Tuesday, June 30.
The last day of June is here.Finally!
In our minds, summer officially starts this coming weekend. Something about the 4rth of July helps us shift into summer mode. That's why this Friday we'll be sharing our "Ode to Summer" with you.
But for now, here's the next question and answer.
Dear Guys,
I've been divorced for about a year now and I'm ready to get back on the scene. Well in fact, I joined an online dating service as you know, so I'm definitely ready. But I'm nervous about entering the dating scene again after 10 yrs. of marriage. What should I expect? Are guys going to be open to becoming involved with a women who's divorced with three children living at home?
Lisa, Illinois
Dear Lisa,
Contrary to public belief, not all guys are kid shy. And
it’s not like you have 8 kids!(Reference to recent reality show debacle) But
we’d by lying to you if we said your situation wasn’t a bit more complicated.
It is. Relationships are difficult enough with just two people. Add three more
people into the mix and now you’re trying to juggle five people’s needs instead
of two.
However, that certainly doesn’t mean you won’t meet a guy that you like a lot.
It just means you might have to look harder. Not every man will be willing or
open to take on the whole package. Guys who’ve never been married are less
likely to pursue a situation like yours, but we’ve seen it happen. However many
guys will be plenty open to you and your kids, especially if they have kids
themselves. Keep yourself open minded and you might be surprised.
Your Plan: Keep doing what you're doing. The online dating service that you're currently using has connected a lot of people. Also, if your
friends are trying to fix you up, let them. Say yes to everything social. Go out with your friends if they
ask you to. Go to parties even if it’s all couples. Make an effort and it’s
likely you’ll meet someone you didn’t expect at some place you didn’t expect. And of course keep doing the things you love. If it's reading books, maybe you'll meet someone at a book group. Or if it's hiking, join a hiking club. (Hopefully you have a reliable and CHEAP babysitter to help you out.)
We don’t
underestimate how much more juggling you’re going to have to do than someone without kids. And we realize that having three kids will limit your ability to just say yes. But, you’re obviously motivated to get back out there, so keep going for
it. Please check back with us and tell us how things are going. We’ll be happy
to give our opinions on any new situation that may arise.
And by the way: MOMS RULE!
THE GUYS
