See, you are “ONE of THE GUYS!”

By: admin

admin — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 22:07:59 +0000

Well that is so lame! I’m sure you still look great. And of course that should have nothing to do w/courtesy. This is exactly what we’re bitchin’ about!!

By: Dorothy Stahlnecker

Dorothy Stahlnecker — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 21:40:31 +0000

This is probably true so now I’ll have to watch and darn if it won’t bring a smile to my face..you guys write so darn well..

Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com

By: Raven

Raven — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 18:21:36 +0000

I’ve noticed that guys are much more likely to hold the door for a woman if she’s attractive. Due to a medication I was on I gained a lot of weight over the last year and not nearly as many men hold the door for me now as they did when I was thin and smokin’ hot. I’ve lost count of how many men have slammed the door in my face lately, and I walk with a cane!

Great post as usual, Guys!

Have a great day!

By: Ryhen | Mind Power

Ryhen | Mind Power — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:21:50 +0000

hahaha. Just absofreakinglutely brilliant! I never thought O.T.G. can come up with something like this. Courtesy for the other guy… hehe. I guess you’re right. We don’t really show that to each other. However, I don’t think that it’s much about being gay or so. I think men are just generally pragmatic. I mean, if you hold the door for another guy, you’re not thinking, “Hey, I can probably get this dude’s name and call him later.” Nope. Doesn’t happen. No benefit or satisfaction whatsoever.

“But when it comes to Guy on Guy, that’s a whole different ball game.”

Affirmative. I don’t think I’d want to grab a ball held by another guy.

By: concord carpenter

concord carpenter — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 20:37:44 +0000

I gotta say I agree with you and have seen this myself.

I’m an equal opportunity holder – I hold the door for the next person regardless of who they are.

Great post guys!

By: admin

admin — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 20:28:25 +0000

Guys do seem to be confused in general. However, we haven’t experienced too much backlash for being nice and considerate.

But yes, so many people walk around so preoccupied in their own little worlds that they don’t notice their surroundings. That’s no excuse. Get your head out of your ass!!

The world is too crowded to not consider others!

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 19:28:42 +0000

I agree with askcherlock about the “guys have become confused theory”. Personally, I hold the door for anyone most of the time, no matter how many times I tout myself as a mean bastard. Unfortunately, the militant sect of the feminist movement, which seems more directed in forcing or brainwashing people to believe in the SUPERIORITY of women over men -plus the media- have done more damage in all of this. Including something as simple as door opening. Virtually every ad or sitcom these days make men look like bufoons or women abusers. Ever watch the Lifetime Channel? True feminism is about EQUALITY, I think or so I read. Anyway, if people keep seeing or hearing the same crap from the media or whatever group enought times, they will believe it, unfortunately. I’ll get off my soapbox now.

By: nothingprofound

nothingprofound — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 16:43:38 +0000

I think people are in such a rush to get where they’re going and have so much on their minds they’re not even aware what’s happening around them. We need to slow down and look around more and rediscover other people and the world. Once we realize other people are actually “real,” we might start treating them with more kindness and respect.

By: askcherlock

askcherlock — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 06:22:58 +0000

Unfortunately, chivalry went out the door with the Feminist movement. There are times when such things go too far. Women love chivalry. Well, most of us do. But I think Guys are confused. They don’t know whether they should hold the door for a woman because she might be offended, and they are reluctant to hold the door for another guy for fear of being perceived as Gay. Who said “It’s a man’s world”?

By: Barbara Ehrentreu

Barbara Ehrentreu — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 04:55:48 +0000

As usual guys you have put your finger on an annoyance. I’m not too sure that men always hold the door for women. Sometimes a man will just let go of a door in front of you and not look back to see who it has closed on. Most men hold doors open for me, but women sometimes don’t even bother. It happens many times at public events where you have to keep a door open for the people coming behind you.

I’m not sure why this is happening. I know that in the first flush of women’s liberation many women didn’t want men holding doors or doing any chivalrous things for them. Men might have gotten out of the habit of holding doors open so they don’t bother. However, slamming a door in someone’s face is just wrong. When a woman does that to me I feel that person has not learned to be courteous to fellow human beings.

Though holding a door might not be a big deal it is an aspect of civilization. When people live in close quarters there needs to be respect for space and basic courtesy. It may be that too many people have too much else on their minds to think about being courteous. But this intense selfishness can only be bad for society. People have to take care of each other. I know that in a crisis people can be wonderful, but maybe they need to be wonderful every day!

Come read about heroes. They do whatever they need to do regardless of consequence:
http://www.examiner.com/x-33746-NY-Literature-Examiner~y2010m1d8-How-real-are-the-heroes-in-literature

By: ChrisJ

ChrisJ — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 04:07:41 +0000

I’ve noticed an increase in door holding by 15ish-year-old males. Of course it probably helps that I am old enough to be their, um, erg, um, grandmother. But still, their manners are good and my sense is that it’s genuine, usually.

On the other hand, one Hell’s Angel (in full colours) recently whacked another (in full colours) across the chest and said, “Hold the fu..ing door for the lady!”

What we should make of these two occurences of door holding, I don’t know.

By: GoGo

GoGo — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 02:04:42 +0000

Great post GUYS! Your writing is genius! I love the football analogy, the wolf descriptions & the play on words (*lol*)
And it is SO true – chivalry is out the door! I take the commuter train to work & people let the door slam in your face! What’s up with that? And its not just the young teenagers like you’d expect, its the 50 somethings too! I hope you are starting a movement with this post, BRING IT BACK!!!