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Hey Guys, So I met this guy on Tinder and we have been talking for about a month now. He’s part of a frat so I went to the mixer and we hung out and then I spent the night at his place. I thought like when we were chilling before going to bed that like we were having a really good connection. Like we were cuddling and making eye contact for like two hours. So the next night he invites me over again and the same set of events happened again. So is he just looking for a hookup or are we on the way to something more? E Dear E, We chose your question because it seems to fit with an alarming trend we’re seeing in the dating world. We’re not sure if social media is the cause, or just that social media has made it easier to find prospective partners, but the concern we’re having is the lack of effort by the pursuers—men—and the acceptance of this lack of effort by women. Let’s take a look at your situation. (We’ll also answer your question.) The positive: 1. You talked for a month before you actually got together with […]

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Boyfriends following other women on Instagram and Facebook

Read our Ebook, available now on Amazon. Inside Your Guy’s Mind. A step-by-step guide to understanding your man.  Do you have a question and want to ask the guys in private. Book your one on one conversation with the guys. Click the Ask a Private Question link on our site and follow the steps.  __________________ Dear Guys, Why does my man follow all these half naked females on Facebook and Instagram? Every time it bugs me when he uses the phrase, “I’m a guy.” It sounds like an excuse but he doesn’t mean anything by it because he speaks the truth when he says they are just for looking at. It just make me feel bad about myself. Maybe I have poor self image but I want a guys perspective please.:) Maranda Hey Guys, So my boyfriend started following a girl who looks really slutty on instagram. I know she lives near him as I saw he started following her a few months back on Facebook. She states shes single on there. I confronted him and he said he didn’t know her instagram page was slutty, he just added her as it was a suggestion by instagram. He said she’s […]

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Husband is Messaging Women on Instagram

Read our Ebook, available now on Amazon. Inside Your Guy’s Mind. A step-by-step guide to understanding your man.  _________________ Dear Guys, So, I am not really into social media so I am not sure how common this is or not. Found out husband is DM women he knows, doesn’t know, found, just started following, etc on Instagram. And these messages arent good job on your workout or nice vacation spot these messages are more like, “Hey beautiful, hope your having a blessed day”. Or “looking sexy little mama, keep it up”. My thing is he doesn’t behave like this at all when I am around but apparently by the hundreds of DMs, I found to all kinds of women this is a habit. Is this a married man trying to creep or encouragement, as he claims? Elizabeth Dear Elizabeth, Here’s a very unscientific rule to follow, and something we use in our own lives. If something doesn’t feel right, or seem right, it probably isn’t right. Now of course, this does not work 100% of the time; there are those exceptions where you might misjudge someone based on their looks, or assume something of someone that isn’t true. But for […]

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Hey Guys, So I met this guy on Tinder and we have been talking for about a month now. He’s part of a frat so I went to the mixer and we hung out and then I spent the night at his place. I thought like when we were chilling before going to bed that like we were having a really good connection. Like we were cuddling and making eye contact for like two hours. So the next night he invites me over again and the same set of events happened again. So is he just looking for a hookup or are we on the way to something more? E Dear E, We chose your question because it seems to fit with an alarming trend we’re seeing in the dating world. We’re not sure if social media is the cause, or just that social media has made it easier to find prospective partners, but the concern we’re having is the lack of effort by the pursuers—men—and the acceptance of this lack of effort by women. Let’s take a look at your situation. (We’ll also answer your question.) The positive: 1. You talked for a month before you actually got together with […]

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Read our Ebook, available now on Amazon. Inside Your Guy’s Mind. A step-by-step guide to understanding your man.  Do you have a question and want to ask the guys in private. Book your one on one conversation with the guys. Click the Ask a Private Question link on our site and follow the steps.  __________________ Dear Guys, Why does my man follow all these half naked females on Facebook and Instagram? Every time it bugs me when he uses the phrase, “I’m a guy.” It sounds like an excuse but he doesn’t mean anything by it because he speaks the truth when he says they are just for looking at. It just make me feel bad about myself. Maybe I have poor self image but I want a guys perspective please.:) Maranda Hey Guys, So my boyfriend started following a girl who looks really slutty on instagram. I know she lives near him as I saw he started following her a few months back on Facebook. She states shes single on there. I confronted him and he said he didn’t know her instagram page was slutty, he just added her as it was a suggestion by instagram. He said she’s […]

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Read our Ebook, available now on Amazon. Inside Your Guy’s Mind. A step-by-step guide to understanding your man.  _________________ Dear Guys, So, I am not really into social media so I am not sure how common this is or not. Found out husband is DM women he knows, doesn’t know, found, just started following, etc on Instagram. And these messages arent good job on your workout or nice vacation spot these messages are more like, “Hey beautiful, hope your having a blessed day”. Or “looking sexy little mama, keep it up”. My thing is he doesn’t behave like this at all when I am around but apparently by the hundreds of DMs, I found to all kinds of women this is a habit. Is this a married man trying to creep or encouragement, as he claims? Elizabeth Dear Elizabeth, Here’s a very unscientific rule to follow, and something we use in our own lives. If something doesn’t feel right, or seem right, it probably isn’t right. Now of course, this does not work 100% of the time; there are those exceptions where you might misjudge someone based on their looks, or assume something of someone that isn’t true. But for […]

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Dear Guys, My boyfriend of two years plays wingman to friends and pretends to be single, but swears he has no intentions of sleeping with other women. He also has a hidden POF account, but I set up a fake profile and it shows dates/times he logs in. He claims the site is inaccurate and refuses to delete his account. My instinct and family and friends tell me he is no good and these are all red flags. He claims he wants to marry me one day. Does he sound like a cheater? And am I naive? Shay Dear Shay, If you were naive you wouldn’t be writing to us and asking these questions. Maybe you don’t want to believe your gut because you care about him, but it’s not because you’re in the dark about what’s going on. We agree with your friends and family, AND with your instincts. These are major red flags. But let’s for a moment, indulge your boyfriend and come up with a scenario that might warrant him becoming a wingman. Maybe a desperate friend meets the woman of his dreams and begs his friend, your boyfriend, to help him out because no one else […]

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Hi Guys, I have been dating my boyfriend for four years. He loves big boobs and has always been with women who have them. I don’t!..I’m a B CUP! He says I’m the love of his life. We have great chemistry in and out of the bedroom. He says he likes my boobs but I think he’s just pacifying me. My question is can a boob man really go from loving big ones to smaller ones and truly be happy? I hate always feeling like this but I need another guy’s opinion. Nelly Dear Nelly, Are you saying you don’t trust your boyfriend? If so, why not? Has he done other things that make you question his words? Because honestly Nelly, your concern seems to go beyond the size of your boobs. He’s  told you that you’re the love of his life, and that he likes your boobs, yet you’re still worried. So what’s going on? Why are you feeling like you’re not enough? Is this about how he treats you, or about how you view yourself? However, let’s say this is purely a question of the size of your boobs. If that’s the case, this all comes down to […]

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Readers, Do you have questions about your guy. How he thinks? Why he behaves the way he does? Then check our our new ebook on Amazon, “Inside your Guy’s Mind.” Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Dear Guys, This guy I’m dating says his romantic life is not a priority because he has been hurt so much from his soon to be ex… . He has been separated from his wife for four years, even though she messaged me not long ago and said her husband still sleeps with her and he has two other women he sees. So does he really mean that his romantic life is not a priority or am I just kidding myself thinking that he really wants to be with me long term? Because we have wonderful out of this world sex. I am 58 he is 52 I have been […]

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Readers, Do you have questions about your guy. How he thinks? Why he behaves the way he does? Then check our our new ebook on Amazon, “Inside your Guy’s Mind.” Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Dear Guys, A guy joined my circle of friends in college a couple weeks before the semester ended and we all got drunk together one night. Throughout the night, he took any chance he got to touch me but he never made me feel uncomfortable, which says a lot because I’ve never had a boyfriend and am not used to guys touching me in any way. We sat close to each other whole night, he placed a hand on my shoulder a lot when talking to me, and he kept pulling only me in for hugs and even cuddled with me at one point. Also when he told stories to […]

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Readers, Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Dear Guys, So my boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. That whole week he was getting in fights with his parents and picking fights with me. He would always use the “this is why I didn’t want a relationship” card when we fought. I would calmly say I’m not going to fight with you and that would be the end of it. He would be mad for a few hours or a day and then would get over it, or so I thought. This situation kept reoccurring so eventually I got sick of it and told him that he had to choose what he wanted. He kept saying I don’t know what I want until eventually he said the timing for the relationship wasn’t right and it’s not what he wanted. The day after he promptly blocked […]

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Readers, Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Dear Guys, I have a guy who I started dating for about two months. Well, we finally did the dirty (sex) and what he said to me while doing the dirty completely caught me off guard. I was instantly unsure of how to take what he said. I quote, “I want to own this.” How should I take this? I feel like it was more than just dirty talk? Megan Dear Megan, We understand your confusion and concern. But before we get to your specific question, let’s discuss Dirty Talk in general, at least from a guy’s perspective. The “right” kind of Dirty Talk, when delivered at the “right” time, and in the “right” context, can be a big turn on. Some guys use Dirty Talk when they’re ultra-horny or excited. It’s a way of letting the woman know […]

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Readers, Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Hi Guys, So I met this guy through a dating app and he gave me his number and we started texting and talking on the phone for about a week or so. He lives about two hours away from me and we met up and had dinner, went back to his place to watch a movie and hooked up. After that I didn’t hear from him for like two weeks. I texted him twice and after that, stopped. After about three weeks I sent him a message on Facebook trying to figure out what happened because I don’t like to leave things open ended. He called me not five minutes later stating that he had had the flu and was really busy with work. (He’s an attorney for the state he lives in.) Anyway about a week later we […]

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Readers, Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Hello Guys, On asking my husband what he would like to do for his 50th – his response was, “I don’t know how long I have, I want to have fun.” His description of fun was sex—swinging, traveling to Thailand and South America. Being married for 20+ years, I do want to make him happy. But it leaves me wondering if I’m good enough? (I don’t have any desire to explore other sexual partners). He is a great husband—so how can I make him happy without feeling bad myself? Jane Dear Jane, The straightforward answer is, it’s not your job to make him happy. He has to make himself happy. Or figure out a way to be satisfied with what’s right in front of him. What’s going on is that he’s now focusing on what he does NOT have […]

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Readers, Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Dear Guys, I met this kiwi in Bali just over a month ago and we hit it off straight away. He ended up following me to another part of Bali with his mate and two other gal pals of mine where we stayed two nights in villa before the boys headed back to NZ. The time I spent with him was extremely fun, light hearted, spontaneous and I can honestly say that I truly believed it would be a fling and I’d never hear from him again afterwards. Not only did he message me after he left, it’s a month later and we’re still messaging! I am now back in the UK and he’s in NZ so you can imagine distance/time difference is a massive pain and not ideal. We talk most days and FaceTime on weekends when we […]

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Readers, Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Hi Guys, I have had an ongoing affair with a long time friend going on 10 years. He is married but we see each other regularly. I have no illusions that we have anything “more” ahead of us than what we have now and I accept that fully. So far no drama. But what I want your insight on is this: the last time I saw him he told me he had joined a “cheater’s site” last winter, and got to know one woman there quite well over several months, but that in February he decided to end this budding new affair as he already has everything he wants and needs, between his wife and me. Guys, WHY would he tell me such a thing? Again, I have no illusions that I’m the only one he’s cheated with or […]

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Readers, Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Dear Guys, I’m feeling rather raw. I’ve just been used for sex by my work colleague. Even worse he lives with someone. I found out last week. He knew I wanted a relationship because I was clear from the start. Now I have to face him every day. I sent his girlfriend screenshots of him and his messages even asking me to marry him. I’m hurt and feeling very used. S Dear S, We are so, so sorry. It’s okay to feel the deep emotions you’re feeling but don’t let them take you down. You trusted a man and he ended up betraying you. He did a shitty thing. But this is more about what he lacks rather than what you lack. Here’s what we suggest. And obviously, this is completely up to you. When you see him around […]

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Readers, Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Dear Guys, My ex and I broke up a year ago. We’ve kept in touch over that time except for six weeks when I didnt text him. He has new girlfriend that he says he sometimes lives with and possibly sees a future with. (If she stays on the path she’s on now. He’s not sure because she has some issues.) But he wants a Friends with Benefits fling with me, pointing out that, that’s how it started the first time. He says he does care, but that I pushed him away with neediness. Now he wants to see how it goes this time. My friends say dump his butt, but my gut says he does care. I date, but can’t seem to get him out of my head. Am I fooling myself? Am I being played? I’d appreciate any insight […]

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