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I went out with this guy for almost a year and a half. About a month ago I broke up with him because he was getting a little to serious for 8th grade. We both have gone out with other people since then but both of our new relationships haven’t worked out. Now we are in the same summer school course and all my friends say that it’s a possibility we could get back together. And I am absolutely head over heels for him, but I dont know if he is into me. I’ve caught him looking at me once or twice. I’ve also been walking home with him, but when we talk it’s kinda casual talk. However, when his friend walk with us he kind of ignores me and he doesn’t really talk to me in class either. I don’t know what to do because I’m pretty sure I’m in love with him. But I don’t know if he likes me. I can’t read his actions.
Please help me understand how he feels about me and if it’s a possibility to get back together with him
Thanks for your question. We’ll do our best to help you figure this out, although without actually being there it’s hard to say for sure what’s going on.
Let us understand something first: You broke up with him because he was getting too serious for 8th grade? But now, after a little break, you find yourself in love with him again, which sounds pretty serious to us. We’re just wondering if something’s changed for you? If and when you get back together, are you going to all of a sudden decide it’s too serious again and break up with him again? Or do you think you’ve reached a new level of maturity and understanding about relationships?
Your instincts are right. Eighth grade is a bit young to be intensely serious about someone. We think it’s a good time for exploration. A time to try out different “outfits” and see which one fits best. We’re not saying it’s too young to be in love, but at your age, love comes and goes so quickly, it’s hard to define really.
But let’s get back to your question. It’s likely he’s still into you, since you were the one who broke up with him. Trust your gut. Listen to your friends. You would know better than us what his “looks” actually mean. (Check out our videos on these very topics. See our video page.)
However, if he’s only looking at you and acting casual, it might be that he’s gun shy since he doesn’t know where you stand. You might have to take some initiative and make it obvious to him that you’re interested again. Eighth grade male egos are very fragile, and you’ve already wounded him once, so he’s protecting himself.
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