Comments on: His Mom

By: Date Girl

Date Girl — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 07:22:43 +0000

There definitely needs to be some balance here. I agree w/the others-talk to him. If you two can’t talk, you shouldn’t be getting married.
Also, think about when and if you decide to have kids. Will your husband take dear mommy’s advice or side w/you if you disagree on how to raise your child? Motherly opinions are all well and good but if you feel strongly about something-your husband needs to back you up. I hope this is all just wedding planning that has your groom just wanting to keep the peace. Otherwise I’m afraid this pattern could just get worse.

By: Tina T

Tina T — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 17:36:14 +0000

I wrote a whole post on men and their mamas, and I have to admit that of all the relationships that can create a rift between a couple, the “man and his momma” scenario is the one most likely to ruin a marriage. Yes, people give their two cents when a wedding is being planned, but most people still feel that it’s the “bride’s day.” I know it belongs to the couple, but usually the bride is more into the details than the groom.

Anyway, I would take it as a warning sign of things to come, and I would speak to him to get a sense of whether he is the kind of guy that can stand up to mom or one who will opt to convince you to cave to his mother’s demands too just to keep the peace with mom.

By: Naughtie Scribe

Naughtie Scribe — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 15:45:27 +0000

I hope all goes well and your future life is all you hope it to be. However, don’t get so caught up in the ideal of married life that you end up skimming past warning markers.

There can be a wedding without his mother, but not without a bride and groom. Tell Rob that the bride is the special lady at the wedding, not his mother. If he feels his mother’s feelings are more important than yours, especially concerning your wedding. Postpone it. Make Rob really consider if he’s ready to be a real husband or not.

Let him know NOW that you will not go along with having his mother interferring in your marriage. I’ve witnessed the kind of drama a momma’s boy-momma brings to a marriage and child rearing. In fact it can end a marriage.

You are worthy of being special to Rob, period. But if you don’t address your concerns now, you may be in for quite a bit of heart ache.

By: askcherlock

askcherlock — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 21:24:54 +0000

Unless the future MIL is helping to pay for the wedding, she should probably stay in the background. If this gal is at the stage of “planning” for a wedding, she may have missed some earlier clues about his mom.

By: Liz

Liz — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 18:56:36 +0000

The GUYS are right, everybody wants to get involve in weddings. But I think it’s too much if your soon to be MIL gets what she wants, it’s your wedding not hers. Rob should be asking for your approval. Go ahead and talk to him, if he doesn’t listen… uh-oh, I smell trouble.