Wondering what to get your man for the holidays? Don’t ask him. He won’t tell you the truth. He wants you to figure it out, just like you want him to listen to you and anticipate how you’re feeling before you actually feel it.
What he wants is not a cool gadget or a new toy like every TV commercial, internet ad, magazine article would make you think. Nope. That would be a negative for two reasons.
Even if we share all the monetary responsibilities with our partner, it’s hard to feel excited about a gift that shows up on our shared credit card bill. It’s kind of like paying for it ourselves, and this causes us much stress. Knowing our gift comes from the same kitty that pays the mortgage, the household bills and the kids’ college fund takes most of the fun out of it for us. Money is tight these days, so we can do without that expensive watch, new video game, engraved knife or slick pair of shoes.
If we’re in a new relationship, maybe we’re not stressed about paying for it ourselves. That doesn’t mean we don’t feel guilty about the money you spend, when frankly we have pretty much everything we need.
Even if we love the gift, often we don’t have time to use it or play with it. If we’re not working, or taking care of other responsibilities, we want to spend time with you, or be with the kids, or hang with our buddies, or just relax, or maybe even have time to take an afternoon nap. In theory a new toy or gadget is great, but reality dictates after a brief honeymoon period, maybe a week or so, it will likely sit idle for the rest of the year, and years.
So what do we want?
Isn’t it obvious? We want YOU or some iteration of you. Here’s our list:
1. A special night out with you. Or day. One we don’t have to BEG for. (No interruptions.)
2. To see you in a new dress or sexy lingerie or something that shows off your body that we love but don’t get to see enough because of the “comfy clothes” you like to wear all of the time.
3. Maybe something you don’t often have the energy to offer us, but you’re willing to make an exception during this festive time of year. A bit veiled? You figure it out. You know your man better than we do.
If you ask your man, he might humor you and tell you he doesn’t care. He might even provide you with a list and tell you this item or that, but the real list is playing out in his mind, and it’s the only time he wants you to be a mind reader.
Please share your own gift ideas in the comments section below. Happy Holidays!