How do you play hard to get in situations such as texting, in person, and on social media?
So, why exactly do you want to play hard to get? You have to be careful when you take this approach because it can backfire. Sometimes you can push a guy away, or scare them away if you make things too difficult for them.
That said, we do believe men should make the first move and ask a woman out. And yes, sometimes guys need a bit of a challenge to be interested. That said, if you encounter a guy that needs that big of a challenge it probably means he’s not that interested.
In our experience, when it works, it works. A guy is interested. A woman is interested. He asks her out and it goes from there without a lot of game playing. So we’re not necessarily recommending this approach. But since you asked, here goes.
Playing hard to get is pretty much the same no matter what the context is. Maybe the way you communicate is different but the basic behavior is not. Basically, what you’re trying to do is keep the guy interested by making him think you’re in demand. There are different ways of going about this. Note: We’re not necessarily recommending this approach, but since you asked.
- Be mysterious. Different. Unique. Make him wonder what you’re up to by hinting at something but not actually saying it. Example: He says, “What are you doing this summer?” You say, “I’m going to (Insert Place) to visit a friend.” And leave it at that. He wonders. Who is this friend? Man? Woman? Boyfriend? Potential boyfriend?
- Be Aloof. Maybe you’re interested, maybe you’re not?
- Be Busy. He asks you out but you already have plans. Don’t say, “I have plans on the weekend but I’m free next week.” Instead say, “Sorry. I have plans this weekend.”
- Hot and cold. This approach is a combination of some of the first three. It keeps him off balance. Sometimes you seem very interested sometimes you seem aloof.
Final Note: It’s okay to make the guy have to work a little. This shows that he’s interested. But be careful not to take it too far. It’s a delicate balance, because guys have delicate egos. 🙂
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