The Guy’s Perspective

So the weekend is here. What are we up to? You guessed it. We're
going golfing. It's only the second time out this whole year, so we're
very excited. But that means we'll be too busy having fun to respond to any questions this weekend.

And since we've had quite a few questions about golf related topics we thought we'd address one today to help put the game in perspective. Have a fun weekend!

The Guys

Dear GUYS,

What’s up with golf?!! My partner of 6 months plays all the
time. I get the feeling he would rather play golf with his buddies than hang
out with me. Can you enlighten me on the allure of golf?

Molly in Ohio

Dear Molly,

We love golf. It’s a drug: and a nasty one at that. The
minute we finish a round of golf, we start thinking about the next time we can
play. It could be the competitive fire in us that constantly wants to beat our
best score, or even more importantly our best buddy. It could just be soaking
up the sun on a beautiful day. Or it could be that we like to hit stuff. And
since golf balls are pretty easy targets, we like to hit them a lot. There is
no better feeling than to hit a ball square with little effort and see it fly
through the air and land right where we intended. And there’s nothing more frustrating
than hitting dirt and seeing the ball skirt into the water. It’s all of these
things that make the game so addictive. So much so, that we’ll spend lots of
money on the best clubs (like they really matter) and countless hours at the
driving range trying to figure out how to hit something that doesn’t even move.
But most importantly, we just like being out with THE GUYS, talking trash,
laughing and feeling carefree. It’s a wonderful feeling. Sometimes life can get
overwhelming.

This makes no sense, does it?

 Now let’s get to the heart of the matter. Just because we’re
addicted to golf doesn’t mean we act on it all the time. Most of us would skip
a game of golf to go out with a woman we were way into. And sure, over time, as
the intense desire to be in the other person’s company 24/7 fades a bit, we
might try to schedule more playing time. But we don’t think golf should start
invading into more important aspects of life.

 What we’re hoping is that your partner will start scheduling
his golf matches around your time together. Maybe he can play early in the
morning or on some night you’re out with your friends. Or maybe he can have a
regular golf night every week. Having some predictability in a schedule can
often take away anxiety and let everyone breathe a bit easier.

 Final Thought:
We do know a few GOLF WIDOWS. They are not happy campers. If it starts leaning
that way, let him putt on someone else’s green. 

THE GUYS

Come back Monday to find out if a guy can be too generous. Chivalry out of control!

Posted in Relationship Advice: Question/Answer