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I went out with this guy for almost a year and a half. About a month ago I broke up with him because he was getting a little to serious for 8th grade. We both have gone out with other people since then but both of our new relationships haven’t worked out. Now we are in the same summer school course and all my friends say that it’s a possibility we could get back together. And I am absolutely head over heels for him, but I dont know if he is into me. I’ve caught him looking at me once or twice. I’ve also been walking home with him, but when we talk it’s kinda casual talk. However, when his friend walk with us he kind of ignores me and he doesn’t really talk to me in class either. I don’t know what to do because I’m pretty sure I’m in love with him. But I don’t know if he likes me. I can’t read his actions.

Please help me understand how he feels about me and if it’s a possibility to get back together with him

Thank you,

Angel

Dear Angel,

Thanks for your question. We’ll do our best to help you figure this out, although without actually being there it’s hard to say for sure what’s going on.

Let us understand something first: You broke up with him because he was getting too serious for 8th grade? But now, after a little break, you find yourself in love with him again, which sounds pretty serious to us. We’re just wondering if something’s changed for you? If and when you get back together, are you going to all of a sudden decide it’s too serious again and break up with him again? Or do you think you’ve reached a new level of maturity and understanding about relationships?

Your instincts are right. Eighth grade is a bit young to be intensely serious about someone. We think it’s a good time for exploration. A time to try out different “outfits” and see which one fits best. We’re not saying it’s too young to be in love, but at your age, love comes and goes so quickly, it’s hard to define really.

But let’s get back to your question. It’s likely he’s still into you, since you were the one who broke up with him. Trust your gut. Listen to your friends. You would know better than us what his “looks” actually mean. (Check out our videos on these very topics. See our video page.)

However, if he’s only looking at you and acting casual, it might be that he’s gun shy since he doesn’t know where you stand. You might have to take some initiative and make it obvious to him that you’re interested again. Eighth grade male egos are very fragile, and you’ve already wounded him once, so he’s protecting himself.

Good luck,

THE GUYS

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Question 1:

If a guy talks to you on and off, going through little stages such as talks to you a whole bunch, smiles at you, tells you he thinks you’re cute. Then suddenly he stops talking to you, stops smiling at you, then all together stops talking to you, and then ignores you, then goes for my friend, what in the hell does this even mean!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Guys: Unfortunately this means this guy is a scoundrel. Of course you don’t say how old he is, so it could just be that he’s young and confused. A young guy is like a squirrel that comes across a yard full of nuts and flits around from one to the other, not knowing which to store first. It’s baffling to us too, and we’re Guys. So our best advice to you is move on, don’t be discouraged, and find yourself some wholesome nerd who will treat you right.

Question 2:

How big is the tooth fairy?

Guys: In our best estimation the tooth fairy is small enough to covertly sneak into houses, but strong enough to carry a whole lot of money around. Of course these days with the value of the dollar plummeting, money isn’t that heavy, so the tooth fairy truly could be a tiny little thing. The best thing to do is keep your eyes closed and sleep. From what we little we know on the subject, the tooth fairy won’t come if you’re awake. So ask yourselves this question. Would you rather be knowledgeable or rich?

Question 3:

My date sniffed me. Why?

Guys: Sniffed you where? And was it audible? Look, what’s wrong with a good sniff? That means he’s way into you. You might have an issue if he comes in the bathroom while you’re reading a magazine and takes a huge sniff and says, “That made my day.” (Although that might not even be a deal breaker. And do females even do that?) Guys do the “darndest” things. We’d say, enjoy the attention.

Question 4:

What if a guy asked me to slow dance at the prom?

Guys: Is this your date? We’re assuming that it is. What we think you’re asking is, “What can I expect during a slow dance at the prom?” If this is the case, you can expect exactly what you’re worried about; a slow moving tubular object that hardens as it creeps up your leg. Sorry, not much else to say. Don’t be too frightened, it’s pretty normal.

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