Midlife has hit your guy hard and he wants to get a motorcycle. You say, “What are you thinking!? You’ve got responsibilities. You’ve got kids. If you need to shake things up, buy me some new lingerie.”
However, we’d like to offer a different perspective on the matter, a guy’s perspective, one that might shift your thinking and actually encourage him to get the bike of his dreams. (You can still ask for the lingerie by the way.)
Motorcycling is risky for a myriad of reasons. Road conditions aren’t always great. (You hit an oil spot, or even a puddle and you could skid off the road or into oncoming traffic.) People drive crazy these days. (They’re paying more attention to their phones, or other devices than to the road or other cars, let alone a motorcycle.) There’s bad weather. (Fine for a drive in the car, but a heavy gust of wind could knock an biker right off his bike.) What about speed? (It’s one thing to go 70 mph surrounded by steel on all four sides, but it’s quite another to be completely exposed to the rushing concrete below.) And finally, the pesky woodland suicide creatures. (Yep, deer, squirrels, chipmunks. Maybe they’ll meet their death, but they could take a biker with them.)
We get it. Riding a motorcycle is risky. But life is full of risks. Just being alive on the planet is a risky endeavor. But really, what’s the alternative? Living in a bubble? Not experiencing life to its fullest? Is that what we want to teach our kids? To always play it safe?
So here’s what we suggest. Use his sudden interest in motorcycling as a teaching tool for your kids, or for the young people you know. Once kids hit the teen years, they’ll be taking risks. It’s part of growing up, part of learning where the line is, part of challenging themselves to discover who they are. What you want to do is teach them HOW to take risks, NOT tell them they shouldn’t take risks. You want to teach them risk assessment and then how to mitigate the potential dangers.
Five Steps for your Guy to Model:
Your guy is a new rider so he should buy a manageable motorcycle. If he has to enlist the help of any innocent bystander to pick his bike off the ground when he inevitably topples at a streetlight—this will happen at least once—then the bike is too big. He needs to get something he’s comfortable riding and stopping. Not enough power to get him into trouble, but just enough to get him out of it. We recommend a 250cc
If you want kids to practice proper safety—bike helmets and seat belts, etc.—then make sure your guy wears the proper gear all of the time. This means, a full face helmet, preferably a bright color—white/yellow— protective jacket with reflection or bright colors, pants, gloves and shoes/boots.
Your guy does not need to ride in bad weather. There’s no point. And NO night riding. There are plenty of other fun things to do at night. (Enter lingerie.)
He stays off the roads during rush hour. As we stated before, people drive crazier than ever, especially when they’re in a hurry to get to work, and are making business calls or texts while they rush through yellow/red lights.
He keeps his speed down. Okay, this might be a bit harder to enforce since, if you’re guy is an adrenaline junkie, speed could be the reason he bought the bike in the first place. But the highways are the most dangerous place for a motorcycle. Wind. Trucks. Speeders. Lane changers. Bikes are difficult to see, and cars don’t even think about the possibility of a motorcycle in their blind spot.
We understand that it’s not an ideal situation, your guy wanting to ride, but we’d like you to consider what we’ve spelled out here. The best way to teach kids anything is to model appropriate behavior. And there’s nothing wrong with explaining one important point. There’s a reason he waited until his 40s and/or 50s to get a motorcycle. He understood that getting a bike in his younger years would have been a disaster. (Guys take a while to mature.) It’s only at this point in his life where he can handle the awesome responsibility of riding a motorcycle.
And who knows. A motorcycle could add a little spice to your relationship. You might even enjoy going for a ride occasionally, wearing the proper gear of course, which of course includes the lingerie underneath!
Be Safe. Have fun.