As the subject line reads! I recently recieved a random phone call from a guy I used to hang out with. He called to ask to use to my dictophone to which I agreed. But there has been no follow up!
In terms of background on us, he is 9 years older than me (I’m 25 and he’s 34). Nothing really amounted to much between us; (no kiss!) we just hung out; but admittedly he is great company. But now he hardly contacts me. However, I do notice when it hits three week mark of no contact between us he either texts or instant messages to check in and see how I’m doing.
So I guess I’m asking what his game is and where to go from here? I would like something to develop here. I think he is attracted but distracted!
Thanks for your question.
Usually when a guy randomly contacts a woman he wants something more than to use her dictaphone. (For our readers: A dictaphone is a small cassette recorder used to record speech for transcription at a later time.) But he’s probably not quite sure how to proceed since he doesn’t know how you feel about him. He initially contacted you to put out feelers, and he continues this strategy by working in three week intervals. He’s giving you space, but not enough so you’ll forget him.
But what do you know about his situation. Is he dating? Single? Involved? Involved but trying to break up? That might help you figure out his intentions. You need to gather a bit more information here.
A good way to get this started is to just invite him over again for dinner or lunch. We’re not suggesting good food and sex; we’re suggesting a nice meal where you can can get the conversation started. Because at the pace this is going, it could be years before he makes a move.
Last thought: After you make the initial move, he needs to initiate all dates after that. (At least for a while.) That way you’ll really know what his intentions are, and how serious he is about you.
Good luck and keep us posted,
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