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Dear Guys, So, here I am almost eight yrs later, on & off w/ a guy that never committed as my bf! I’m not gonna get into the details of it all, but recently I had a weak moment and allowed him to come over to my place after keeping him at arms length for last three months. I immediately regretted it after we saw each other, so I contemplated my next step, which I knew I was gonna make. We have had the conversation about where we are a few times over the years, so I knew I didn’t wanna reiterate anything like that again. I didn’t want a reaction from him cause I knew I was finally putting myself first and his feelings didn’t matter at this point. Not that I was mad at him; I was mad at myself for not having higher expectations and knowing I am worth more than what he ever gave or showed me. This is what I text him and I immediately blocked him cause I didn’t wanna see his reply if any: “Just read this & hear me sweetie! I shouldn’t have allowed today to happen! I can’t do this anymore […]

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Dear Guys, A lot has happened in my life these past few years. I had a child and got in engaged. I lived with my fiances family for a while but his family is full of angry, child neglecting, drug addicts. I had to listen to them yell at their kids and I gave their kids attention and made sure they were fed. I finally moved out with a friend and one of them followed us over there and threatened my baby and broke my things and threw my child’s things down a flight of stairs. I had to move again. Amidst this then I found out my partner had been cheating on me for over a month with someone he found through his work. I had caught texts and thought that something was going on. I confronted him and he denied it. I talked to one of his co-workers to get the truth and confronted him. He had her under a false contact. He told me felt relieved that it was over. I asked him why he did it and he said I stopped saying hi when he came home and our life felt too routine. This isn’t the […]

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Hi Guys, I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of two years. I believe that when we’re together he loves me very much but I wonder whether I’m being a fool and whether he cheats on me while he’s away. I am generally pretty sexual but sometimes worry that I’m not exciting him enough. Do men like very rough sex? Should I try doing some unusual things? Would it help? Sometimes I am genuinely just too tired to be exciting but I worry that he’ll get bored with me. I really want to make it work. Betty Dear Betty, Thanks for your question. The fact that you’re asking these questions makes us wonder if there is something else going on with your relationship. Do you trust your boyfriend in general? Do you believe he’s as devoted to you as you are to him? Has he hinted that he’s not satisfied sexually? Has he given you any reason to wonder or suspect him of cheating? The reason we ask all of these questions is this: If the foundation of your relationship is solid, then you can slowly work on the details. However, if the foundation is not solid, […]

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Dear Readers,  Check out our ebook, “Inside Your Guy’s Mind.” Available at Amazon. For anyone that purchases our ebook and leaves us a stellar review (five star) we’ll answer a Private Question as a sign of appreciation. (Two emails from us all done privately via email.) That’s not quite our Private Service of four emails, but it’s a great value. THE GUYS _________________________ Dear Guys, I saw on my husband’s e-mail on his phone, that he had pictures of women from a dating website, called match dot com. It specifically showed women in our area of the city for dating. I deleted them. A few days later, I checked again and there were more. So, I asked him about them and if he had joined a dating service. He said that he had not and these just show up on his e-mail. He said he reports them as spam. At the time, he also had photo’s from messenger of women naked and clothed. I deleted them also. He said his buddies send them through messenger. So, I checked the match dot com website myself and it does ask for your e-mail to join. But could it be true, that these ads […]

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Hey Guys, So, I know this guy at work. We’d been getting friendly, chatting, walking to our cars together, a little bit of flirtiness going on. I think I was beginning to really like him as a person. Then we were at this party together and I ended up going back to his place, chatting and then we slept together. I messaged him twice afterwards to hang out on separate occasions—my friends pressured me into doing it—but he didn’t see the message til it was too late and then the second time he had something else going on. After this, he became less chatty, not as flirty and seemed like he was avoiding eye contact. Was I too desperate sounding? I also learned that he was being quite flirty with another girl at work and that he’s been known to be this way with others, so maybe I wasn’t anything special. Now after a month, he’s back to his normal flirty self and we’re back to having our solid conversations. But he hasn’t made any effort with me outside of work. I’m waiting for him to show initiative. But maybe no sign is also a sign. What do you guys […]

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Dear Guys, My husband and I were friends for a year, then dated for about six months before we decided to get married. We’ve now been married for almost three months. While we were dating he talked about other girls he had made out with and dated ALL THE TIME. I don’t know if it was a bragging thing or just him thinking he was telling me funny stories or something. But the fact that he kept talking about them hurt. It made me feel like I wasn’t enough and he just wanted to be with any of them again. I’m not as experienced as him in the dating or hooking up world and I believe that is why I am so sensitive to it. I understand that this is more of a fault of mine because it makes me angry, but I want to understand why he brings it up so much. At one point, I asked him to stop talking about other girls so much and he had kindly followed my request. But there are still times when he will slip, or mention a story about someone he doesn’t think I know he dated. Why does he feel […]

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Dear Guys, My boyfriend thinks he can say or do whatever he wants. His boss tells him to not play his speaker at work, he does it anyways. Someone tells him to not swear around them, he gets mad. Someone is complaining about life on Facebook, he needs to tell them to stop acting like a child. His reason? Because someone has to tell them and people need to stop being so sensitive. At least that is what he thinks. Is this a red flag? We have dated for two years and this has always been a thing. I always pushed it to the back of my mind because like he said, “People need to stop being so sensitive.” So, I thought I was one of those people, but it really bothers me. He won’t listen when I tell him I don’t agree with his mentality on this. I don’t know… is it a red flag? Brittney Dear Brittney, You know how you know this is a red flag? Because it’s bothered you for two years and that feeling is not going away. Not only that, you’ve spoken to him about it, and instead of accepting your feedback he makes […]

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Dear Readers, Thank you for visiting our site. We very much appreciate all your comments and questions. That said, we’re having a difficult time keeping up with our General Question offering because we first have to answer all the questions we receive through our private service, Ask a Private Question. We do feel badly about this because we truly would like to help everyone who visits our site. So we have a proposal for those of you who have a pressing question that you want answered in a timely fashion. We just finished a new e-book that we recently published on Amazon entitled, “Inside Your Guy’s Mind.”  In order to move up in Amazon’s rankings, we need reviews. Here’s the Proposal:  For anyone who buys the book and writes us a five star review we will give you a chance to email us your question. Normally our private service is $49 per conversation, which usually includes about 4 emails from us, THE GUYS. So for the price of the book which is, $7.99. You get to read a book filled with a ton of information about guys. (How we think. Why we behave the way they do in relationships. What drives us […]

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Dear Guys, I’m in a long distance relationship. And I want to hear some open opinions from other men… I want to make this work. I’m a girl and I adore night walks. Sometimes til very early in the morning. I can’t invite my guy because he lives cities away but I sometimes invite a male friend to chaperone. Tonight we aimlessly walked and then hit up a McDonalds. By the time I came home it was 4 am. As a guy… Is this unacceptable? I really love night walking. It calms me down when I’m over stressed… But should I not? I was very open with my guy and told him where I was etc… I messaged him my whereabouts and told him I’d message when I got home. However, as a guy would you feel insecure? Anna Dear Anna, Insecure? Maybe. Uncomfortable. Definitely. First of all, there’s nothing inherently wrong with what you’re doing. In fact, the quiet of the night can be quite calming. However, have you heard the expression, “Nothing good happens after midnight”? Okay, maybe that’s not an expression, but from our experience, anyone who is not situated somewhere after midnight is asking for trouble. […]

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Dear Readers, Thank you for visiting our site. We very much appreciate all your comments and questions. That said, we’re having a difficult time keeping up with our General Question offering because we first have to answer all the questions we receive through our private service, Ask a Private Question. We do feel badly about this because we truly would like to help everyone who visits our site. So we have a proposal for those of you who have a pressing question that you want answered in a timely fashion. We just finished a new e-book that we recently published on Amazon entitled, “Inside Your Guy’s Mind.”  In order to move up in Amazon’s rankings, we need reviews. Here’s the Proposal:  For anyone who buys the book and writes us a five star review we will give you a chance to email us your question. Normally our private service is $49 per conversation, which usually includes about 4 emails from us, THE GUYS. So for the price of the book which is, $7.99. You get to read a book filled with a ton of information about guys. (How we think. Why we behave the way they do in relationships. What drives us […]

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Dear Guys, I met this guy on a dating app. We talked for about two months and went out a couple times for beers and to a baseball game. At the time he was in duty in another state for the military so we only saw each other on weekends when he would come home. I told him I liked him and he said he liked me too but the timing was really unfortunate because of his military status—he never knows what is coming or where they will send him next, but that once he moves back we can see then how we feel. I did start dating someone for a couple of months but it just wasn’t what I wanted so I ended it. Literally the day after I ended things he texted me asking how I was. He knows that I dated someone and knows why I ended it. He asked about it a lot and I feel like he was looking to find out what I don’t like. But now we’ve hung out the last three weekends in a row and I just can’t get a read on him. I still have those same giddy feelings about […]

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Dear Guys, Is it cheating if my boyfriend likes to watch a lot of porn and goes on hookup sites and post his dick pic on them ? Crystal Dear Crystal, We’ll stick to your actual question and not debate whether or not looking at porn or going on hook up sites is wrong on a societal level, or a moral level, or any level for that matter. We’ll focus on what it means if you’re in a relationship with a man who engages in these sorts of activities. We’ll start with porn. Most guys who look at porn do so to get a rush, to get an escape, to fantasize for a moment in time and then get a release. It might feel threatening but for the most part it’s not. Most guys see porn for what it is, entertainment of a specific variety, that has its place. Sounds like your man has leapt from porn into the real world. Going to hook up sites means there’s the possibility of actually hooking up with another human being, a real person. This is very different than porn. And if he’s posting his “dick pic” as you say, well, that should […]

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Dear Guys, I recently hooked with a guy who I’ve been traveling with as part of a big group. I’ve had a crush on him for a while and started to properly like him as we got closer as friends. The only issue was he’d been hooking up with this other girl from the same hostel who we shared a room with. Anyway on our last night, after this other had left, after one too many vodkas, we hooked up. Everything was fine and the next day we were chatting like normal, but then in the afternoon he just started ignoring me and didn’t even say bye when he left the hostel, even though he’d said a proper good bye to all our friends. I ended up messaging him just to say good luck traveling, as I didnt want it to be left in a bad way and he replied and I thought everything was okay. But then we met again by chance in the same hostel and I was still with the same group. And he ignored me, again. The only nice thing he said was ‘hi’ in passing. And the only other thing he said to me was […]

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Dear Guys, My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years, however he doesn’t love. We’ve had discussions about it and he has told me that he just doesn’t have those feelings for me. He doesn’t even know what love is, because he’s never been in love. His relationship with me is the longest he’s ever been in. We’ve spoken about and have been planning a future together. He wants to get married and have a nice ceremony with me. I would prefer just eloping, but he won’t have that. People think the situation is crazy and can’t fathom the idea of being with someone so long and not loving them. I love my boyfriend, very much. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me, however I haven’t said anything to him about it. My question is, is this normal for a guy? Can a guy actually want to marry a girl, have a planned out future with her and not love her? How long does it take for guy actually fall in love? Will my boyfriend ever love me? Sam Dear Sam, We’re sorry. This sounds tough. You ask a lot of important questions, […]

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