Is this guy playing me?

Dear Guys,

I fell for a guy who’s been cheated on. He tends to push people away I believe.

We met at a party and we started messaging each other sexual messages. The next time I saw him we had wild, incredible sex. Sex that I hadn’t experienced before. I told him I wanted more than just sex, but he pushed me away and was emotionally mean with his words.

I want to know him more but I began to annoy him. But I can’t stop thinking about him and every few weeks I message him and tell him how much I like him and that I’d like to get to know him better. At first he led me on, but then things went downhill quickly and he was mean again. That made me want him more.

I recently messaged him and told him the sex with him was great and that I thought he was a great guy. Now, all of a sudden, he wants to have sex with me again. I very much want him but I don’t know if he is just messing with my head, or he really wants me. HELP!!


Dear Les,

Thanks for your question.

We understand that you really like this guy, and that the sex was great, and that he really does it for you. But we have to be honest with you. He’s using you for sex.

How do we know? It’s his inconsistent behavior.

One minute he’s telling you what you want to hear so he can get with you, and the next thing you know, he’s being mean. He’s keeping you off-balance, trying to confuse you. However, there’s nothing confusing going on here. He’s playing you. And it will go on for as long as you allow it continue.

Our advice: Move on. We don’t see this ending well. But of course, it’s your call.

All the best,


ps. Please let your friends know about us. Thanks.

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