What body type do guys like?

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Hi Guys,

I have a question.

I have a pretty flat butt, medium thighs, a chubby stomach, BUT I have large boobs. Is this attractive for guys? I know plenty of girls who have skinny thighs, flat stomach, flat ass, and flat chest but this one girl I know has what I think is the perfect body that I’m very envious of. I know a lot of this is personal preference but how many guys prefer a kind of chubby big-boobed girl over a flat stomach girl with medium boobs and butt? I just feel like a lot of guys wouldn’t like my body and would be interested to hear your opinion on it.


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Dear NW,

What we find most attractive is when a woman—and this is true for men too—rocks whatever body she has, and rocks it confidently. That’s the key. If your body is as you describe, then own it and try to feel good about it. That’s not to say that we all can’t work to be in the best shape we can be. Eating healthy and exercising regularly should be incorporated into your life. That said, no two people look the same, and how you look when you’re in the best shape is not going to be how your friend looks or your c0-worker looks, or whoever. You understand our point we hope.

Now to your question.

Guys come in all shapes and sizes, which also means guys are attracted to all shapes and sizes. Is there an agreed upon “perfect” body type? Not really. Sure, there are famous women in the world that most men might agree are pretty hot, but in general, guys’ opinions are as varied as there are guys. Yes, we’d be lying to you if we didn’t tell you that it all starts with looks. Guys are very visual. If we like what we see, we’ll pursue it. Some men like big chests, others like small. Some men like long legs, others like more muscular legs. And so it goes.

However, it’s not all physical. We’ll get back to our original point. Confidence is key. But so is your personality, your intelligence, your humor, the way you carry yourself in the world. All that factors into how a guy sees you. And more importantly, how you see yourself.

Our advice to you is: You can only control what you can control. You take care of yourself. Be healthy. Buy clothes that fit your body type. Embrace who you are. And we’re sure there will be plenty of guys pursuing you when the time is right.

Let us know if you have any follow-up questions. (Leave in the comments below.)

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8 Comments on What body type do guys like?

  1. My husband of 17 years left me two months ago. He began to cheat with a woman he had just known a month prior, he moved into our family camper with her. I believe there may be some drug use and excessive partying involved. I have filed for seperation because he says he is no longer in love with me.My heart is crushed we have been together since I was just 18 and I have truly and deeply am in love with him. Is there any hope in this mess he has made of our lives? Should I move forward without him and accept this new life? We have two beautiful children whom are now teenagers, they are angry and hurt. My heart wants him back I thought we were happy, he said he was not.

  2. @Judy….We are so, so sorry. It’s hard to say what might happen since it’s only been three months. (Even if it feels like an eternity to you.) Have you talked to him? Is he willing to talk about things? Are you? Would you be able to forgive him?

  3. I have already forgiven him. The hardest part for me is the pain my children are in. Also the anger he is expressing toward me.

  4. @Judy…..We are sorry. The teen years are difficult enough, but to inject this sort of uncertainty and stress into their lives is even harder. And that’s what we see here….how selfish he’s being AND the way he’s doing it. We can’t speak to the state of your relationship, but the fact that he’s taken up with another woman and using your family camper to do it, is just not okay on any level. Honestly, if he won’t talk to you, or won’t see a counselor, then you need to do what you’re doing. Focus on your children. And move forward with your life. Do we think he’s going to end up with this woman? No. That’s doubtful. The woman was his exit strategy. He felt he needed to extract himself and he’s using her to do it. But if he does come back, or wants to reconcile, it will have to be on his terms and it’s hard to say if/when that will be. He’s going to need to have an epiphany for that to happen. And since we don’t know him, it’s hard for us to comment about that.

  5. Many people now have told me he is using drugs.More importantly they have told me he wasn’t happy. The one person he should have told was me but he never bothered. He has never really been good at communication. I think his anger towards stems from me choosing to stay in our home rather than move out and give it to him. This could have gone so differently if he had done the one thing he has never done talk to me. He has lied so much at this point it is hard to even know what the truth is. All I have ever done is love a man who for far too long didn’t love me back. I have held on too tightly because I loved him so. I have let him go now, that is what he wants. I don’t understand why though he has made a train wreck of my life and his children’s yet he thinks he has a right to blame me.

  6. @Judy……Well, if he is using drugs, it’s likely he’s not thinking clearly. Do you think you’d be able to take him back after all the lies and his lack of communication? It’s important for you to consider what you might do. We are sorry. But we’re glad you’re strong enough to give your kids the extra attention they need at the moment, and for the future.

  7. The only thing I know for sure at this point is that I want to coparent in peace and help our children heal. I carry my grief in silence now. He is gone and there isn’t anything I can do about it.

  8. @Judy…..We understand. You take care of yourself. Visit anytime you’d like to ask a question or talk.

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