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About two months ago I met someone online on a Sugar Daddy Website. It was the first time either of us has ever met up with anyone from the website. Let’s call him Jack. Jack is 39 and very wealthy. His work causes him to travel a lot. He broke off his engagement of about a year back in November. I am 19 and currently a student.
Jack and I have only met up twice so far. Both times we went out to a very nice dinner and afterward we had sex. Jack is a gentlemen in all areas; during intercourse he always pleases me first and if a position hurts he will change it to what he can tell I am comfortable with. Though we met on a sugar daddy website, Jack and I have never made arrangements for pay or anything to make it seem like that type of arrangement. I guess it feels more like casual dating. I once asked Jack what we were doing and he replied “Getting to know each other right now and seeing if we are compatible.”
He texts me everyday since the first time we have talked. Sometimes he will answer right away, but a majority of the time he takes anywhere from an hour to three hours to reply to me. I know he is busy being away for work, but does this mean anything?
I have come to develop feelings for Jack, but I am not quite sure what he is looking for and I find it awkward to ask because of how we met, and also the age difference. I was wondering if you could help me and give me some advice as to what he may want or be thinking? How should I act towards the situation? Also with the communication when we aren’t together with him taking hours to answer me. Should I not answer him right away? Do you think anything serious could ever come out of this? What is your opinion about the situation; any advice you could give me would be great.
Thanks for your question.
Taking in consideration the way you met, it’s hard to say how this will unfold. But typically, the nature of a “sugar daddy relationship” is casual, similar to what you describe. Dating and sex. We’re not sure what motivated you to join the dating site, but from a guy’s perspective, he’s probably looking for exactly what he’s getting. Someone much younger he can take out on the town and enjoy in the bedroom when he’s not busy with work—which by the way is probably his first priority. However, having said that, it is possible that some of the men on the site are looking for a younger woman to marry, but not likely.
So we have two questions for you.
If work is his first priority is he still someone you’d like to have a more serious and committed relationship with?
And what initially motivated you to join the Sugar Daddy Website?
The only way to know for sure is to talk to him about it at some point. Let him know how you’re feeling and see where his head’s at. It might be a little too soon for that, but you’re certainly not going to get any answers by keeping your feelings to yourself. And our rule is, if you’re already being physical then the relationship has progressed enough to talk about the future. As far as his response time. No worries. As long as he’s getting back to you in a few hours that’s fine. No need to change your behavior and respond slower, but certainly you can if you want to mirror him.
One thing you can do in the meantime. See if he still has a profile up on the Sugar Daddy site. Not, by snooping, but by using your profile and checking out the site. (We don’t encourage you to go through his phone or computer. That’s not a great way to solidify a partnership of any kind, even though it’s tempting.) That would tell you if he’s at all serious about you, or if he’s still trolling for more women.
Finally, we’d still like to encourage you to date men of all ages—preferably someone a little closer to your age—especially since you’ve expressed interest in having a committed relationship.
We hope this helps a little. Please leave us a comment. We’d like to hear more of your thoughts.
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