I’m a middle aged woman dating again. I’ve been dating a man for awhile. We had broken up for a period of time but got back together. During that time apart he dated and was intimate with another woman. He has a Facebook account as do I. He blocked me but has this other woman he was with as a friend. He also accepted a woman as a friend who he knew caused me a lot of problems in the past. If he cared for me why would he keep them and block me?
Thank you for your input.
Dear Lee Ann,
Thanks for writing. It seems Facebook issues have struck again. We’re sorry.
We’re not sure what it is about Facebook, My Space, and some of these other social networking sites, where people feel they can do or say anything without any repercussions. It’s like the wild, wild west but with no sheriff.
How long have you been back together? Is it possible you were blocked during the time of your break up and he hasn’t unblocked you yet? It’s at least worth a conversation, which is what we’re recommending in general. We think the best thing to do is to talk with your friend and see what’s going on. If you don’t like his explanation, or if he doesn’t give you one, it’s time to move on.
Our gut feeling is, he’s keeping his options open. If he is way into you why is he blocking you? What is your gut telling you? And why did you break up in the first place? Maybe those issues are still looming.
And one note about Facebook. It’s great for businesses who are trying to keep in touch with their customers or fans. (We have a fan page.) And it’s great for people who are curious to know what all their high school chums are up to. But it’s just a bit too public to use as a way to keep in touch on a regular basis. Email, or even that old relic, the phone, is a better alternative. That way, both you and the person you’re communicating with act as sheriffs.
Good luck and keep us posted.