The guy I’m seeing, sleeping with, basically we’ve been doing whatever lately for the past month. He’s pretty possesive. He asked me to write his name on my….well you know. Like I’m his property. It’s different then anything I’ve ever been into, but it kind of excites me. I don’t know if I’m twisted, or if this is going to lead anywhere. But we both said we liked eachother and I don’t know if I should run away as fast as I can or try to see if we can have a relationship.
Thanks for your question.
So what do you want? Should we assume you want a relationship with this man since you wrote to us to inquire what you should do?
As far as being twisted, well, what you do in your bedroom is your own business. Certainly you should only partake in activities you’re comfortable with, and if you feel this guy is being strangely possessive, well then you need to set clear boundaries with him. But otherwise, if you’re happy and fulfilled, then all the power to you.
But you need to start talking about how you feel with this guy. If you want a relationship, then you need to let him know that. Yes, there are no guarantees that he will be receptive, but if he’s not you’ll certainly have a better sense of how he views you. Because if you don’t say anything soon, you’re going to settle into a routine and end up becoming his booty call. You might say that’s okay, but trust us, at some point the excitement will wear off, replaced by anger and resentment.
Last Point: If you’re not going to communicate your feelings to him, you might want to think about running the other way.
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Read Charlotte Pescale’s “Rebecca, a memoir.”
Start from the beginning:
Chapter 1: Darryl – Part 6 (On Relationship Memoirs Page)
Chapter 2: My Two Experiments (On Relationship Memoirs Page)