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Loss of Freedom
Guys are not completely shallow though. They do want what women want. Loving, committed relationships. They just have a more difficult time coming to grips with what it means to be monogamous and committed. Many view committed relationships in terms of what they have to give up, rather than what they have to gain. Until they make that switch in their brains they have a difficult time committing to one woman.
What do they believe they are losing by being in a relationship?
A sense of freedom. Freedom to be selfish. Make their own choices. Come and go as they please. Ultimately this means, the freedom to be with other women.
When a guy tells a woman, “I’m not ready to commit. I want to travel. See the world. Get my career off the ground. Whatever other excuse” all he’s really saying is: I don’t want to give up my freedom. At least not now. And not for you. What a woman has to decipher is: Would he be willing to give up his freedom for another woman?
And therein lies the million dollar question. Is he using his need for exploration and freedom as an excuse because he’s not that into you, or is he truly not ready to be in a committed, loving relationship?
Since we’re not mind-readers, we can’t answer that question. The answer lies within the mind of your man. If you want answers, you need to seek out the source and have a heart-to-heart conversation with him. After you do this, you then have to decide if you believe him. This is why trust is so important in a relationship. Without it, it’s hard to know what to believe. It’s hard to feel secure, wondering what he’s up to, what he’s thinking.
The unexpected breakup:
But what happens when he sticks around for a time, and you think things couldn’t be more perfect, and then he breaks up out of the blue and you’re devastated and left wondering what the heck happened?
See the three most common answers on our next post. The Unexpected Breakup