Comments on: Question/Answer: His Career

By: Raven

Raven — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 13:48:40 +0000

I must disagree with everyone else. I’d turn around and run now. I dated a workaholic and he just ended up working more and more as time went on. My dad is also a workaholic and he is always working, even on vacations etc. I’d much rather have less money and less things and be able to see my bf (or husband) than never see him cuz he’s always at work or doing something work related.

By: Tina T

Tina T — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 00:43:50 +0000

My husband works many, many hours, which is rough but it is what enabled me to be able to stay home and raise our kids. Everything is a trade off, but I think that his long hours are still less of a strain on our relationship than if we both worked a 40 hour week.

I agree with Brooke about working long hours being way better than a guy who is a slacker and doesn’t care about working hard. That is much worse.

By: Brooke

Brooke — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 16:51:49 +0000

Personally, I like when a guy works really hard. It shows dedication. Now, it does get annoying sometimes, but it sure beats the opposite

By: Dorothy Stahlnecker

Dorothy Stahlnecker — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 12:11:58 +0000

Good post, and your advise is great however, I hope your readers are listening my experience, if you are that committed to work, it isn’t going to change it’s a lifestyle however, Melinda is wise in that she knew it and she’s willing to accept the relationship as it is. You guys are very well prepared with your ideas and comments….almost as wise as this old grandma…

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Dorothy fromg rammoloyg
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By: Date Girl

Date Girl — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 17:38:18 +0000

I think the guys really hit it-you have to talk to him. From my own personal experience, for me a workaholic is always a workaholic, but I hope in this case that’s not true. Good luck!

By: Melinda

Melinda — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 17:05:35 +0000

I can sure relate to this woman’s story–my husband is a total workaholic! But I knew that going in–and his hard work makes my lifestyle rather nice so I cannot complain too much!

Melinda

By: askcherlock

askcherlock — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 15:40:06 +0000

I think this question points directly at one of the primary differences between men and women. Men often define themselves by what they do, most often in a career context. If a woman is involved with a career-oriented man, she needs to be prepared to accept that because she will never change it. Too often women this that if they just love a man enough, he will give her his undivided attention. I doesn’t work that way. Better, I think, to be interested in what he does, discuss his career with him and accept its priority in his life.