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Dear Readers, Thank you for visiting our site. We very much appreciate all your comments and questions. That said, we’re having a difficult time keeping up with our General Question offering because we first have to answer all the questions we receive through our private service, Ask a Private Question. We do feel badly about this because we truly would like to help everyone who visits our site. So we have a proposal for those of you who have a pressing question that you want answered in a timely fashion. We just finished a new e-book that we recently published on Amazon entitled, “Inside Your Guy’s Mind.”  In order to move up in Amazon’s rankings, we need reviews. Here’s the Proposal:  For anyone who buys the book and writes us a five star review we will give you a chance to email us your question. Normally our private service is $49 per conversation, which usually includes about 4 emails from us, THE GUYS. So for the price of the book which is, $7.99. You get to read a book filled with a ton of information about guys. (How we think. Why we behave the way they do in relationships. What drives us […]

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Am I Waiting for Something that’s Not Going to Happen?

Dear Guys, I met this guy on a dating app. We talked for about two months and went out a couple times for beers and to a baseball game. At the time he was in duty in another state for the military so we only saw each other on weekends when he would come home. I told him I liked him and he said he liked me too but the timing was really unfortunate because of his military status—he never knows what is coming or where they will send him next, but that once he moves back we can see then how we feel. I did start dating someone for a couple of months but it just wasn’t what I wanted so I ended it. Literally the day after I ended things he texted me asking how I was. He knows that I dated someone and knows why I ended it. He asked about it a lot and I feel like he was looking to find out what I don’t like. But now we’ve hung out the last three weekends in a row and I just can’t get a read on him. I still have those same giddy feelings about […]

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What Constitutes Cheating?

Dear Guys, Is it cheating if my boyfriend likes to watch a lot of porn and goes on hookup sites and post his dick pic on them ? Crystal Dear Crystal, We’ll stick to your actual question and not debate whether or not looking at porn or going on hook up sites is wrong on a societal level, or a moral level, or any level for that matter. We’ll focus on what it means if you’re in a relationship with a man who engages in these sorts of activities. We’ll start with porn. Most guys who look at porn do so to get a rush, to get an escape, to fantasize for a moment in time and then get a release. It might feel threatening but for the most part it’s not. Most guys see porn for what it is, entertainment of a specific variety, that has its place. Sounds like your man has leapt from porn into the real world. Going to hook up sites means there’s the possibility of actually hooking up with another human being, a real person. This is very different than porn. And if he’s posting his “dick pic” as you say, well, that should […]

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Dear Readers, Thank you for visiting our site. We very much appreciate all your comments and questions. That said, we’re having a difficult time keeping up with our General Question offering because we first have to answer all the questions we receive through our private service, Ask a Private Question. We do feel badly about this because we truly would like to help everyone who visits our site. So we have a proposal for those of you who have a pressing question that you want answered in a timely fashion. We just finished a new e-book that we recently published on Amazon entitled, “Inside Your Guy’s Mind.”  In order to move up in Amazon’s rankings, we need reviews. Here’s the Proposal:  For anyone who buys the book and writes us a five star review we will give you a chance to email us your question. Normally our private service is $49 per conversation, which usually includes about 4 emails from us, THE GUYS. So for the price of the book which is, $7.99. You get to read a book filled with a ton of information about guys. (How we think. Why we behave the way they do in relationships. What drives us […]

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Dear Guys, I met this guy on a dating app. We talked for about two months and went out a couple times for beers and to a baseball game. At the time he was in duty in another state for the military so we only saw each other on weekends when he would come home. I told him I liked him and he said he liked me too but the timing was really unfortunate because of his military status—he never knows what is coming or where they will send him next, but that once he moves back we can see then how we feel. I did start dating someone for a couple of months but it just wasn’t what I wanted so I ended it. Literally the day after I ended things he texted me asking how I was. He knows that I dated someone and knows why I ended it. He asked about it a lot and I feel like he was looking to find out what I don’t like. But now we’ve hung out the last three weekends in a row and I just can’t get a read on him. I still have those same giddy feelings about […]

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Dear Guys, Is it cheating if my boyfriend likes to watch a lot of porn and goes on hookup sites and post his dick pic on them ? Crystal Dear Crystal, We’ll stick to your actual question and not debate whether or not looking at porn or going on hook up sites is wrong on a societal level, or a moral level, or any level for that matter. We’ll focus on what it means if you’re in a relationship with a man who engages in these sorts of activities. We’ll start with porn. Most guys who look at porn do so to get a rush, to get an escape, to fantasize for a moment in time and then get a release. It might feel threatening but for the most part it’s not. Most guys see porn for what it is, entertainment of a specific variety, that has its place. Sounds like your man has leapt from porn into the real world. Going to hook up sites means there’s the possibility of actually hooking up with another human being, a real person. This is very different than porn. And if he’s posting his “dick pic” as you say, well, that should […]

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Dear Guys, I recently hooked with a guy who I’ve been traveling with as part of a big group. I’ve had a crush on him for a while and started to properly like him as we got closer as friends. The only issue was he’d been hooking up with this other girl from the same hostel who we shared a room with. Anyway on our last night, after this other had left, after one too many vodkas, we hooked up. Everything was fine and the next day we were chatting like normal, but then in the afternoon he just started ignoring me and didn’t even say bye when he left the hostel, even though he’d said a proper good bye to all our friends. I ended up messaging him just to say good luck traveling, as I didnt want it to be left in a bad way and he replied and I thought everything was okay. But then we met again by chance in the same hostel and I was still with the same group. And he ignored me, again. The only nice thing he said was ‘hi’ in passing. And the only other thing he said to me was […]

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Dear Guys, My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years, however he doesn’t love. We’ve had discussions about it and he has told me that he just doesn’t have those feelings for me. He doesn’t even know what love is, because he’s never been in love. His relationship with me is the longest he’s ever been in. We’ve spoken about and have been planning a future together. He wants to get married and have a nice ceremony with me. I would prefer just eloping, but he won’t have that. People think the situation is crazy and can’t fathom the idea of being with someone so long and not loving them. I love my boyfriend, very much. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me, however I haven’t said anything to him about it. My question is, is this normal for a guy? Can a guy actually want to marry a girl, have a planned out future with her and not love her? How long does it take for guy actually fall in love? Will my boyfriend ever love me? Sam Dear Sam, We’re sorry. This sounds tough. You ask a lot of important questions, […]

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Hey Guys, So I met this guy on Tinder and we have been talking for about a month now. He’s part of a frat so I went to the mixer and we hung out and then I spent the night at his place. I thought like when we were chilling before going to bed that like we were having a really good connection. Like we were cuddling and making eye contact for like two hours. So the next night he invites me over again and the same set of events happened again. So is he just looking for a hookup or are we on the way to something more? E Dear E, We chose your question because it seems to fit with an alarming trend we’re seeing in the dating world. We’re not sure if social media is the cause, or just that social media has made it easier to find prospective partners, but the concern we’re having is the lack of effort by the pursuers—men—and the acceptance of this lack of effort by women. Let’s take a look at your situation. (We’ll also answer your question.) The positive: 1. You talked for a month before you actually got together with […]

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Read our Ebook, available now on Amazon. Inside Your Guy’s Mind. A step-by-step guide to understanding your man.  Do you have a question and want to ask the guys in private. Book your one on one conversation with the guys. Click the Ask a Private Question link on our site and follow the steps.  __________________ Dear Guys, Why does my man follow all these half naked females on Facebook and Instagram? Every time it bugs me when he uses the phrase, “I’m a guy.” It sounds like an excuse but he doesn’t mean anything by it because he speaks the truth when he says they are just for looking at. It just make me feel bad about myself. Maybe I have poor self image but I want a guys perspective please.:) Maranda Hey Guys, So my boyfriend started following a girl who looks really slutty on instagram. I know she lives near him as I saw he started following her a few months back on Facebook. She states shes single on there. I confronted him and he said he didn’t know her instagram page was slutty, he just added her as it was a suggestion by instagram. He said she’s […]

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Read our Ebook, available now on Amazon. Inside Your Guy’s Mind. A step-by-step guide to understanding your man.  _________________ Dear Guys, So, I am not really into social media so I am not sure how common this is or not. Found out husband is DM women he knows, doesn’t know, found, just started following, etc on Instagram. And these messages arent good job on your workout or nice vacation spot these messages are more like, “Hey beautiful, hope your having a blessed day”. Or “looking sexy little mama, keep it up”. My thing is he doesn’t behave like this at all when I am around but apparently by the hundreds of DMs, I found to all kinds of women this is a habit. Is this a married man trying to creep or encouragement, as he claims? Elizabeth Dear Elizabeth, Here’s a very unscientific rule to follow, and something we use in our own lives. If something doesn’t feel right, or seem right, it probably isn’t right. Now of course, this does not work 100% of the time; there are those exceptions where you might misjudge someone based on their looks, or assume something of someone that isn’t true. But for […]

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Dear Guys, My boyfriend of two years plays wingman to friends and pretends to be single, but swears he has no intentions of sleeping with other women. He also has a hidden POF account, but I set up a fake profile and it shows dates/times he logs in. He claims the site is inaccurate and refuses to delete his account. My instinct and family and friends tell me he is no good and these are all red flags. He claims he wants to marry me one day. Does he sound like a cheater? And am I naive? Shay Dear Shay, If you were naive you wouldn’t be writing to us and asking these questions. Maybe you don’t want to believe your gut because you care about him, but it’s not because you’re in the dark about what’s going on. We agree with your friends and family, AND with your instincts. These are major red flags. But let’s for a moment, indulge your boyfriend and come up with a scenario that might warrant him becoming a wingman. Maybe a desperate friend meets the woman of his dreams and begs his friend, your boyfriend, to help him out because no one else […]

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Hi Guys, I have been dating my boyfriend for four years. He loves big boobs and has always been with women who have them. I don’t!..I’m a B CUP! He says I’m the love of his life. We have great chemistry in and out of the bedroom. He says he likes my boobs but I think he’s just pacifying me. My question is can a boob man really go from loving big ones to smaller ones and truly be happy? I hate always feeling like this but I need another guy’s opinion. Nelly Dear Nelly, Are you saying you don’t trust your boyfriend? If so, why not? Has he done other things that make you question his words? Because honestly Nelly, your concern seems to go beyond the size of your boobs. He’s  told you that you’re the love of his life, and that he likes your boobs, yet you’re still worried. So what’s going on? Why are you feeling like you’re not enough? Is this about how he treats you, or about how you view yourself? However, let’s say this is purely a question of the size of your boobs. If that’s the case, this all comes down to […]

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Readers, Do you have questions about your guy. How he thinks? Why he behaves the way he does? Then check our our new ebook on Amazon, “Inside your Guy’s Mind.” Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Dear Guys, This guy I’m dating says his romantic life is not a priority because he has been hurt so much from his soon to be ex… . He has been separated from his wife for four years, even though she messaged me not long ago and said her husband still sleeps with her and he has two other women he sees. So does he really mean that his romantic life is not a priority or am I just kidding myself thinking that he really wants to be with me long term? Because we have wonderful out of this world sex. I am 58 he is 52 I have been […]

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Readers, Do you have questions about your guy. How he thinks? Why he behaves the way he does? Then check our our new ebook on Amazon, “Inside your Guy’s Mind.” Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Dear Guys, A guy joined my circle of friends in college a couple weeks before the semester ended and we all got drunk together one night. Throughout the night, he took any chance he got to touch me but he never made me feel uncomfortable, which says a lot because I’ve never had a boyfriend and am not used to guys touching me in any way. We sat close to each other whole night, he placed a hand on my shoulder a lot when talking to me, and he kept pulling only me in for hugs and even cuddled with me at one point. Also when he told stories to […]

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Readers, Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Dear Guys, So my boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. That whole week he was getting in fights with his parents and picking fights with me. He would always use the “this is why I didn’t want a relationship” card when we fought. I would calmly say I’m not going to fight with you and that would be the end of it. He would be mad for a few hours or a day and then would get over it, or so I thought. This situation kept reoccurring so eventually I got sick of it and told him that he had to choose what he wanted. He kept saying I don’t know what I want until eventually he said the timing for the relationship wasn’t right and it’s not what he wanted. The day after he promptly blocked […]

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Readers, Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Dear Guys, I have a guy who I started dating for about two months. Well, we finally did the dirty (sex) and what he said to me while doing the dirty completely caught me off guard. I was instantly unsure of how to take what he said. I quote, “I want to own this.” How should I take this? I feel like it was more than just dirty talk? Megan Dear Megan, We understand your confusion and concern. But before we get to your specific question, let’s discuss Dirty Talk in general, at least from a guy’s perspective. The “right” kind of Dirty Talk, when delivered at the “right” time, and in the “right” context, can be a big turn on. Some guys use Dirty Talk when they’re ultra-horny or excited. It’s a way of letting the woman know […]

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Readers, Do you have a relationship, dating or sex question? Do you need coaching on your current relationship/dating situation? Then read the testimonials on our Get Relationship Advice page and then book your private, one-on-one conversation with The Guys. Just click the Ask a Private Question tab on our site and follow the steps. We look forward to our conversation with you. ____________________ Hi Guys, So I met this guy through a dating app and he gave me his number and we started texting and talking on the phone for about a week or so. He lives about two hours away from me and we met up and had dinner, went back to his place to watch a movie and hooked up. After that I didn’t hear from him for like two weeks. I texted him twice and after that, stopped. After about three weeks I sent him a message on Facebook trying to figure out what happened because I don’t like to leave things open ended. He called me not five minutes later stating that he had had the flu and was really busy with work. (He’s an attorney for the state he lives in.) Anyway about a week later we […]

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