Will a threesome save our relationship?

Dear Guys,

My guy and I are taking a break after one-and-a-half years together due to me constantly having insecurity issues. My issues stem from past relationships. So my question is: Will surprising my ex with a threesome prove to him I’m not insecure and help us get back together? It’s both of our fantasies and I want to prove to him I have changed and I’m not insecure any longer. He was a good guy and really didn’t deserve the the headaches I caused him.

E

Dear E,

It usually takes two to tango. So although, you blame your relationship troubles on yourself we suspect that he may also have contributed. Question to ask yourself: Did you feel secure in the relationship? If not, why? Was it because you have a difficult time trusting men due to your past relationships or was it also something about him specifically and how he behaved or didn’t behave? (Who broke up with who? Did he blame you for the relationship falling apart?  Does he even want to get back together? How old are you? Him?)

The point is, while we doubt he’ll turn down a threesome, this won’t necessarily fix everything that’s broken between you. Sounds like there was a lack of trust on your part. Get to the bottom of that and you might have a chance for reconciliation.

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