We've been asked our opinion on lots of topics over the years, but the majority of questions always seem to revolve around relationships. Women want to know what GUYS are thinking, and of course GUYS want to know what women are thinking. So we'd like to talk about a topic specifically related to relationships. Twenty years ago it was called The Personals, but now it's called Online Dating.
Before we start, we'd like to hear your opinions on Online Dating. Have you participated in the past? Are you currently signed up? Has it worked for you or for someone you know? Do you think it's a good way to meet people? Is it safe enough?
So please enlighten us! We like learning from you!!
Once upon a time, people started connecting through various alternative outlets. Instead of bars, parties and other more traditional means, men and women discovered another possibly easier way of meeting each other: The Personals.
Back in the day, The Personals were listed exclusively in newspapers. People signed up without telling ANYONE and wrote a brief description of themselves that would be listed in the paper. They were also given a special coded voice mail where people could leave voice messages in hopes that a date would be arranged at some point. This system seemed to work fine, but it was all done in hushed secrecy. No one wanted to admit that they actually needed help in finding "THE ONE." To admit defeat was to be labeled: LOSER!!
How do THE GUYS know all this? Because we were in that small minority that thought, "Why not!?" It was an adventure for us. We've been called a lot worse, as you can recall from our last post on Animals.
Anyway, we digress. The Personals continued for quite some time until the computer invaded almost every house and home on the planet. Once the computer took hold, The Personals became dated. People could now scour the world, and we do mean world, from the comfy of their own homes. The process became so much easier, more far reaching and way less risky. And by risk we mean, risk of actual contact and risk of rejection and humiliation. Communicating through email or texts made it much easier to control the pace of the "relationship" as well as screen potential suitors. Of course people learned quickly that whom they thought they were communicating with, was not always whom they were really communicating with.
So here we are, present day. We have hundreds of online dating sites offering to connect us with every possible human form, and some even with non-human forms. It seems we all need more and more help each day!! And we're not being facetious here. This is true! The more we work at our jobs, the less time we have to socialize the good old fashioned way. And the less we socialize, the less we expose ourselves to situations where we might actually meet new people.
THE GUYS think face-to-face contact is the best policy, but the reality is, that's not always possible. So online dating seems to be the obvious answer.
But is it working? What do you think? Yes or no? And why?
Tomorrow: Stay tuned for Part 2. The Guys will offer some tips on creating your profile. Find out what we really look for and get some tips on how to write a great description.