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Okay, so I used to crazy for this guy Matt. He was my neighbor and we used to be friends. We would talk and blah blah blah all that kinda stuff. I was 17 and he was 23. One time I asked him to hang out with me and he said okay. He was going to help me study for an exam and I said I’d call him later. I did and he didn’t pick up the phone or ever called me back. Then the next week he moved and we never spoke again. That was the end of October.
Now I’m 18, and he texted me yesterday asking me how I was. At first I didn’t know it was him because I deleted his number after he didn’t call me back. And I figured it out without asking him but I decided to ask who it was anyway because I felt like being mean. He told me it was him and I didn’t text back. So now he’s all like, “So you dont want to talk to me huh?” And I’m like WTF, I talked to you when you still lived here. Then, he texts me at 10pm the other night wanting to hang out and I was like okay but I’m not driving to your house 30 minutes away. You can come to mine and then he was like oh nevermind I’ll call you tomorrow and he never did.
What is his deal? Is he into me or not?
Thanks for writing to us.
We have one question for you: Why in the world would you agree to hang out with him when he texted you at 10pm!!??? Please say you won’t do that again. That’s not a path you want to with guys.
So to your question: He’s into you, but only when it’s convenient for him. It’s time to move on and meet some new guys, preferably closer to your own age.
Here are a few things to think about. Please relay these to your friends as well.
1. If a guy only texts or calls the evening he wants to see you, he only wants one thing from you-sex. Bad news.
2. A six year age difference at 17 is huge, especially if the girl is younger. When you’re in your twenties it’s not that big of a deal, and when you’re even older it doesn’t matter at all. But for now, stick to guys closer to your age. Girls, you gotta ask yourself, why is this guy not going out with girls/women his own age? Answer: Because they’re not interested in him. Hmm……
3. Boys, guys, men-should ask you out on proper dates, not just to hang out at their apartments or cars late at night.
4. Don’t settle. Be true to yourself and find someone who respects you, and loves you, not just someone who wants to have sex with you.
Good luck Courtney.
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