Comments on: How are you? A simple multiple choice question.

By: Renee

Renee — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 12:07:33 +0000

I’m with the others with the jester to crotch not a good thing, but would be interesting to see the reactions you might get!!!

How are you?, has become so mundane, that now I just say something about the weather..beautiful day, is it ever going to stop raining, will be glad for spring ect….because in reality most people just aren’t really interested.
BUT then you get that one person you do ask and you are like how do they even get up in the morning from all the drama in their lives…
and by the end of the conversation you feel as though your energy has been totally drained from you. You then ask yourself what the hell did I ask that for?

By: admin

admin — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 11:55:34 +0000

OK, you’re at least the third person who’s mentioned the crotch example. Maybe we’ll have to come up with a different
gesture for an emergency bathroom break. But we still like the duality of it!

By: Charlene

Charlene — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 09:48:29 +0000

Okay – ONLY a guy would come up with the option of “Nod and point to crotch.” LOL! To a woman, that gesture says something more along the lines of, “I’m horny and can’t think or talk when my crotch is using up all my brain cells.”

That said, my strategy is simply to provide a compliment in lieu of other greetings.

“Nice shirt!” I may add a question if I actually want to interact but not mentally able to handle a life story. “Love that skirt. Is it new?”

By: ethelmaepotter

ethelmaepotter — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 07:33:36 +0000

Right on the money! I DETEST being asked the state of my being, when I know the person making the inquiry doesn’t care a fig if I’m fit as a fiddle or standing with one foot in the grave. Which is why I never, ever ask the question unless I truly care and have time for the response.
I remember, years ago, encountering a good friend and his family just leaving a restaurant as we were entering. My husband made the mistake of asking the ancient grandmother “How are you?” and she proceded to tell him. For about fifteen minutes. My friend turned to me and said, “Don’tcha hate it when you ask and they actually TELL you?”
And, uh…yeah, I’m with Date Girl…please don’t point to your crotch when a woman asks how you are. Or a man. You might just need a bathroom break, but I’d bet good money you’ll end up with a smacked face or a black eye.

By: Dorothy Stahlnecker

Dorothy Stahlnecker — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 02:15:22 +0000

You are so right and I’m sorry I laughed as I read this post. People usually don’t care about how we really are,,a grunt or a groan will suffice. LOL

Hugs to you….

Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com

By: loveskeptic

loveskeptic — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 18:29:10 +0000

The greeting has lost its signifiance over time and as someone mentioned it is merely a recognition of your existence. This happens especially in my work environment where my boss will ask how I am and I would reply, “good. how are you?” with enthusiam, of course. Then he would reply, good, almost suprised that I had even asked. And then finally I conclude this greeting with, “Great.” Note: only a bit of sarcasm was expressed. lol And then we both move on. I don’t know how or why greetings have been simplified, but it is quite irritating regardless of the relationship you have with the person saying, “hello”.

By: Cathy Voisard

Cathy Voisard — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 14:56:30 +0000

great post! I’m with you….when I ask how you are, I really want to know. And my good friends answer me with truthful answers. The rest of the people? I don’t really care, it’s true…so fine will do. LOL!
Thanks for your message on my blog saying I’d been quiet and where was I. I’m not sure if you know this, but I went back to work on Jan 4th after being off of work for a year. And it’s been a really hard transition for me. I haven’t even had time to blog since I returned! But I must, I must.
Thanks for thinking of me!

By: admin

admin — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 11:52:22 +0000

Listening is a lost art. We all need to work on that, guys and gals. But we get that sometimes a nod will suffice.

Date Girl….we promise only to point to our crotch in extreme emergencies.

By: Shabnam Sultan

Shabnam Sultan — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 07:00:50 +0000

For me it depends….. i sometimes listen to others and at times i am just not bothered.

By: BK

BK — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 00:41:49 +0000

I certainly hope I do not fall into any of those camps. When someone needs to talk to me, I hope I’ll be able to put down what I am doing and to give the person full attention.

About the remark of guys in camp 3, I believe in general a lot of people (regardless whether they are men or women) failed to listen; they may be more interested in themselves than to what they are hearing. We should be listening wholehearted to what another is telling us and it shouldn’t depend on whether the topic interest us or not, just as you mentioned.