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Dear guys,

Well, I just thought I would sit on this but now I’ll ask for your advice.

So about three years ago I met a guy, and it turned out we had a lot of common friends and have some of the same interests. We are compatible on so many levels but on others we aren’t. We had a lot of attraction and finally we ended up hooking up. (We are both 29.)

It went on for a few months until he suddenly ended it. (I was moving away for work for four months and that was known to both parties.) He called me one day and said what we were doing wasn’t a good idea and that we should just be friends. I tried to act cool and moved away.

When I moved back I texted him and he called me and I never called him back. Then we ran into each at an event four months later. (This was eight months after we ended whatever we were doing.) It was clear we were still attracted to each other and started hooking up together again.

He kept asking me to hang out. I resisted and told him I didn’t want to date. HE wanted to date; he came over and said it right to my face. I told him i didnt want anything serious. He has never had a serious girlfriend and I think he might freak out and end it out of fear of getting too emotional. (He’s not experienced in the relationship department.) So I told him I just wanted to avoid it. But then he didn’t want to just hookup with NSA(No Strings Attached).

Over Christmas a friend of mine asked me about him. I told him we are just friends with a lot of sexual tension. I texted him that night and told him we have to go for dinner and catch up soon and that I missed him.

We have remained friends, just a few texts here and there. If we end up at the same place we chat, catch up and leave it at that. But there is always an awkward goodbye. So it went from him ending it to me ending it. I have tried to keep it NSA with him and I actually would like a relationship like this with him. He is a player and I know that completely. When he wanted to date me this summer, I told him he really hurt me the first time he ended it with me, the summer before.

We both lead crazy busy lives, and to be honest I’m not looking for a intense relationship right now. I don’t hookup with random guys so in my mind he’s ideal to have a defined NSA with. Is this even possible?

This weekend he texted me after a hockey game, telling me to come out with his friends. (The typical “we are friends come hang out text.”) I told him to have fun and be safe. He then said you should pick me up. I said, no I shouldn’t. I think he was really surprised, and he said please come get me. I asked if he was stranded or was speaking code. It was the latter.

I know we will be at the same event in the next month. When we are in the same room together it’s unspoken that we will be together later. I have never been in something like this before. I don’t understand it. It feels like total dysfunction, but I keep feeling drawn to him and missing him. I usually just ignore my feelings but the chemistry is like nothing I have ever had.

If I do contact him when and what should I say? I just feel like we are always on different pages. I want the same page. How do I get there?

Dealing with Crazy Guys

Dear Dealing with Crazy Guys,

Thanks for your question.

On the one hand you say you just want a NSA relationship with him, and on the other hand you say are drawn to him, miss him, and have chemistry with him that you haven’t ever had before. So which is it?

It seems that you’re really into this guy, but you’re scared he might hurt you again and that’s why you don’t want to explore it further. (We realize he’s a player.) But from where we’re sitting it seems like the only reason he broke up with you in the first place was because you were leaving town. And is it possible that since you were leaving, neither of you let your guard down enough to really explore what a relationship might feel like with the other person?

It seems to us if you could somehow start over with this guy, push reset, you might have a chance to really have a great relationship. Because it’s obvious that the two of you have a connection, even more than just sexual chemistry. But in order to move forward one of you needs to take a leap of faith. And frankly, it’s probably going to have to be you since you seem to be the one who’s unsure right now.

Women often say, “Once a player, always a player.” And that may be true to a certain degree but there’s one caveat. Sometimes a guy is a player until he finds the person he’s looking for. It’s true that guys don’t always know what they are looking for, but they do know when they’re with someone who isn’t it. (Hope that makes sense.) He’s 29, so maybe he’s ready to move from being a player to a serious guy?

We think you need to go on some proper dates with this guy, almost as if you had just met. Why not start by inviting him for coffee or lunch, far removed from the nighttime events where you normally meet up? That way you can really get to know each other on a different level. You’ll really be able to find out who the other person is. And maybe this will make you more comfortable. After that, see if he’ll take the reigns from there and take you out to dinner, or the movies, or a museum, or a hike, or a show, or whatever. You don’t have to jump right into a serious relationship, but you do need to clear your head and figure out what you truly want. We recommend staying away from the bedroom for a time because this will only serve to confuse you more.

We think you should give this a go. Stop being coy with him. (And hopefully he’ll do the same once he sees you might be interested.) Let yourself be open to possibilities. What’s the worst thing that could happen? Yes, he could reject you. And that will feel pretty crappy. But at least you won’t still be in a holding pattern, wondering what he’s thinking and what you should do. There’s nothing better than getting definitive answers. (As definitive as you can within a relationship.)

Keep us posted. Leave us a comment here in the comments section and we’ll respond here as well.

Good luck,

THE GUYS

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30 Comments on Booty call or relationship trouble?

  1. I went out with a guy I’ve been talking to for 5 months (this wasn’t our first time going out). He took me to a movie, tried to get dinner but everything was closed, and then we went back to his place to watch another movie. He cuddled with me on his couch the whole movie and we made out-he clearly wanted to go further but I stopped him every time so he would know I wasn’t going to give in. It ended up being really late, so he told me I could stay the night and nothing would happen he just didn’t want me to drive home that late.

    So I stayed, he let me borrow his shorts and we went to bed. Of course throughout the night and in the morning (especially) he made out with meand kept trying to go further but whenever I stopped him he seemed fine with it. However, he cuddled with me all night. He never turned over or moved to the other side. All night he put his arms around me and held my hand, played with my hair or rubbed my stomach. He also whispered in my ear that he liked me a lot (I was half asleep), called me baby a few times and every single time he would adjust his arms, he would kiss my back and shoulder and neck then go back to sleep. He even called in work sick in the morning and was going to go later so he stayed in bed with me, then I left for work and he texted me everyday after that.

    He told me before he likes me, a few times, and we’ve made out before and I went to the movies with him a few other times within the past 5 months as well as to a club. However, it’s been 5 months and he says he really likes me but we don’t see each other that much and he hasn’t asked me out that much. He does work quite a bit during the week and I work odd hours at a restaurant. Also, he and his roommates got kicked out of their apartment so he lives even further, so it’s harder to see each other. I guess I’m questioning his intentions even though we’ve talked to each other for so long and I really like him.

    Was he only cuddling with me all night to get some? Was the way he was cuddling intimate for him or was it purely to get me more open to sex? Can a guy cuddle without sex or does he only cuddle to get sex?

  2. @Marie…..In your case, our gut tells us, he was cuddling to get sex. (Yes, guys do that. In fact they’ll do anything. Read the Introduction on our Relationship Memoirs page.) That would also explain why he’s not contacting you a lot now. If he was really serious about you he’d be making more of an effort. (We understand about the distance and the work circumstance.) He needs to step up to the plate and ask you out on some actual dates. (Not sex, or an evening at his house.) But honestly, even the dates, might just be his way of getting you back in the sack. It smells a bit fishy to us. What do you think? ps. Feel free to ask us a follow up question. And keep us posted as this progresses. Also, check out our “Relationship Memoirs” page, especially Charlotte Pescale’s “Rebecca, a memoir.” And let your friends know about us. Thanks!

  3. Dear guys,

    So i’m completely confused, i had a booty call arrangement of sorts with a guy, it had been going on for a few months before i realised i was starting to develop feelings for him so i broke it off knowing that wasn’t a good situation for me to be in.

    Although it happened again after i got back intouch with him and lasted for a month or so before i told him that casual sex just wasn’t working for me anymore.

    He knew from the start that i struggled with feelings, i’ve never been able to handle being in a relationship, so the booty call was perfect for me. I started to want more though hence the end of it for me.

    A week or so later he gets in touch at 2 in the morning wanting to know if i can meet him cause he wants to talk about something, i refused but he never relented so i obviously gave in just to get him off my back.

    So he came to my house and says he has feelings for me, i just stared back unblelieving of course cause he said he doesn’t do relationships like i don’t. i ask him what he wanted from me and obviously he wanted to know how i feel and if i liked him we could go from there, i said i wasn’t sure how i felt as i did’nt really know him anymore. I also said i didn’t believe him and that i thought he just wanted me back for sex. So we spent an hour just talking about it and kissing, he knew he was getting me worked up and making me want him, which i know was his objective.

    We planned for me to go to his house the next day and just get to know eachother again without sex this time, but i never heard from him all today, i text him a simple hello, just testing the waters and whatnot, but i haven’t heard back.

    What i want to know is, in your opinion do you think he was lying and just wanted sex again or do you think he feels rejected over me saying i don’t know how i feel about him anymore, and anymore opinions you have on the situation. I’m so confused by him.

    Thanks,
     Megan

  4. @Megan…….We’re confused too. Didn’t you say you had feelings for this guy and that’s why you broke it off with him? And so when he came over, why did you tell him you weren’t sure? Yes, it is possible he feels rejected and that’s why he’s blowing you off a little. On the other hand, why did he have to come over at 2am? Why couldn’t it have waited until the next day? So in that sense, yes we think he was looking for sex. We think both of you need to come clean and say what you really want. It sounds like this is difficult for both of you—especially you—but vulnerability is part of being in a relationship, and that’s why trust is so important. The two of you need to get on the same page, and star over by dating—away from your respective bedrooms. Get to know each other, and then take it back to the bedroom when you’ve built a foundation of trust and understanding. Hope this helps. Your thoughts? ps. Also, check out our “Relationship Memoirs” page, especially Charlotte Pescale’s “Rebecca, a memoir.” You might enjoy it! And let your friends know about us. Thanks! (Please consider a small donation to THE GUYS. Use PayPal button on any page of site.) No pressure of course, we’re happy to answer as many questions as you’ve got.

  5. Dear guys,
    Yea I started developing feelings and knew he wasn’t looking for a relationship so I ended it. When he came round I said I wasn’t sure because I thought he was just looking for sex, which I’m pretty sure he was now as I haven’t heard from him since, I’m positive he’ll text soon asking me to meet him or whatever, and then I’ll call him out on it and he won’t be able to ignore me. If anything happens it will definitely not just be sex, he doesn’t deserve it even if all I want is sex I’d rather do without after he tried the cliche ‘I have feelings for you’, to trick me back into bed. I feel so stupid now for even having a bit of hope in him, should have trusted my instincts! Well it’s done and by with now, it’s him missing out since he’s the one always running back.
    Thank you for your response it helped put a lot in perspective. I’ll check out the page, thanks again!
    Megan

  6. @Megan….Glad we could help a little. Take care and please keep in touch and let us know how things are going with you. Take care. ps. Please consider a small donation to THE GUYS. (Use PayPal button on any page of ours site.) No pressure of course. We’re happy to answer as many questions as you want to ask.

  7. Hi guys,
    I have never done this before but I am at a complete loss as to what to do. My ex and I went out for 3 years (2 fantastic) and just before his birthday and our 3 year anniversary he split up with me (2 weeks ago) the relationship had been weird for about a month but I still over reacted and did all the stupid things you shouldn’t do. I then left it and ignored him even though I want him back we have been talking ever since and for at least an hr sometimes 5 each night when we split he told me he didn’t love me in that way anymore but since then he said he still loves me he just said it to make it easier for me and that he just wants to be by himself at the moment! Anyway in these convos we have been talking about where we could have gone and when I show any sign of moving on he shouts at me then hangs up then rings me back 5 mins later. I have had a few offers already and he asks me to be honest so I have been that’s where this happens, he wont stop asking me about things like that then stroping when its not what he wants to hear especially as he has tried flirting with other girls and doesnt seem to be getting anywhere. I have been pushing to be friends as I don’t want to loose him from my life as he is my best friend and he kept saying I’m not sure. I have other than the day we split up managed to keep my cool(no idea how) but the other day we were having our nightly unplanned chat and got to reminiscing and ended up having phone sex! As we both said we were lonely I had told him to get a hug off him mum but he said that it wasn’t enough as he couldn’t spoon at night with her. I had a naughty dream the other night and text him when I woke up and he rang and said we could b friends with benifits – I had just been hoping for another hem hem call- so I went round and as awquard as it was at the beginning we ended up having really good sex and since then he has asked me if I want to go to the cinema. I want him back but don’t feel I can tell him as I am sure it will scare him off even though we are acting !
     like a c
    ouple. He hinted at me that the reason he split up with me was because he had started to think of us being together forever marriage etc and he is only 24 I am 22 so he thinks it is way too soon to even start thinking like that but my view is what happens happens if we are together now it doesn’t matter what the future holds I don’t care if we split up in the future only that we are happy while it lasts. I dont know how else to tell him all this as i already have just at different times during our talks. We only split up 2 weeks ago. Is it too soon to e doing what we are? And what is he thinking? Does he want to be in a relationship or not? Sorry this is so long

  8. @Roxx…..Sorry you’re going through a difficult time. Breakups are tough and confusing. So: A few things to note about guys. 1. Even if it’s the guy who breaks up with the woman, he still doesn’t want her dating anyone else, or sleeping with anyone else, unless he’s fully entrenched in a new relationship, and even then he doesn’t really. 1. He will still gladly have sex with his ex indefinitely as long as he knows she isn’t secretly pining to get back together. ( Of course the only reason she would agree to a FWB arrangement is to possibly get back together.) Question for you: If he had been more successful finding some new women to date or sleep with would he be back with you saying those things? Something to consider. The thing is Roxx, 2 weeks isn’t long enough for anything to settle. Both of you didn’t give the break up long enough to sink in. All of these things that are going on are reactions to being alone, and the sadness of a break up. Things need to settle before the two of you can make any sort of rational decision about getting back together or staying apart. (Especially on his part.) You’d be better of separating for a big and then talking at the end of the summer. Because even though you said no to a FWB relationship that’s what you’re unwittingly doing by having sex with him right now. Feel free to ask us a follow up question/s.

  9. Thanks I just want to know why he is telling me he loves me he has been through a really hard time with family recently and his step dad an mum split up it feels like he wants to be with me but when he thought about us being together he freaked out I think it maybe because he is freaking out that we will end up like his parents or his step dad an mum I just want him to know that I don’t care what happens just that we love each other and nothing else should matter I don’t know how to make him realise that just coz he can see us together forever doesn’t mean we will and if we were together doesn’t mean we will end up like his family also I don’t know how to get him to realise we are in a relationship even if that’s not what it’s called I know we are technically FWB but it only happens by accident normally initiated by me but he ibitiates going out on dates and setting our friends up with each other and talking til 5 am about nothing! Is he just freaking out? What should I do how do I get him back?

  10. Sorry I should be clear and say tht that’s what he said he was thinking about before we split that he was thinking about us together then after we split he asked me about my thoughts and I said I never really thought about it I don’t care where we end up and straight after that we had the phone sex and he has been trying it on ever since so I’m thinking this is a commitment issue??? I don’t know

  11. @Roxx…….The best thing to do is let him take the lead here. Obviously he still cares about you but is freaking out for some reason or another. It could be that he wants to be with you but is scared. It could also be that he wants to move on but is scared. (If that makes sense.) Time will tell here. But we’d stay away from FWB if possible. That won’t give you the answers or resolution you’re looking for. Good luck.

  12. Thank you, it’s helped a lot unfortunately it’s easy for me to say I won’t do FWB but when it’s in the moment the famed other brain takes over-yes women have it too :/ but the cinema trip went well a lot of touching and then I decided to test the waters by doing the backup husband thing of when we are 50 and neither of us have someone can we get together and see where the land lies and he said yes and then started trying to make it that if we both have children etc then it would still be ok and adding in all these things. After tonight I believe it is the wants to be with me but is scared thing and now I have to find a way to work out why he is scared! Argh u men are the complicated ones! lol Thank you for your advice you are a star! Is this an American thing? Please don’t feel the need to reply am just updating you as I feel you know more about my sex life than any of my friends

  13. @Roxx……Too funny. Keep us posted. Hang in there.

  14. Ok so update we are now acting as though we are going out n he is going above and beyond to make me happy I.e. he walked me home (1/2 hr walk there n back) coz it reminded him of the beggining of our relationship he is buying me drinks putting his arm around me etc n seems as though he was freaked out by the possibility of us being together 4eva he keeps putting my hair behind my ear n tryin to spend as much time together as possible he seems to be working up to ask me out but I’m worried he won’t as he says I never want to put you through that again but I think he has realised how good we were together … I dunno what this means

  15. @Roxx…..Well, it certainly sounds positive. Just go slowly with everything. We do worry he’s just acting totally cool to get you in bed, so keep your wits about you. Thanks for the update. Keep us in the loop. Good luck.

  16. But he’s already getting that I can’t help myself it’s just he is turning it in2 a relationship he has stopped flirting with other girls only has eyes for me but will listen when I say about guys I might b with n gets jealous

  17. Hey guys,

    Earlier this year I met this guy through a class. He is a year older than me. And now I am a junior in college while he is finishing his last year as a undergrad. He is outgoing and talks to a lot of people, but he pays a lot of attention to me. We hit it off right away and we flirt with each other a lot. One thing I noticed is that he doesn’t like texting which is fine with me. Anyway, a couple of months in to our meeting, he asked me to go help him with something over spring break and he didn’t ask anyone else. While I was there I met his family( what ever that indication means) and they seemed to know about me, like he was telling them about me. But after spring break, things started to become different. He seemed stressed all the time and would barely talk to me. Maybe it had to deal with work, classes, and play rehersals. His friends noticed a difference too but they never said anything to me. I thought it was something I did and was pretty upset about it. I stopped thinking about everything and concentrated on having a job and working during the summer. But randomly a couple of months later he was trying to find me in his phone( I have the same name as a few other people in his phone). And once he found out it was me he said we need to hang out sometime. Apparently the reason he didn’t talk to me was because he had ex-girlfriend issues and didn’t know what to do. He was torn between going back with her or not. Now they don’t talk anymore. He apologized for everything. And now when I talk to him he responds to my texts right away. And we even talked on the phone for an hour. But sometimes I don’t hear from him again and I just want to know what is going on. Am i just an option to him? Does he like me or just trying to boost his ego with me? What is going on in his mind with all of this? Thanks!

  18. @Brooke……Well, at least he explained what his erratic behavior was all about. And that’s the crux of this. Is his behavior consistent? That’s the tell here. If his communication is sometimes great, and then sometimes not, he’s not looking for much from you, and he’s probably not worth fretting about. If he consistently contacts you, and initiates contact, and then asks you out, shows up on time, pays for dinner or whatever you do, calls you the next day, etc. then he’s interested. Make sense? We can’t answer all of your questions directly because we’d need to see him in action, or at least get more details from you. Hope this helps a little. Feel free to ask us a follow up question. And please let your friends know about us. Thanks!

  19. I met this guy a couple weeks ago at a bar, we hit it off immediately and when we kissed he couldnt get enough of it (and he let me know that) I invited him over and things didnt go as planned. We had great chemistry but round 3, condom broke, and he helped by making sweet jokes about how beautiful our kids will be (he already has 1 kid). He played it all good, offered to come with me to the pharmacy, said everything would be fine. Continued to enjoy our night and in the morning we said our goodbyes. To my surprise we continued to talk. I always had to initiate texting conversations, but once initiated, he was responsive and interested. He came over for another late night romp session and we had another great time. He had his kid for the next week and we had talked about how great it would be to meet up on the weekend when he was free. Last saturday we were texting and he decided to alter his plans to come hang out with me, told me he would text me when he got back and was heading over. Texted me he was on his bike (motorcycle) and that as soon as he was back, he would let me know. That was it. Never heard from him. I was genuinely concerned for his safety, and texted him to see if he was okay, still no response. Called and left a voicemail the next day, just to ask if he was alive. Still nothing. Maybe I over did it, over texted him, scared him off, was my concern for his safety alarming? Its been 6 days since I heard from him and I cant help but feel a little deserted. He seemed genuinely interested, but then why did he dissapear? Why would he tell me he was on his way and just drop off the face of the earth? I hadnt thought much about it until last night, and today I’m in a sort of funk and cant stop thinking about it. I have a text written up just waiting to be sent, asking if he fell down a well or was picked up by the hurricane. I guess like every other woman, I am confused and need closure. He seemed incredibly impressed by my resume for my age (shocked actually) but it seemed to be a turn on, did my accomplishments drive him away? His phone is still on to my knowledge, so it didnt die, he didnt lose it, didnt get a new number. Time to move on? Usually I dont think it would bother me, but the chemistry was out of this world. Is this what a booty call is? Is this what adult relationships are like?

  20. @Liz…..we responded over on the other post you commented on.

  21. Dear Guys,
    I have this guy friend that has a gf but we still have sex. He goes throw my things and get really mad when i talk to other guys and if i go on a date with them he start yell what is his problem he has a gf and he says her loves her but why is he tripping on me about trying to find a bf. He also tell me he see me as a friend and also i need to find someone esle and when i do he trips what should i do?

  22. @Angel….We answered this on the other post you left it on. “I cheated on my Friends with Benefits guy and now he hates me.” Check it out.

  23. Nervous and Confused // May 26, 2013 at 10:03 pm //

    I have been dating this guy for a year and almost two months now, but ever since we started having sex I’ve noticed a weird pattern. He will leave after we have sex, or will suddenly not be interested in hanging out after we do that, and will drop me off at home extra early sometimes. And when I tell him I don’t feel like having sex at the moment, he keeps on pushing me into it. I know guys get ‘excited’ a lot and they also get tired after sex, but it makes me feel like I’m being used. I’m really confused on this, and I really need some advice on what to say\do about this!

  24. @Nervous…..Sounds like you have a pretty good understanding of the situation. He’s with you for the sex. It’s a typical pattern for guys who have a booty call. Might be time to move on. We’re sorry. Take care.

  25. brittany // July 20, 2013 at 1:29 pm //

    Hi guys,
    I broke up with my ex because we were really busy with sports and we could never make time for each other. He was sad when I broke up with him, and got even more sad when I told him we should stop talking so it’s easier for me to move on. He respected that, and we stopped talking.
    Almost 2 months have past and we ran into each other at my friend’s house. My ex texted me after I left, asking me how I been and saying I look good and he still is attracted to me, I texted him back saying I was still attracted to him too. He said he still thinks I’m cool and everything, and since our relationship went downhill he wanted to be friends that hook up. He also said that he knows its a douche thing to say but he couldn’t help it because we had a good attraction.
    I was stupid and said “I guess one time wouldn’t hurt.” We hooked up, and then he texted me after and told me he had a fun time and then we just talked about things in general. Then he texted me later that night saying i’m really glad were friends again. Two days later he randomly texted me, not to hook up but just talk. Then he texted me the next day and we hooked up. He made a comment before we hooked up and said “Our relationship is so weird ;)”
    We would text at least once or twice a week, send pics and stuff, or sometimes just to talk, this went on for the next 2 months. One time we were talking and he asked who have I hooked up with since we’ve broken up, I was honest and told him. He claimed he was just wondering.
    However, now he texts me a lot more. I had a party the other day and he was texting me the whole night. He asked me if I hooked up with someone, and I said yes. he got very upset and I told him there was no need to be upset and he texted me back and said “I cant believe I’m saying this but i’m jealous 🙁 I don’t know if I have feelings or I just really want to hook up with you” he kept asking questions, “who was it, how far did you go, do you like hooking up with other guys more than me?, am I the only guy you’ve gone the farthest with, etc.” I know how friends with benefits work, the guy wants the girl to be available for him and he doesn’t want her with another guy for his ego. But my ex was super jealous and upset. Now whenever I get drunk he asks me who I’m with (because he’ll think i’m gonna do something stupid) and sometimes he asks if he can come too whenever I go out. Also, he always wants to hook up now..we hooked up everyday for a week straight last week. When we hookup, sometimes he would leave right after, but recently he stays around and hangs out with me.
    Does he still have feelings or am I going crazy?

  26. @Brittany…….This is a messy situation and one we think you should extract yourself from. If he was really serious about you he’d be talking about a relationship. Being jealous and territorial don’t necessarily mean he wants to be involved in a serious relationship with you. He likes the sex, he enjoys your company, but doesn’t want to work at it. Seems like a great arrangement for him, but not so much for you since you still have feelings for him. Our advice; Move on.

  27. Hey guys im in a mess! So i met this man online three months ago. We talked and really got to know each other. He is a detective. Im recently getting divorced and he is aware. Our relationship has turned booty call. I dont understand why one night he came over after i told him i was going out why he asked me where i was going?i told him i dont go on that website anymore but noticed he went to my profile page twice???then he has asked me if my neighbors have said anything about his car being in my driveway??he has asked that twice…he stays around after we r done and asks me about my life and he talks about his?? Why does he do this if its just booty call??? I really like him but i wont cross that line…

  28. @All the Women out There…….We’d love to hear your thoughts on The Perfect Guy? Leave a comment, a description or respond to someone else’s comment. Let’s have a conversation.

  29. I had a crush on this guy for like 2 years.Then last year, I stopped crushing on him .We met at a wedding two months back, I was drunk and basically said that we should do a friends with benefits thing.He agreed, but he had to leave. So I was left agonising over what happened. Today, my mother invited him to dinner as she is friends with his parents. I was up on the roof with him, and then he kissed me. It was I little gross coz he stuck his tongue in my mouth first go , and put his hands under my shirt in like the first one minute.My bra was unhooked in the next thirty seconds. I know from my friends that he is a player,and this is merely a friends with benefits thing for him. But now he is texting me about sex, while we made out like 2 hours ago. I don’t mind being an FWB, but I do mind being used. I feel like that is what he is doing, and he is using me because he thinks I’m “easy “.Does this mean I don’t respect myself enough? I’m confused . Should I break this off right now or continue?
    Sincerely,
    Thoroughly Confused

  30. @Anaadya……If you’re confused, unsure, uncomfortable, then yes, maybe it’s best you change your mind and wait until you find a guy who wants all of you, not just your body. Do you respect yourself? Or not? Well, we don’t know you, but don’t beat yourself up over this too hard. Sounds like you’re young and trying to figure it all out. Friends with Benefits is pretty common these days but that doesn’t mean it’s a good thing, especially for women. We’d suggest you think about this and think about what you really want and DO NOT settle for something you don’t want. As per this guy. Yes, he’s using you for sex. But you do realize that that’s what Friends with Benefits is, right? It’s about sex for guys without having to put forth any effort or commitment. We would also suggest you stay away from that and don’t propose FWB anymore. Hope this helps. Any other questions? ps. We hope you’ll share our site with friends. Thanks.

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