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Dear Guys,

So I dated this guy for a few months. We both discussed a relationship being an option. He owns his own business and after a few months he told me he was just too busy for anything right now. He had been traveling a lot. Then I thought again that maybe he was just not that into.

A few months have passed again and now he’s starting IMing me online. He said we should cook dinner together soon and he also gave me a couple recipes. He said I’m going to expect dinner in exchange for these recipes one of these days. We’ve been talking online for the past couple weeks, but he hasn’t text me or called me yet. I’m a bit confused and being cautious with this because I don’t want to get hurt. I’m just laying low with everything and I guess waiting for him to make the moves again. Mostly because I don’t want him to feel pressured. Is he into me again or should I just not make anyhting of it?


Dear Karen,

Thanks for writing to us.

Typically if guys are really into the woman they are dating they don’t say they don’t have time for anything right now. They might say that BEFORE anything got going, if they were starting their own business, or maybe studying for some big exams, etc, But once a guy starts dating a woman, it’s unlikely they’d back out completely unless they were a bit unsure, or not that into it.

Our gut tells us he’s contacted you again because he’s either bored, lonely, or has a lull in his business so he’s looking for some company with benefits.

In general we don’t like to see this sort of inconsistent behavior. It is all about consistency, so we’d be cautious here. However, if you’re able to just have some fun it might be okay, but we don’t think he’s interested in anything more than that.

Good luck,