Online Dating: Does it work?

Dear Friends,

We've been asked our opinion on lots of topics over the years, but the majority of questions always seem to revolve around relationships. Women want to know what GUYS are thinking, and of course GUYS want to know what women are thinking. So we'd like to talk about a topic specifically related to relationships. Twenty years ago it was called The Personals, but now it's called Online Dating.

Before we start, we'd like to hear your opinions on Online Dating. Have you participated in the past? Are you currently signed up? Has it worked for you or for someone you know? Do you think it's a good way to meet people? Is it safe enough?

So please enlighten us! We like learning from you!!


Online Dating

Once upon a time, people started connecting through various alternative outlets. Instead of bars, parties and other more traditional means, men and women discovered another possibly easier way of meeting each other: The Personals.

Back in the day, The Personals were listed exclusively in newspapers. People signed up without telling ANYONE and wrote a brief description of themselves that would be listed in the paper. They were also given a special coded voice mail where people could leave voice messages in hopes that a date would be arranged at some point. This system seemed to work fine, but it was all done in hushed secrecy. No one wanted to admit that they actually needed help in finding "THE ONE." To admit defeat was to be labeled: LOSER!!

How do THE GUYS know all this? Because we were in that small minority that thought, "Why not!?" It was an adventure for us. We've been called a lot worse, as you can recall from our last post on Animals.

Anyway, we digress. The Personals continued for quite some time until the computer invaded almost every house and home on the planet. Once the computer took hold, The Personals became dated. People could now scour the world, and we do mean world, from the comfy of their own homes. The process became so much easier, more far reaching and way less risky. And by risk we mean, risk of actual contact and risk of rejection and humiliation. Communicating through email or texts made it much easier to control the pace of the "relationship" as well as screen potential suitors. Of course people learned quickly that whom they thought they were communicating with, was not always whom they were really communicating with.

So here we are, present day. We have hundreds of online dating sites offering to connect us with every possible human form, and some even with non-human forms. It seems we all need more and more help each day!! And we're not being facetious here. This is true! The more we work at our jobs, the less time we have to socialize the good old fashioned way. And the less we socialize, the less we expose ourselves to situations where we might actually meet new people.

THE GUYS think face-to-face contact is the best policy, but the reality is, that's not always possible. So online dating seems to be the obvious answer.

But is it working? What do you think? Yes or no? And why?

Tomorrow: Stay tuned for Part 2. The Guys will offer some tips on creating your profile. Find out what we really look for and get some tips on how to write a great description.

14 Comments on Online Dating: Does it work?

  1. Sorry Guys, I have to say that Dating ON The Internet is Physically Impossible. and yes this is one of our holiday snark attacks.
    but foreal doh, how would you do it ?
    guys: hi there, lets meet at the personals section of google at say 6ish’s. is that good for you ?
    date: oh I thought we could actually start out on the site and meet for tapas at their virtual bar, before we got so, you know – personal..
    yeah, happy labor day.

  2. Yep it is possible. I know a girl who started her relationship with a boy from Yahoo chat hehehe weird? and then for how many months the boy asked the number of the girl. After that they started texting and boom they entered in a relationship. But after a year of texting and chatting they broke up. Take note they have not seen each other on their entire relationship.

  3. They didn’t see each other? So was it really a relationship?

  4. I think it absolutely works with a few obvious parameters set in place (and yes, I speak from experience). It’s a valuable timesaver and a safer way to weed out the weird from the wonderful.
    My internet “adventure” began with what I later wrote about as “the Walmart incident” and had to do with deciding to choose rather than passively wait to be chosen.
    Good topic!

  5. It is possible, I’ve known a few couples who hit it off through online dating. But its still a process to meet that right person online because I’ve known a few more horror stories from other people who tried online dating. Really good ones too. Its all a matter of weeding out the crazy people to get to the right person. I’ve also tried it a couple of times, never got past the phone call stage, its alright I might try it again someday.

  6. re online dating tried it and fell off ?

  7. I’m sorry I’m confused…what is this thing you call “dating”? I’ve been married for so long I forget. LOL
    It seems a little scary to me. Can you really know who these people are just from an online profile.
    Have a great day guys!

  8. I’m living example that dating on-line is possible. I met hubby on-line just after I broke up with an abusive BF. I just wanted to talk to a stranger and tell them all about what I have been through. Little did I know I will marry that stranger one day. Six years happily married!!!

  9. So Great to hear!!

  10. Yeah, it absolutely works if you want to make it work. To make it work, you must be patient and determined like browsing tons of interesting profiles and waiting for their responses.

  11. My brother met his wife that way and they are absolutely perfect for each other. I’ve never seen a better match in my life. When and if I decide to date again, I’ll have to give it another go.

  12. I personally wouldnt consider online dating for even a second. Googling my soul mate … thats just, no.

  13. It absolutely works! The thing is, you have to still put yourself out there, and you still have to go through the first date process. What’s nice about the online match up is that you get a chance to weed through some of the people you’d never go on that second date with. Doesn’t want kids, divorced three times, or other deal breakers are immediately sifted through. Not to say that it’s flawless, but it is nice. I met my boyfriend on an online dating site, and we’re still going strong. From the first day we met, it was completely natural to be with this person. Online dating is just another way to meet people, especially if you dont’ want to go out to the bars, or waste your time on tons of horrible first dates. With my boyfriend, it felt like we were on our fourth date by the time we went out. Some people might not like that, but it worked for us!

  14. I know I’m about 2 weeks late to the party here but I wanted to put in my 2 cents…
    I’ve done online dating for a number of years and found it to be a good way to get out and meet people. (I met my girlfriend of 3 years via
    It’s a great help to be able to filter out those that have whatever personal “disqualifiers” you may have… smoking, kids, ideology, etc… So you don’t waste time chasing something you know you don’t want.
    You’re also meeting people that are eager to meet others, rather than hitting on people that are already spoken for. It just makes dating so much more efficient, and the longer you do it, the more you can hone your approach.
    Thanks Guys… love your site. Someone needs to speak up for Guyhood!

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