Gentle Reminder: We tell it to you straight.

In lieu of the scheduled Question/Answer session, we decided to change things up and talk about something that's been on our minds lately…..The Gentle Reminder.

We'll continue our weekly Question/Answer next week. If you'd like to submit a serious or not so serious relationship question for THE GUYS to take a crack at, please leave us a comment or email us at: (We always change the names for anonymity.) Your question could be about dating, marriage, kids, or even a general question for THE GUYS about guys. So please don't be shy!!

Now to our topic!

The Gentle Reminder

We receive Gentle Reminders in our electronic mailboxes all the time. They come for a variety of reasons; reminding us about a social event, a school activity, a game, a doctor's appointment, you name it! They are very friendly and cordial and seemingly innocuous. But are they really?

And so what is a Gentle Reminder?

Here's what we know:

1. They are never the first reminder. Bulletins, Posts, Memos, Save the Dates, Syllabi and Schedules carry that distinction.

2. They come anywhere from a week to a day before the actual date or cut off point for the event or sign up.

3. They are usually quick summaries often urging us to read an earlier correspondence.

4. They encourage us to take action.

5. They are written very politely.

An Example:

Hi Guys,
This is a Gentle Reminder that the last day to sign up for the Sewing Circle is tomorrow. Please feel free to use the attached form and fax it to us. Or you can call us at: (phone number) to sign up.

Please see previous email for more details concerning the Sewing Circle, including contact info for facilitator, "James B." He will be able to answer any specific questions you might have.

We hope to see all of you next week, so don't forget to sign up by tomorrow.

Thanks so much.
Sewing Circle Clubs of America

OK, seemingly innocuous. Friendly, right? So, what's the problem?

The problem is they are anything but friendly. That cheerful tone is often hiding weeks, maybe months of pent up frustration, anger and resentment. So why don't they just come out and say it?

What they really want to say:

We already sent you five emails! What's your problem? What, you're too lazy to get off your butt and sign up? It's not like we're solicitors. YOU inquired. YOU asked us to send you literature and registration information and now you don't even have the courtesy to follow through? We're sick of chasing your rude ass around. In fact we don't even want you in our Sewing Circle Club, but since we still desperately need the money we're swallowing our pride and sending you one last note. Our real hope is that you pay us but don't ever show. That way we won't be tempted to slap you silly when we see you.


And if you forgot already, which is quite possible. 


Use the attached form and fax it to us. And if you can't handle that, just call "James B." and he'll deal with you.

Oh, and have a nice day.

The Sewing Circle Clubs of America

Sure, that might not be as pleasant, but at least it's honest right? Which is something we all need to be more often, don't you think?

We know most people in the "Community" work long and hard to make their Blogs interesting and attractive so people will come and join their conversations.

So to stick with this theme, here's our Gentle Reminder about tomorrow's extra special post on "The Kiss."

Dear Friends,
Tomorrow's post is going to kick butt! It's all about "The Kiss." And who doesn't like talking about that? So come read it!!

We'll be joined by some very talented people from the Blogging Community, who will also be giving their own take on "The Kiss." We're honored to have them.

So save the date, mark your calendars, use post it notes, do whatever it takes to remind yourself to come tomorrow.

And of course, don't just come and read, but leave us a comment. We may even include your comment in a follow up post next week.

And of course, thanks for reading!


ps. That was pleasant enough wasn't it? See ya tomorrow!!

6 Comments on Gentle Reminder: We tell it to you straight.

  1. Will be coming back to check out the kiss…..

  2. I’ll definitely be back tomorrow to see what you guys have to say about “The Kiss”. This should be HOTT!!

  3. Your so awesome….say it as it is…

  4. LOL! Sad, but true.

  5. It’s good to see you again Cynthia.

  6. Thanks for the laugh! Love the ‘what they really want to say’ sewing circle thing. I’ll definitely be back for more as often as I have time for. You have a delightful blog. Can I add you to my blogroll?

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