Comments on: The Looming Forest

By: E

Mon, 29 Mar 2010 00:22:15 +0000

I had never thought about it being a double standard before but you may be right. I shave my legs and underarms – because not doing so is just plain gross – and the bikini area to! and I wax my eyebrows. And all Marine has to do is shave his face….. yeah not really fair. But guess thats part of it. Luckily he’s not to hairy. If I guy is really hairy I say wax. But not sure I would recommend the extremity of laser surgery!

By: admin

admin — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 23:51:04 +0000

@Jen……lumberjacks huh? Well I guess we can’t compete!

@Lola…..I’ve never heard of hair not growing back. In my experience it always grows back thicker. I hope it doesn’t completely disappear, at least not on top. Down there, well, that’s a different story.

@Meleah…..Funny! Yes, there are some cavemen over here. I’ll definitely relay the message. Thanks for that!!

@Den…….and we certainly don’t want to be beasts!

By: Den Relojo

Den Relojo — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 23:27:25 +0000

Hairs are good as long as they are in moderation. An excessive hair will make one appear like a beast.

By: meleah rebeccah

meleah rebeccah — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 22:46:12 +0000

Women: Is there a major double standard going on with body hair? Do you care? How do you like to groom yourself? (Please share if you’d like) And how do you really feel about body hair on guys?

Yes, I do think there is a double standard. And, yes, I am very diligent when it comes to removing and maintaining MY own body hair. As far as how I feel about man hair? Well I dont really mind it, unless we are dealing with EXCESSIVE body hair. And by excessive, I mean caveman like. I think some guys could use a little ‘manscaping’ in certain areas. And, I definitely appreciate a man that waxes his BACK. At least in the summer time!

By: Lola

Lola — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 21:24:01 +0000

Me and my guy are both groomed but I think I have a thing about hair in general. I dont mind it too much on men but I’ve always trimmed, waxed etc but it was never really about look for me. It was just another part of my life I could control. The weird thing is, the more I groomed the less hair grew back so I dont know what Im going to do when it disappears for good LOL :/

By: Jen

Jen — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 20:38:02 +0000

I don’t mind a guy with a fair amount of body hair. But then I like my men like lumberjacks. I shave my legs and my armpits. Not so much in the winter but in the summer I do. Not because I want to impress a man but it’s and either or kind of thing. I don’t have the patience to grow it out and it itches when it gets too long. And, I’m not European.

By: admin

admin — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 17:39:29 +0000

@Fatima……..thanks. We try hard to keep well groomed, but sometimes it just gets away from us. Appreciate your thoughts.

By: Fatima

Fatima — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 15:29:16 +0000

Splendid post Guys and I have just gone to catch on the other’s. All my hubby care’s about is simplicity, I mostly get my eyebrow threaded, so I don’t end up looking like a high school gal with bushy eyebrows. It’s nice to see well groomed men out there …. I don’t think they however need to spend so much time and money doing soo like us women …..

By: admin

admin — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 01:50:30 +0000

@Charlene…….that’s what I think! And that’s what I told the other Guys! But I get the creepy thing too. Shaving the whole area might freak out someone you didn’t know so well…..like your doctor during your physical exam!! And yes, we’re all over the ears, nose, etc. Tough to keep up with the weeds though!

By: Charlene

Charlene — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 01:31:29 +0000

Oh – and top places we DON’T want to see hair are ears, nose, shoulders and back.

Use your discretion for the other areas…. but like I said, don’t go crazy. (see part 2 of my last comment)

By: Charlene

Charlene — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 01:28:07 +0000

I’ll keep this simple (no offense): If you want to get laid on a regular basis, some “manscaping” is DEFINITELY required.

But not TOO much. Unless you’re a porn star. Or a swimmer training for the Olympics. Otherwise it’s just creepy.

By: admin

admin — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 22:07:23 +0000

@D…..funny! Yes, like you said, a mild trim just to keep the forest at bay.

By: D

Sun, 14 Mar 2010 21:58:16 +0000

Oh…now this is a very sensitive subject (no pun intended)
LOL@ bluzdude….
Personally as in a one woman’s opinion….whats good for the goose is most definitely good for the gander!

I doubt either partner wants to be distracted by stray hair follicles…noting is more unsexy that having to floss while in action or worse yet leaning over and spitting or choking up a furball.

Seriously though…I think it is a respect for your partner to at least do a mild trim~

By: One of The Guys

One of The Guys — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 12:21:37 +0000

@Lovy………maybe things are changing, and people are starting to like the natural look again. This hair removal craze has me dizzy!

@Cathy………there are many guys we consult with, but three actually write the articles. “One of The Guys” (ME), “Suburban Guy”, “Mr. Nice Guy”
That’s very funny about your brother, but is he single? Because it sounds like this is his way of breaking the ice before he goes in for the “kill.” And no, you didn’t share too much! Love it.

@Kelly……that’s a funny…..and sad story. Yes, that might have been a bit alarming. I did have a friend who went out with a woman who had a lot of hair on her face/cheeks. It wasn’t a beard, but it was headed in that direction. Anyway, she was very attractive though, so he went for it anyway. I was 100% supportive of that decision. Thanks!

@Ashley……Don’t be mad at us. THE GUYS love you! And yes, we want to hear that story sometime. Groomed seems to be the consensus.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 07:06:00 +0000

I am totally picturing the GUYS sitting around a ’round’ table like fucking monkeys picking through each others body hair!!!

Ewwwwwwww! This Crazy Brunette totally could have lived without that specific brain fuck!

Let’s see… Okay, well I shave everything. I see no need to have hair all over my vag. Why would this be necessary? What the fuck was it put there for in the first place? I shave my legs, my arm pits, and my eye-brows… That’s another story entirely. (Maybe I’ll tell you when I’m not angry with you!)

I don’t mind hairy men. Don’t get me wrong, because I’d much rather be screwing someone GROOMED.

PS. I don’t like finding hair in places that I don’t have any!

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 04:40:25 +0000

I really don’t care if women have body hair, as long as it’s not around the nipples. My friend had a girlfriend he was boinkin’ in the dark one night. Suddenly, he raises up, allowing moonlight to shine through the window and there he sees that she has a dozen or so curly black hairs around the ol’ nips. Other than this, this high school girl was pretty hot at the time. Not because her nipple hairs were making her hot but…

Anyway, my friend was so traumatized, by the sight of her booby hair, he got up, abruptly, and said he was feeling ill (actually, he was), all of a sudden, and had to leave. So he did and that was the night their short relationship ended. Later in life, this girl was admitted into a mental institution. No kidding. But I seriously doubt it was because my friend walked out in the middle of their “doing it”.

Now, I feel that there’s nothing wrong with a guy having hair on his chest. I’ve got a hairy chest and my wife loves it. A real turn on for her. Got hair on my back, too. But the rest of the world will just have to deal with it. Besides, I think it makes me look more cuddly, like a teddy bear. But a woman with hair on her chest… No thanks. Different strokes for different folks, I suppose. Glad I could share.

What a nice, light, amusing post.

By: Lovy Boheme

Lovy Boheme — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 22:33:57 +0000

As much as I like the feeling of being clean and hairless, it’s a pain in the ass. However, I feel I only have myself to blame for any pain and suffering I endure as a result of hair removal. No person has ever put any pressure on me one way or the other. In fact, I have come across more people that wish I would keep my hair in the private region which always startles me a little because it’s certainly not the mainstream ideal.

Also, I really respect people that go against dominant culture and keep things natural. Just having the guts to say “This is me as I was made. Take it or leave it.” and actually MEANING it implies a sort of bravery that I just don’t possess.

By: Cathy Voisard

Cathy Voisard — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 21:24:55 +0000

How do I really feel about body hair on guys. Hmm. Well, I’ve been with very hairy men and I’ve been with men who are nearly (naturally) hairless. I must say, I prefer the hairless. There’s nothing worse then snuggling with a guy and putting your face on his hairy chest and getting tickled! My current boyfriend even shaves (is this too private) down THERE. I must say, I like that too.
Is there a double standard? Well, of course there is. Most women I know do a lot of the grooming you mentioned. For me, I do lip, eyebrow, and legs. Never armpits…don’t have much there and I think it’s creepy….and nothing down THERE. (I guess if I was like some of my women friends who grow it up to their belly button or down their thighs, I would. But it grows only in the place it’s supposed to grow. My boyfriend has cut it, however. If he wants to do that, I have no problem with it.)
Grooming down THERE is my brother’s favorite topic. He believes that women today over a certain age…roughly 35…do NOT groom down below unless they have a real problem. It wasn’t in style when we were growing up. But women under the age of 35 ALL do it. My brother quizzes every woman he meets on this topic, just to prove his age theory. Even women he’s met for 30 seconds. A little embarrassing. But over the years, I’ve discovered his theory is correct. You’d be hard pressed to find a 20 year old girl that doesn’t cut it into some kind of a strip or something like that.
Thanks for another fun post.
P.S. How many guys are there, anyway?

By: admin

admin — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 19:59:26 +0000

@bluzdude……good for you!! Yes, let’s be men, right!

@Barbara…..thanks for your opinions. It helps a lot! And thanks for the info on laser surgery. We’ll try to keep ourselves groomed.

@GoGo…………..thanks for the info on your private grooming. Interesting info! Your guy sounds like he’s lucky.

By: GoGo

GoGo — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 19:05:34 +0000

Great post GUYS! (again!) I think I go both ways here…. but mostly, I’d choose a guy WITHOUT hair over one that does. Maybe because my guy has very little & I’m so in love with him.
I do think its a little weird that I have more body hair than my husband, but mostly from the prospective that I have it – NOT that he doesn’t. (Its not like I’m growing a beard or anything – you probably wouldn’t notice) I do really like his smooth chest though. It feels good. Kinda like when your GUY kisses you right after he shaves…yum!
So…I vote to LASER it OFF! …at least the back!
For me, I enjoy pampering myself once or twice a year by getting a bikini wax or a fresh upper lip & brow. As for the more “delicate” areas….I like to change it up with the season. A little trim can feel real good under the jeans if you know what I mean!

By: Barbara Ehrentreu

Barbara Ehrentreu — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 17:23:43 +0000

LOL GUYS!!! As a woman I shaved and waxed and plucked and threaded (that’s another eyebrow treatment).But I was never too hairy and as I got older it got less and less. But I like a little hair on a man’s chest and even a little on the back isn’t bad, but not like the wolf man.:) I think a little is very sexy and men shouldn’t wax it all off. I do think if the hair is bothering you then trim it. But laser can be very painful. My daughter had the full body thing done and she had to go back five or six times for the full thing. It’s also expensive and unnecessary if you don’t need it.

Good for the guys who accept a woman as she is. But there has to be a way to tell the sexes apart, don’t you think? Shaving is good, but beards are also good if they aren’t scratchy. Men should look groomed and clean, period.:)

By: bluzdude

bluzdude — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 15:05:33 +0000

I think men should look like men and not little boys. I ain’t shavin’ nothin’!

Well, except maybe some occasional “manscaping” below decks, just to keep things presentable.

By: admin

admin — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 14:48:26 +0000

@TJ……..I’m glad you’re taking a break. Love your comment. And thanks for some insight into the world of TJ. Wink, wink!
But seriously, you’re right, it’s not just the commercial/fashion industry, it’s all of us. And it starts young. We have to teach our girls to be confident in who they are, apart from how they look.

@BK……..for me, it’s all good. Smooth skin, hair, whatever. So yeah, save the money!

@Ryhen…….good to have you back! Yes, it’s all about what makes us comfortable. Of course the question could arise, WHY are we uncomfortable? Is it nature or nurture? Like TJ said in an earlier comment, what’s causing us to feel this way? Glad you’re set up “correctly” for your partner!!

@Mr. Stupid……thanks! You enjoy as well.

By: Mr. Stupid

Mr. Stupid — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 14:36:29 +0000

There was hair poking out of your eye? OMG, I couldn’t stop laughing for that. Hair sure is a big thing to think about… lol
Wonderful post Guys!

Have a great Sunday!:)

By: Ryhen | Mind Power

Ryhen | Mind Power — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 14:31:37 +0000

Dagnammit, I almost choked on my coffee while reading this. Hilarious!

[Do you think we should shave our body hair or remove it permanently?]

- If it’s there, then it’s there for a purpose, but I always believed that if something makes you feel uncomfortable, then you might as well remove it. Certainly, not all the hair that grows out of the human body necessarily deserves to be treated like an object of inconvenience, but not all should be revered as well.

[What does your partner say about it?]

- None. Fortunately, hair grew on my body at the right places and at the right time.

[Also, what kind of grooming do you prefer in your partner?]

- No armpit hair. Period.

By: BK

BK — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 13:50:15 +0000

I am with you on saving the money and just forget about the surgery. But if the day comes when I am requested to, I think it is only fair to explore the options since I appreciate the smooth skin on women.

By: TJ Lubrano

TJ Lubrano — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 13:23:43 +0000

Very interesting! Laser work sounds not that fun…

I’m not sure if there is a major double standard. In general, I think women have this general need to feel clean and hairless. It makes them feel prettier and more confident. Of course it plays a role that guys like this smooth soft feeling…but to say that women only shave/wax/pluck to please the guys…I don’t think that’s the case. We also mustn’t forget that there is this huge message from the commercial/fashion world that less hair is much better. There are a lot of things to be taken into consideration that feed the unconscious. (yes, having a break from my thesis now and therefore my comment is kinda…well thought through hehe.)

Personally, I like things clean for myself. So wax/shave, luckily no plucking needed ^_^. The brows stay nicely in shape…for now.
For guys, I don’t mind hair…in moderation. I still want to see the face and body…

Awesome read as always!!

Have a nice weekend! Ciao!