The Addiction

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Dear Guys,

I’m in a relationship with a wonderful man. He’s pretty much
exactly what I’m looking for, except one thing. He smokes. I don’t. He’s very
considerate and always smokes outside, but something about it doesn’t sit right
with me. What can I do?

Deirdra in Texas


Hey Deirdra,

Unfortunately you can’t do anything about it. It’s an
addiction. And it’s not an easy addiction to get over. Some of THE GUYS used to
smoke and some still do. Even THE GUYS that have quit, say they wake up most
mornings wishing they could have a cigarette. So as you can imagine, it’s not
an easy situation to be in no matter how you look at.

We have some questions for you. Have you said anything to
him about how you feel? We’re assuming you have. If so, how did he respond?
You’re going to have to take your cues from him. Does he want to quit? And we
don’t mean in general terms. We mean, is he 100% committed to quitting?
Otherwise it’s going to be a losing battle for him and you. He has to be ready
on his own to go through it. And if he chooses that path, it’s your job as
someone who cares for him to support him in anyway you can. That’s the best you
can do.

If he’s not 100% ready to quit, then you have to decide how
long you want to wait before he makes a decision. And if his decision is, he
wants to be a smoker, you’ll have to figure out what you want to do moving

That’s about all we can say. We’re not experts on addiction. We hope this is helpful.


1 Comment on The Addiction

  1. Governor Bradford // July 12, 2009 at 9:11 am //

    Hey Deirdra:
    It seems like your relationship maybe off to a bad start. Smoking for those who don’t smoke can be a big turn off. Sometimes though we overlook those things that we know will not make us happy, just to be in the relationship, and then later complain about it. If smoking is truly a real bother for you then it is my opinion not to go too deep with someone who does smoke, even if you like him very much. I have friends who smoke, and the fact of the matter is I can’t hang with them for long because of it. Still friends. Good friends. But just can’t hang.

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