Comments on: The Duality of Men: Why guys are the way they are

By: E.

E. — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 16:28:29 +0000

Great post as always! I have a few friends that really need to read this.

By: admin

admin — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 13:09:54 +0000

@Kelly….yes, men use sex as a way of getting close. It’s true. And yes, women like talking as a way of forming an emotional connection. But like you said, it’s hard to stereotype. There are lots of women who like to get down and a few men that like to talk. Well, maybe just a few.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 03:17:17 +0000

You’re right about the duality of men and how we are, for the most part, misunderstood. This is going to sound chauvinistic, maybe, but I think that a lot of men use sex as a way of getting close, even getting to know(in our own way) a woman. Is she strong, sensitive or both. But that’s not our only way. Listening to the other one is a big part of it, too.

Women are more into talking (which is cool, too) to get to know a guy- to see if he’s funny, smart, interesting and interested and so forth.

But you can’t stereotype an entire gender either way. That would be unfair.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 20:20:45 +0000

I’d throw the bone AT you sir!! No, seriously that was an awesome post! I really liked the part where you confessed one of the only things men use their other appendages for was SCRATCHING themselves!!!

By: Heather Dugan (Footsteps)

Heather Dugan (Footsteps) — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 19:56:26 +0000

I have a friend contending with an “unable to commit” guy. It’s a miserable sort of existence. Waiting on someone else to change is a time waster.

By: meleah rebeccah

meleah rebeccah — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 04:10:12 +0000

“5. We ARE able to commit. If your man says he needs more time it’s because he’s unsure of you. If might be best to just let him sniff around some more without you. You’ll be better off.”

Exactly!
And, well said!!

By: admin

admin — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 00:13:02 +0000

Please do. And have her visit us. We also answer questions, so feel free to have her email us at:
advice@theguysperspective.com

By: admin

admin — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 00:12:16 +0000

That’s great advice Cher! Men need to do the same for their women.

By: admin

admin — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 00:11:29 +0000

Well, we can’t argue with that.

By: Tina T

Tina T — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 00:05:40 +0000

I think that the “don’t give up on us, but it’s unlikely we’ll ever change” pretty much sums it all up. Women are attracted to men because they are so different from us, yet at times we’re compelled to complain about why you all are “a different breed.”

By: Dorothy Stahlnecker

Dorothy Stahlnecker — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 16:07:35 +0000

Great post, I don’t what to say because you touched on the biggest issue, man’s small head seems to be attached to that momentary pleasure button and for men it’s hard not to push when it’s there.

Have fun, and keep trying someday you guys might get it..

Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com

By: askcherlock

askcherlock — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 00:40:14 +0000

Since this is a Guy’s Perspective, maybe we should keep the word “perspective” in mind. Women basically do understand what men are like. Some women make the mistake of trying to change them. It doesn’t work. I do believe that maturity, or age if you will, helps to give a man perspective. Often he realizes that he lost a good woman due to his smaller brain. Regrets set in and emotional growth starts. My advice to women: always make your man feel that he is the most gorgeous, most intelligent, wittiest person and best lover in the world. That can become his self-fulfilling prophecy.

By: Fatibony

Fatibony — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 23:57:58 +0000

Men palatable hmm thot the opposite sex/females owned that phase, and of course men can be palatable my hubby certainly is .Love your post and tips especially No 5. I have got a friend who is in her 40s dating a guy in his mid 40s both single no children but my friend keeps saying to me this guy just does not seem ready to commit. I kinda wonder what he is waiting for, I also wonder what the heck is she doing … I would love to email this post to her

By: Cathy Voisard

Cathy Voisard — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 23:08:55 +0000

Loved this post! Made me laugh, made me ponder, made me smile. Excellent.
I have long believed that what makes men behave like dogs really does come down to one thing: testosterone. And it’s all about their testes…
When my boyfriend was in his early 20′s, he felt that his sexual drive was ruining his life. He went to the doctor and asked for a “prescription” that would decrease his sexual desire. He said it ran his life; made him do stupid things, and he hated it.
Of course there was no magical cure for his condition. But as he’s gotten a bit older, he was finally able to get it under control.
In my experience the young boys are beasts. But with every passing year, they get more manageable, and yes, more trainable!
LOVE The Guys! Love you.
p.s. I told you I had to go back to work and couldn’t write, but I posted a new one today, and it involves relationships….a favorite topic with my favorite guys. Hope you check it out.
Cathy

By: admin

admin — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 15:39:01 +0000

And we don’t mind begging. You’re worth it!

By: GoGo

GoGo — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 15:24:22 +0000

Clever & enlightening. Yet, I’m still confused by YOUR kind,,,,
Dogs will be dogs. And we foverer try to stay one step ahead of you…to keep you begging for more.