Relationship and Dating Advice: Getting Played- Listen to your friends
Posted by One of the Guys on June 25th, 2011and was filed in Videos with 17 responses, what do you think?
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Read the Script:
Your boyfriend is a player. And your friends know this, but they’re afraid to tell you, because they aren’t sure how you’ll react. And they don’t think you’ll believe them anyway. So what do you do? You ignore your gut and ignore your friends—because in some ways you don’t really want to know the truth—and then you write to us, complete strangers, asking us to tell you what your friends already know. Your guy is a player.
So why don’t you trust your friends? I mean they are your friends for good reason, right. You must respect their opinion on some level….or maybe not.
What’s the problem? Why don’t you trust them?
Maybe you don’t like their fashion sense. Somehow their clothes are always a bit too big, or even worse, too small, especially that bikini that only covers a few freckles and a random mole.
And their taste in food is even worse than their taste in clothes. They still think the local chinese food is authentic, even though it’s cooked by college co-eds on summer break.
Maybe they like sappy date movies that you can’t stand, or their into faux accessories, since they can’t afford the real Vera Bradley brand…., or maybe they need a GPS to find their way home from work…Fine..but everyday?
Or maybe, just maybe, they’re hotter than you? And you don’t trust them because what the hell do they know since life’s been catered to them since they first batted their eyes in the delivery room.
And even worse they have bad taste in men themselves. They have no clue that their boyfriend is cheating on them, or that he’s hit on you once..or maybe twice. You try to tell them but they don’t listen. Why would they? They’re hotter than you, remember.
But guess what. They don’t trust you either for all the same reasons.
Doesn’t this seem a bit odd to you? You tell your friends everything—every little bit of minutia that comes up during the day. Every opinion you have. Every joke. Your friends know you, often better than you know yourself. But when the topic of your man comes up, you change the subject faster than a high school boy having sex.
So believe us when we say: Trust your friends, because your friends will tell you the truth, if you just ask them.
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What a great video and sage advice. Too often women have blinders on and think with their hearts and not their minds. Sometimes we don’t listen to our friends for all the reasons you mentioned, but also because women think they can change a man, or that this time it’s different. Usually, NOT! So women learn from broken hearts and then go back to those same friends for comfort. Perhaps it is good to learn that we cannot change anyone, not matter how much we care for them.
This video came at the perfect time! I’ve been needing to hear this. I mean, I *do* listen to my friends. But sometimes… You know…? I just don’t follow them. Hehe.
@Gnetch….glad it helped. Maybe while you’re talking with your friends, you can mention our site and videos to them too. Thanks!
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Hi guys
Well this is a long story and I don’t know where to begin..
The first year of uni I met this amazing guy who I fell in love with at first sight… I never expected anything to happen.. but he asked me out of the blue. so we started going out , and I could not work this guy out.. then i heard some friends telling me his using me for sex.. which was a possibility because he always was busy during the day… and didn’t make an effort to spend time. Anyway he didn’t like all the drama of me talking about the relationship with my girl mates, so we drifted apart and didn’t talk about how things ended …
and now? all I can think about is him .. I keep regretting that I never told him how I feel I wanted to but all my friends advised me not to. Now all I wish for is that I did … should I tell him now after a year? or is it too late? … I feel like I’ve got nothing left to lose since I have already lost the will to live…
P.S he said to one of my friends recently that he should have married me… and my friend told him that he does not deserve me so he went bright red and left the room for a smoke … I can never work this guy out.
Desperate sole
@TT….We’re sorry you’re feeling so down. But one of the reasons you’re feeling down is that you have regret over not telling this guy how you feel. And regret eats away at you. Typically we say “Listen to your Friends”—we even made a video on the topic–because they often can see something you can’t, or aren’t able to. We don’t know this guy and whether or not he’s worthy of you. But we can say that if you really wish you had told him how you feel, then it’s not too late to do so. It’s never too late to tell someone how you feel about them. And while we can’t guarantee that you’ll get the response from him that you desire we can tell you that you’ll feel a whole lot less regret. And if it works out great. If it doesn’t, we think you’ll be better able to move on knowing you did everything in your power to make it work. Hope this helps. Good luck. We’re pulling for you!
Thanks for the reply advise guys, guess ill feel better after telling him, no matter what his reaction ..